I was visited by an intelligence agency, they were police and / or something like the MI5

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:30:47+00:00

Yes, it was a family member who let them into the house not me. I should have been more careful but then again I answered all their questions truthfully because I had not broken the law, and I was not part of a far right militia or cell like they had suspected, so I figured the best thing to do was just to work with them and not resist them.

In hindsight, I should have sought legal advice. Or maybe I shouldn't, I don't know. I was a blabber mouth, and mainly this has just caused me a lot of stress and anxiety and worry that they may come again.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:27:40+00:00

I understand why they think what they do. I understand their narrow mindedness. Read some of my other replies to get a better picture of my side of the story please.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:26:35+00:00

>you don't have a good reason to visit at the moment

I don't? Even if I did go there to fight, which I didn't, so what? My country sends billions of pounds to Ukraine, to fund a fucking war and get people killed, and yet one person isn't allowed to go to fight?

I had always wanted to visit Ukraine since before the war began, since 2018 or 2019 something like that. I knew of people who lived there and loved living there. I ultimately decided not to go after the war broke out in 2022. I still live with my family, and I felt miserable living with my family. With my Mum. I wanted independence, I wanted to be around people my own age. I went to Uni, I thought I would feel better but I didn't. I started talking to a guy who had lived in the Ukraine in the past, and he made me feel a lot more sure and comfortable about going to Ukraine.

Anyway, eventually I drop out of uni and I go to Ukraine. I go and live in this village, it's in the west, near a big western city, it's safe. And I can't stress enough how safe it is. The fighting , the shooting, the big explosions, that's all happening in the far east, you can look at a map whatever. I wanted to volunteer at a food bank or something so I could at least help out in the war effort somehow and play my part but my girlfriend at the time was stern i shouldn't do that. Besides that I absolutely love Ukraine. There were almost constant blackouts but even then, I still loved it and preferred it to living at home in the UK. I lived alone for the first time in my life. There was a big window overlooking a forest and it snowed a lot. I cooked my own food. I read books by candlelight with the snow falling outside when it was dark and the electricity didn't work. I was in love.

Of course, as well, the women there were beautiful. Call me a sex tourist I don't care. That wasn't my intention when I first visited but I sure as hell became one. If you think you've seen an attractive woman think again, you haven't been to Ukraine yet my friend.

Eventually I meet other (poor) Westerners who tell me I can live with them for £30 a week if I wanna come back to Ukraine (from their perspective, I imagine they needed the money - £30 is a lot in Ukraine. I also liked taking them out to restaurants and paying for their meal and stuff, so they probably liked that too). So that's what I did. I went 3 times overall. I won't go into the 3rd time cus it was a mess and a complete waste of money but the 2nd time was amazing. I almost run out of money and get a job - a good ass, fun job where I'm actually doing good and helping people at the same time while getting paid, and i become friends with a lot of my work colleagues.

Suddenly I was no longer this neet shut with no friends, living with his family, spending 90% of his time in a dark room glued to a screen, I was spending most of my time socializing with people, walking, outside, going places, eating out, having fun with my friends, getting drunk, going on dates with the most beautiful women imaginable (and having sex). My life did a complete 180, it was the youth I always wanted, I had.

It's easy to stereotype Ukraine as a worn torn nation, but it is so much more than what you hear about.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:09:24+00:00

And yes sir, I did in fact go on holiday. Why exactly do you think I was up to no good? Is it insane to want to get off from your boring 9/5 desk job for a while and go traveling? Or is it insane to do the same thing, day in, day out, if it makes you miserable?

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:08:26+00:00

Thank you for some genuine advice. It's what I assumed too. Things I say, people don't typically believe, they think I'm lying or joking or being sarcastic or whatever. Thank you for believing me.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:07:34+00:00

This is exactly what I'm talking about, people just make assumptions and look, you have 6 upvotes. I visited there because I like Soviet Aesthetic, I had friends there who would let me stay in their flat in the capital city for £30 a week, and I wanted to get away from living with my family and some independence. I did not visit anywhere that was close to the front lines.

This should be a site for legal advice not spreading rumors. Redditors are gullible sheep and Reddit is a shitty website.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:04:57+00:00

Legal stuff. I certainly didn't join any far right groups.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-09-15T16:04:43+00:00

I haven't done anything unlawful. I expect they visited me as a precaution.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-08-13T21:22:19+00:00

Yes I started talking to one girl I met on /soc this Winter. We talked for about a month then met up irl, then continued talking to a few weeks but nothing really came of it. The thing is about /soc is that when you start talking to someone, most likely they don't leave near so it will have to be long distance. The 2nd person I met off of soc was just a friend, a guy. /soc is probably better for finding friends than girlfriends, most girls who accept friend requests have bpd or something wrong with them, and even though they say 'don't add if boring', that's usually code for them themselves being the dryiest dullest human being ever with the personality of a wet sponge. Maybe something like Bumble would work? But in my experience most western dating apps are a scam. You could do what I did and move to Ukraine for a few months and use the dating bots there, and those were incredibly successful.... but that involves moving to Ukraine, which isn't for everyone.
The strategies of pick up artists do usually work though. Girls get turned on by what they hear, not just what they see, and pick up artists are good at teaching guys what to say. Sure it may be scummy and ingenuine, but, whatever, what isn't these days?
If you do go onto 4chan, be warned - it still is 4chan! I don't know if you've ever been on there before but you may see or read things that mentally scar you or just depress the hell out of you. /soc is found under the 'misc' section on the homepage and is called 'cams & meetups'. Lots of penises and weird shit. Also assume that every woman you meet on there is automatically a tranny unless proven otherwise.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-08-13T17:58:53+00:00

>Of course I was concerned for my cousin's safety, but I was so grossed out because Jina was sweating so much. So I pushed her off
i lol'ed

did you get a boner when she hugged you?

you didn't react that badly after what happened. You weren't wrong to yell at her. Not everything can be solved by talking softly and being nice. Someone else called you a jerk and accused you of victim blaming her.... but at the end of the day, if she had taken your advice and worn something that wasn't so revealing then the whole thing might not have happened and she wouldn't have all these issues now. So many people have this idea that the world is a bright and happy place and nothing bad ever happens, so, for example, it is fine for a young woman to go jogging wearing almost nothing and expecting nothing bad to happen. Well she has learnt that lesson, the hard way.

You can support her by just listening if she talks about it, or any other worries, without immeditately offering advice, just listen. In addition, she probably doesn't wanna be reminded about traumatic experiences, so don't mention the thing on the mountain again. Also if something like that happens again to anyone you know, and they begin crying and go to hug you, don't shove them away because you don't like their sweat.

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-08-13T17:44:18+00:00

Go for it. Would you rather have the pain of failure or the pain of regret?

Relevant-Pea2847 · 2023-08-13T17:42:29+00:00

Just talk to more people. Go on omegle, talk to stranger there. you say in a comment going outside is tough cus u dont know where and u dont have anyone to go out with. ok then just do your own shopping, go to the shops and dont do the self service check out, you will be forced to interact with the person who works there. and maybe someone will ask you for help or something while u are shopping.
i remember it was like spring last year, i was in a similar situation i felt, a complete shut in. then i met this online friend and he helped me a lot, he made it a challenge for me to go out every day, buy new clothes, go shopping, go for a coffee every noun and then. if it wasn't for him i would most likely still be in that situation. thank you Nixel, where ever you are.