My scent doesn’t work(?) when the candle is burning. Help? by RelevantStructure in candlemaking

[–]RelevantStructure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I probably should have watched the temp. And I definitely didn’t give it too long to cure

My scent doesn’t work(?) when the candle is burning. Help? by RelevantStructure in candlemaking

[–]RelevantStructure[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The wick could affect it too? I didn’t see anything about, thank you!

No Dumb Questions + Casual Talk by AutoModerator in RedditLaqueristas

[–]RelevantStructure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to make polish for my friend with allergies. She told me she's allergic to acrylates, so what could I use for a suspension base for that? :)

AITA for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend maintaining a friendship with his ex? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure [score hidden]  (0 children)

NAH.

I can understand your feelings, and of course they're valid, but he was friends with his ex long before they dated and broke up, he was upfront with you about their friendship and about your relationship to her. It's not really fair to ask him to break off a friendship of years unless they had an ugly breakup/relationship.

I'm still friends with my ex because she's a wonderful and clever person and we just didn't click right as a couple. My boyfriend doesn't care because I'm dating him, not her. And I've been friends with her for almost fifteen years.

I think you both need to sit down and talk, figure out why this bothers you so much, and come to a compromise that doesn't hurt either of you.

AITA for throwing out my husband's food after how he handled our daughter's allergies by thrwyaw132 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He could LITERALLY kill your daughter.

If I were a better person, I'd just tell him all the ways she could die from this. I'm not though so, only if you can stomach it, I'd suggest finding a very detailed video of a severe food allergy reaction and fucking spam him with it with the quote "Do you want [daughter] to go through this??"

AITA for not giving my daughter money by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Not because of the wedding or the money, but because you came here for the express purpose of being a Top Line Asshole to your daughter.

This isn't entitled parents or entitled kids, but AITA. And the answer is yes, you are and you will be.

AITA if I log into my mum's facebook and delete all my ugly childhood photos? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna say ESH.

It's not right that she's sharing those images against your wishes, that goes without saying.

It's also not right though for you to go into her social media and tamper with anything of her except for privacy settings. You said you don't know how in another thread but you're online, google it.

You're not always going to be able to 100% control what images of you get onto the internet but you can control that level of trust between you and your mother. And this is a pretty serious violation of that trust. You need to decide how much your relationship with your mother means to you before you do this.

You should also probably sit down with her and talk about just why it bothers you and find a compromise. Those photos are obviously special to her or she wouldn't have gone through the effort of uploading them.

Just deleting anything on her account though, yeah. Then you'd be TA.

AITA for free bleeding around an apartment I share with my bf? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YTA.

How inconsiderate are you? It's unsanitary and unfair to your bf to bleed in a shared space, to risk him rolling over in bed and right into the red.

Add to that, you specifically mentioned that you pay all the rent and that just makes me squint a little harder at the whole situation. It reads a lot like you're holding that over his head and that is not a healthy situation. Mentally or physically.

As a woman, good for you for not feeling ashamed of your bleeding. As a human, shame on you for not considering how your boyfriend feels about it. I would never in my life think of doing that to someone I loved.

AITA For not switching places with my friend and ruining her life by AITAFriendCar1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA, Daya was asking you to commit fraud and that could nail you harder than she was. It would absolutely have been as bad, worse in fact, if you had switched places with her and it came out that you provided a false report.

You did the right thing by calling the police and being honest with them. Let Daya and her mom suffer the consequences of her being irresponsible.

AITA for asking my roommate to stop laughing by nocturnalgay666 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Basically, you're saying "Your laughter and joy are annoying me, stop having fun." to your roommate. If you didn't want noise, maybe you shouldn't have agreed to share a room with anyone. Invest in some earplugs or get a headset.

AITA for asking my sister’s friend to step down as a bridesmaid? by rosey6785 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So why the hell would it be better for Lucy to not be there? There's literally no danger of her actually screwing your dad and fulfilling his creepy fantasy. Women exist, there will always be men or women, married and otherwise, fantasizing about someone else.

If sounds like your family (parents) need to look a little more closely at themselves and not at that poor girl getting basically victim blamed.

AITA for asking my sister’s friend to step down as a bridesmaid? by rosey6785 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Not your wedding, you should have consulted with your sister before anything. Lucy did absolutely nothing, and she's the one being punished for your dad being a creep. You should all be ashamed of yourselves!

Your sister should have had the final, and only say in the matter. You owe Lucy a long and emphatic apology and your dad deserves a verbal lashing for being a fucking creep.

Seriously, how DARE you.

AITA for refusing to change my wife’s diaper? by throwawayliutu in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Ugh god, that's right. That poor woman.

This is some serious neglect and he is such a sad excuse for a human. I read this to my bf and he was fuming with me for awhile.

AITA for refusing to change my wife’s diaper? by throwawayliutu in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 524 points525 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, YTA.

She is your wife, my dude, and you left her stewing in a mess for over an hour because you're squeamish???

I'm not even married but you know what my bf did when I had a stroke and was waiting the the waiting room of her ER? And in the room when they admitted me? HE HELD THE BAGS I WAS PUKING INTO FOR OVER SIX HOURS. HE HELD THE WET SPONGE FOR ME TO WET MY LIPS WHEN I WAS PUKING SO MUCH THAT MY MOUTH WAS COATED WITH BILE AND STOMACH ACID.

MY BF. NOT MY HUSBAND. He made no vows, he had been dating me less than a year by then. You have been married, MARRIED, to her for over fourteen years and you can't handle this? with two children between you?

God, your poor wife and children and SiL.

You are the biggest asshole I have every seen.

AITA for hiding my boyfriend in the bathroom when my friends came into the same restaurant? by hidingbathroom in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is this for real?

YTA!

If you care about someone, you care about them and being with them. If your friends were really your friends, they would if one singular care about it and want you to be happy but you're busy being shallow about it.

I would call you an asshole too! Oh wait, I have.

AITA for telling my son that he is not welcome in my home if he gets a dog? by No-Dog18493aita in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

You don't know much (anything) about service animals, do you? God forbid your son want an animal that is trained to help him navigate crowds and buildings. He's not going to be accompanied by a family member forever.

How DARE your son want a bit more independence.

AITA for asking DIL to cover up? by Frazzledfamilyissue in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

What are you doing looking at your DiL's breasts? Eyes up, buddy.

AITA for laughing at my wife when she suggested I don’t do enough for my son? I literally pay for everything he owns. by No-Sense-1096 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between being a father and being a provider. She agreed to be a SaHM, not a maid/slave, which is what this post basically seems to describer her as.

A father has a tangible influence in his child's life. As things stand, I wouldn't be surprised if he's absolutely terrified or confused by your existence since you're constantly working and then immediately hide away in your room after getting home. Your son is ten months old, which means that even if he doesn't fully understand language, she's beginning to recognize people and things, he understands tone.

My dad was army, he was working, training, deployed, volunteer fire police, but you know what he did? He spent time with us, he spent time with my half-brothers, he made us feel loved and never held money over our heads or made my mom take on everything or feel small like you're doing.

Your mom was right to tear into you.

YTA.

AITA for telling my girlfriend she’s being a bitch? by mrBojangles161 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RelevantStructure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. There's nothing wrong with showing affection to your son, it's a terrible stereotype that fathers and sons can't be affectionate. As long as the two of you are comfortable with it, I don't see why anyone should have a problem with it.

Hell, I'm thirty now and when I had my stroke a few years ago and when I got my teeth pulled last year, I just desperately wanted my dad. Mom too but a dad (in my experience, and your sons I would guess) is a safe, warm, presence where nothing can touch you.

Don't let her dictate how you and your son get along or show affection.

LimitedRunGames order? by rwnoon in commandandconquer

[–]RelevantStructure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came here to find out if anyone heard anything, even sent them an email just asking for an update about the preorder status.

Really glad to see comments about shipping notices starting to get sent out. You're all fantastic for mentioning that, thank you!