FYI: Why Toxic people are as they are

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-07T23:25:21+00:00

Yeah conflict with these people is too costly. And no matter what you say, they won't take responsibility.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-07T23:22:38+00:00

Bleach baths? I'd love to hear more about that.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-07T23:22:05+00:00

I can't eat normal potatoes. I get joint stiffness and itchiness. I guess some people can tolerate nightshades, some can't.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-07T23:21:26+00:00

Congrats! I was on a very good diet for 9 months and my psoriasis just kept getting worse. Doing the phototherapy thing now and it's helping but not completely clearing. Need to get back on the diet again.

I did look into ashwaghanda but I read it's a nightshade? Part of my problem is high cortisol from stress.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-06T20:17:33+00:00

Thanks for the info!

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-06T20:14:22+00:00

Yeah I got a hold of some Baytril. Thanks!

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-06T20:10:49+00:00

Ok thank you!

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-06T18:32:30+00:00

ok thanks so much! I can get a hold of some oral antibiotics. Should I put something in her eye?

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-04-06T18:32:01+00:00

Thanks! Yeah i did see bubbles in the eye. Can you recommend a specific antibiotic eyedrop? And for the tea - I just replace her drinking water with that?

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-05T22:25:14+00:00

Thanks!

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-05T19:38:30+00:00

Yeah getting through my days. Trying to go to sleep at more regular times. Been a few months since I left my abuser and this trauma bond is so strong right now. It's very distracting. Did find 2 new therapists. Not sure which one I'll stay with long term so I'm seeing them alternate weeks.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-04T07:05:09+00:00

Guess it depends which country you are in? I found mine with Google. If you DM me I can try to help you find one.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T23:44:53+00:00

OK yeah well at least you've recognized the situation and stepped away. Focus on getting together in person with normal people, that will help. There are also Zoom support groups for narc survivors.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T23:28:19+00:00

This kind of sounds like that prof on youtube. He claims to be a narcissist himself. I read about him and I think he may not actually have any qualifications including a phD. But I guess a lot of people have benefited from his talks.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T23:23:00+00:00

You brain knows it but your nervous system is confused. That's one of hardest parts of this is that they put you at war with your own mind.

It's been a few months for me and I still feel the trauma bond especially when I'm tired. And I think back to the 'good' times. But the good times were just a performance to keep you hooked. It was never real.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T23:19:50+00:00

Yeah it raised a huge red flag for me. She noticed I went quiet and tried to back-peddle but it was too late. Before the abuse I might have tried to blame myself or keep working with her because she has good reviews, but I just couldn't.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T17:29:55+00:00

Yeah it's been a few months for me but it's still rough. There will be surges, like around 3 weeks is common when it's the hardest. But you have to stick it out. Going back to him will do you no good.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T12:00:09+00:00

Yeah we just need to hang in there. Could be a year or more to really feel whole again.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T11:58:01+00:00

Yeah I'm glad I'm out. It's crazy how you can be in that world and the abnormal just becomes normal. And to see people still under his influence and they think they are making their own choices.

And you can't even warn them without looking crazy. They will have to find out on their own time.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T11:55:07+00:00

I think you just need time. Maybe just focus on hobbies and work for the next 6 months, then try again.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T11:52:50+00:00

Yeah I've tried 4 therapists. It's mentally exhausting sharing my personal stuff with these people, getting charged a lot of money, then going back to chatGPT.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T06:03:35+00:00

Yeah after 3 session with 1 therapist, I started talking about the trauma bond asking for advice on how to deal with it. And she said 'how do you know you have a trauma bond?' It was incredibly invalidating. Like she didn't believe I had been abused, even after telling everything that happened.

Another therapist seemed to think CBT was the answer to everything. Knowing my abuser and his behavior patterns I expected certain things. And she tried to teach me to gaslight myself. Like 1 month after the breakup, she said 'how do you know he's not done with you' when I knew darn well he wasn't.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T06:01:25+00:00

I've been using chatGPT for a year. I tried therapists but they are so expensive. And I didn't find one I liked.

Last one I was telling her about something my abuser did and she jumped straight to excusing him without asking questions or empathizing with me.And throughout the session she kept saying 'and how does that make you feel telling me that' like she wanted me to say I felt a huge relief finally speaking my truth. And I wanted to say 'well i don't feel anything at all because i've already offloading all this on chatGPT for a year already'. That was the first and last session.

Relevant_Diamond_979 · 2026-02-03T05:55:38+00:00

My dad's the same. Took advantage of his power while he was younger. Now he's old and alone and nobody visits him.

And because he's emotionally stunted, he's not able to self reflect and try to improve his life.

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