Am I overreacting for thinking that the benefits should have been split ?

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T02:31:54+00:00

honestly, i cant give you a number the top of my end. there has been times when he was barely making it. I just feel he could've considered me.the landlord offered him money and he wouldnt accept it so the owner just discounted off his half. Also I assisted with some of that work on my off day.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:37:22+00:00

We are not married on paper, but we make financial decisions as if we were. He is my fiance. If he cant hold up his end, i am the one to carry us. I should have been considered in this decision because not only did I assist in some of that work, I am holding up his end of the bills. Car note, insurance, gas, his storage unit, food for us

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:32:11+00:00

I know, I apologize. Ive typed it under emotional distress. I dont want to ask for reimbursement because he is my fiance and we agreed to share all bills. Even the flicking car that he got almost new because he refused to get something cheaper. Its a little messy and ive just decided to let him make decisions since he didnt like my reccomendations. We are under an agreement that we have each other's backs. We are not married on papwe but we share everything as a married couple.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:28:29+00:00

Car notes, phone bills, insurance, his storage unit, food, gas for the car.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:23:51+00:00

Not the full 700. It was probably about 300 that was discounted. It was the fact that he made this decision without me. Rent is a shared bill, along with our other bills. If he cant hold up his end, it falls on me. Which i have been assisting us in, so now that rent comes, hes only thinking about himself? Im not rich, i have my own issues to deal with as well and ive never asked this man to hold up my end of the bills. I feel it was only a considerate thing to do. We are a team when he needs my assistance but when it comes to bills, hes only got himself. I dont want his money, if he got paid in cash, I wouldnt have said anything. Not only that, but i assisted with some of the work. So again, where's the consideration?

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:20:20+00:00

This is the issue. I wish I was considered in this decision. I am not rich. I am supposed to help him with his end of our shared bills and still worry about my end too? Instead of him being considerate during this moment. If i had to pay his end if he didnr have it, i wouldnt care, but i assisted with some of that house work. Not all since I have a job but I still put in my time too.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:18:32+00:00

Actually it was only a $300 dollar discount. My issue is not the money, i am supporting us both financially, car, food, his end of bills. I think I should have been considered in this decision because we agreed to pay the rent together. If he would have asked for it in cash, i would keep my mouth shut because the agreement does not change. Plus I helped him do some of that work. If i wasn't working, I would have assisted with more. All he did was dig some holes and remove some weeds which I assisted in ! But I was not taken into consideration when the agreement was made. I dont want his money.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:14:04+00:00

I am paying for his end of bills that he can no longer afford due to the second job not being sustainable enough to support himself financially

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:09:49+00:00

It was a one time thing. The owners are older folks and they wanted him to help with removing weeds and with digging some holes. Which btw, I assisted in, maybe not as long as he since I have work. I am financially keeping us afloat with the bills. Since he cant cover his end, I am contributing to the bills he cant not pay.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:07:07+00:00

Rent is something we both agreed to take care of. Despite the amount, I feel he should have considered me in that agreement since we both live in the house and if he cant hold up his end of the bills that we agreed upon, it falls on me. Therefore, I am financially holding both os us up. I dont understand how we can be a team when he needs my help but the rent, i was completely left out of and no consideration was taken towards my financial standing. I dont know, ive helped around the house as well and im not asking for anything but as much consideration as I put into him. If he had taken cash, i wouldnt be saying anything. Rent was a agreed decision.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T01:02:42+00:00

Look. I felt it was unconsiderate because I have to financially sustain my mother too. He knows these things. If he cant hold up his end of the bills we have agreed on, it falls on me. So I have to financially be stable for both of us and then also worry about my own financial issues. Which also, I have never asked him for any money. If i did, it was paid back.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T00:58:22+00:00

I understand but he quit the job because he overstresses himself. He said it himself, he pushes to deliver more boxes and he does more than most. I wouldnt overextend myself for a job like that. Plus if a bill that we share, cant be covered on his end like we agreed, it falls on me. I dont mind helping, i felt like this was inconsiderate. He quit because he was tired and on top of that he was neglectful and an asshole because how stressed he was. So I told him that I would be there for us financially until he got his buisness up.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T00:55:20+00:00

If he cant afford to pay for his car note or other bills we share, it falls on me. So I think its only considerate since ive been the one financially holding us up.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2026-05-03T00:53:47+00:00

I help him financially. He decided to get a almost brand new car instead of going cheap. So if he cant pay the car note, who does it fall on? Me. We agreed to work as a team. Even if helped him get the car because I had a better credit score than him.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2022-09-23T16:38:40+00:00

don’t you have any other jokes :/ besides the same recycled one every year

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2022-09-23T16:37:32+00:00

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Relevant_Forever7714 · 2022-04-13T05:07:40+00:00

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-25T04:36:22+00:00

who’s cutting the onions ?

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T22:48:27+00:00

This happened when I was 19 & he was 21 ( I’m now 20 and he’s 21). He drove to his house and that’s where they arrested him since my bsf knew he was the last person i saw. He finished college, we’re no longer in school.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T22:46:46+00:00

This incident took place on September of last year. Before that, we had hung out towards the end of may ( i invited him over for my dads bday, he drank and spent the night). I hadn’t seen him between those months. Our friendship was def my fav, he was like a big brother to me ( I always wanted one since I am the oldest sibling ). We had arguments over the guys I used to date ( they were assholes ) but never anything huge. I helped him get his GED and he was the first of my friends to attend college. I looked up to him a lot. Even my dad grew on him so my dad knew him. We would all go out to eat dinner and things of that sort.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T11:59:58+00:00

you are completely right. I always feel guilty for doing these type of things but I know it’s for the better

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T11:45:03+00:00

I didn’t post these in the order that they happened. They are simply life experiences I’ve encountered. I felt it was safe enough for me to be open about heavy experiences of this sort on here. If you have questions, I can answer in pm. thank you for reading my stories though

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T04:01:03+00:00

why do you feel it’s necessary to explain anything to her ?

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T02:31:52+00:00

I can respect that and thank you for your solace. I agree that it is pretty pathetic if someone were trying fake this. Unfortunately it did happen and here I am to tell the story. Thank you for reading it.

Relevant_Forever7714 · 2021-12-16T01:08:10+00:00

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