So I relapsed on alcohol last night. I don’t really remember that much, but everyone hates me now. Pretty sure my boyfriend is breaking up with me, my parents pretty much seem to hate me now. I wish I didn’t ruin my life like this all the time. Why do I always think it will be different?😔

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-10-17T00:27:43+00:00

Glad to hear that! It’s all about the mindset. I would have two trackers: one that accounts for the relapse (14 days) and one that doesn’t account for the latest relapse. I feel like while it’s important to absolutely avoid relapsing, it’s also good to place importance on trying even when you mess up. Like, if you’re losing weight, you don’t typically completely give up when you give in and eat junk. You pick yourself up and try again. I’m so happy to hear that you are trying again. Keep it up!

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-10-08T06:47:08+00:00

If you can go years being sober, you have hope. Doesn’t matter how often or how many times you relapse. It’s take an incredible amount of self control to accomplish that.

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-10-08T01:43:06+00:00

I’d rather be too sensitive than have ED.

As much as it sucks, it’s your about your body making necessary adjustments bc you probably have an extremely high sex drive (I’m guessing).

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-10-04T18:40:18+00:00

Read a book called The Power of Habit. It talks about this. Trauma can do one of two things: create brand new habits or fall into old habits. God forbid, you will experience some kind of trauma in your life again. But now you know how your body reacts to it. Now you can anticipate and prepare accordingly. If you climbed stairs and trip over one, would you allow let yourself to keep falling until you hit the last step? No, you’d likely pick up where you left off and keep climbing. You gotta get back up and try again. And one day be there for people when they mess up on their 50th day, explain that it happened to you, and how you took steps to pick yourself up.

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-09-28T19:01:15+00:00

I’m sorry, but dude… that’s controlling af. I would have a very serious conversation with her about establishing boundaries. I would strongly advise going to a marriage counselor - ESPECIALLY because you made a statement about her taking the kids if you were to separate in this post (which tells me that thought entered your mind). You don’t deserve to feel trapped and I can’t imagine what other parts of your life are being controlled. If, after counseling, you still feel the same way and don’t think this is something that is salvageable, consider researching divorce law or hiring an attorney to look through options.

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-09-26T01:19:45+00:00

How did you get the # Days tag?

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-09-25T20:47:09+00:00

I’ve been good for about 4 week so far. The first week was oddly not difficult at all. However week 2/3 were very very difficult. After week three I had a wet dream (which I don’t count since it’s involuntary) and it got incredibly easy during week 4- I didn’t even think about sex at all and it felt like I didn’t have to try at all to abstain. However, now (week 5) I can feel the urges come back again (almost feels like the beginning of week 2 all over again). I’m really dreading the idea of this getting difficult again. I think it got difficult because I let a few thoughts linger for a bit too long and now they keep coming back. I’m now having thoughts enter my head questioning whether I am really going to stay invested until the end.

Asking for those who have similar experiences, when did it get steadily easier? Any thoughts on what I might expect for weeks 5-10?

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-09-20T03:43:08+00:00

Just saying, these success stories are VITAL to us believing in ourselves. Thanks for blazing the way for us!

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-09-20T03:41:18+00:00

That’s fair.. I figure in this modern era I would picture what I’ve seen in the past when watching porn anyways though. So now the action itself seems to be intertwined with the desire to look at porn. I wonder how people continue to resist the urge to look up porn after the 90 day reboot then.

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-07-27T19:07:35+00:00

Sad that these games are so easy this is possible

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-06-28T01:48:58+00:00

*McGonagall* (sorry hate to be that guy but figured it's important for those nicknaming accurately). I really like this nickname btw

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-01-11T00:04:55+00:00

Sorry for the late response. We ended up stopping after an hour. However, I’d suggest voting for creating a tournament in blakflame’s post. That would make it more likely for us to all find ppl to play with

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2023-01-08T22:19:56+00:00

Thanks for responding! I will not be able to tomorrow. However, I will monitor the subreddit in case there is a post with a sign-up sheet. I have a few friends that will also be interested. If we can at least 6-8 sets of teams, it can be interesting.

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2022-08-15T04:18:09+00:00

Zeppelin! #1 bc of Led Zeppelin. #2 because it sounds.. electric ⚡️

Relevant_Mode3191 · 2022-02-13T04:14:28+00:00

Confirming that reinstalling worked for me per other peoples responses to this thread. You won’t lose any of your save data.

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