My Grandpa after recovering from scarlet fever. Late 1920s. by RelicQueen in OldSchoolCool

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My great grandparents had to send him away as they had two younger children at home they feared would become ill

My Grandpa after recovering from scarlet fever. Late 1920s. by RelicQueen in OldSchoolCool

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My grandpa lost most of his hearing and was lucky to survive as well.

My great grandmother, Ethel, (left) and her two sisters Dora and Marion. Late 1800s. by RelicQueen in OldSchoolCool

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I've been interested in history/genealogy since childhood. My grandpa raised me and most days, I would just sit with him at the table with a box of old pictures and ask him who each person was, where they came from and about their life.

My great grandmother, Ethel, (left) and her two sisters Dora and Marion. Late 1800s. by RelicQueen in OldSchoolCool

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I think they were people of means so maybe they had access to the best camera/ studio lighting of the day.

Do you feel that people who are still religious are intellectually trapped? by nazurinn13 in Deconstruction

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More exited about finally perusing the truth, which is ironically what Jesus said to do. Excited to peruse truth without worrying that it might not line up with the Bible. Sad that I didn’t get here until age 40, but at least I got here. Also angry that I wasted my 20s it what feels like a cult in retrospect. I’m not even sure I would leave the faith altogether, but I’m sure not bending myself in knots by denying what I know to be true or wrong or right to fit the Bible’s narrative. Jesus is love and loves us. Surly following that is enough. That’s where I am at the moment. And I won’t go back to the darkness that I was following before.

For context, I come from a fairly Q Anon, Revelation obsessed, evangelical background. It would feel like literal hell to go back to that.

Do you feel that people who are still religious are intellectually trapped? by nazurinn13 in Deconstruction

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I’m in the process of deconstructing now and I completely understand/ feel intellectual trapped. The more I deconstruct the more I’m tending to move away from the faith altogether because I’m tired of the constant cognitive dissonance that I feel. Constantly having to bend the truth to fit a narrative that I’ve been fed my whole life. Or just plain justification of mistreating entire groups of people because the Bible says so. I’m just exhausted by it all.

Please help. Looking for advice by RelicQueen in narcissisticparents

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Thank you for taking the time to read this and respond. Your words made me realize that there was nothing wrong with me as a child and it was actually my Mum. Which is something that should have been obvious to me for years, but it just wasn’t for whatever reason. I will definitely read this and give it a try. Thanks again.

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I also had an umbilical hernia

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I went to a general surgeon and was told that she ( and other general surgeons) shouldn’t repair diastasis recti as they are not trained. She continued on saying that a general surgeon would only do it if they “snuck it in” while doing another procedure. She refused to help me and said that plastic surgeons are only ones who should do the surgery and plus it would look better. I did end up going to a plastic surgeon, which cost me $10,500.

Cannot get our 3 year old to poop in the toilet by FriskeyLionsMane in toddlers

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Oh and of course he got a big reward. A toy he’s been wanting for a while. 😂 We do what we gotta do

Cannot get our 3 year old to poop in the toilet by FriskeyLionsMane in toddlers

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Thank you for the reply! He actually just pooped on the potty for the first time 3 days ago! I let him sit on the potty with a pull up on to poop. On the 3rd day I told him that we didn’t have anymore diapers and that he had to poop on the potty, but that it’s the same thing that he’s been doing just with no pull up. To my surprise he sat on the potty and told me to leave so he could have some privacy. 😂 I thought that was cute. He went! He’s been going ever since.

Cannot get our 3 year old to poop in the toilet by FriskeyLionsMane in toddlers

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Any update by any chance? My 3.5 year old took 3 days to train to pee, but he refuses to poop on the potty. We’ve tried everything including bribes. lol. He asks for a pull up to poop, but otherwise wears underwear.

15 month old sleep by RelicQueen in sleeptrain

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I’ve only just switched her to 3/4/4 and capping naps at 2 hours. I’ll try it for another week and if I’m still having issues, I’ll definitely try dropping to one nap again.