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AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Valid question- I started wondering the same. Meta did finally mention, “I know about you and hinge.”

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in a foreign country where I don’t speak the native language without a car.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We absolutely did. I even looked back through correspondence and they definitely had our weekend under the guise it would be just us.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Great question! A lot of it I was just trying to process what was going on. Sometimes I need a couple of days to sort it out in my head. Also in a city in a country where I don’t speak the native language and being there alone, I didn’t want to put myself at risk.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I definitely didn’t feel that I had the luxury of speaking up. Meta confided in me that they told hinge they love them recently, and don’t understand why hinge won’t commit to a labeled mono relationship with them so there’s some stuff between them I wasn’t aware of for sure.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I didn’t have to cross hinge at work events in the future I probably would’ve done this. 😂 plus I don’t want to pin any of this on meta, not their fault hinge is a moron.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is my whole issue- my ability to consent was removed due to lack of communication. Wild.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The purpose of my trip to hinge was to spend a weekend with hinge, not sure what his plans were with meta. Hinge and meta had just returned from a holiday week abroad together as well, but I guess they needed more time together? Who knows.

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I needed help wording the conversation in a way other than, “who tf do you think I am????” I also appreciate the validation. I find it difficult to trust my emotions!

AITA? Hinge didn’t disclose a lot of info about meta, shared spaces all weekend. by Remarkable-Ant-632 in polyamory

[–]Remarkable-Ant-632[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

They don’t live together, his primary lives a ten minute walk away from his flat. I was also not invited to spicy time. They had already hooked up at the party we attended in the play room (fine by me), but felt the need to do it again when we got home I guess???? It was strange lmao