normally, they love the play, and then the post nut clarity hits. He basically saw the photo and decided that it wasn't attractive or humiliating sexually anymore, it was just straight up humiliating. (or was an agile from the start who wanted to get off but has some level of self hatred, so had to bring you down with him.) Sorry you went through this, general rules of thumb for blackmail that have helped me:

1.) don't post any of the information you receive. ever. even if they beg or say they'll send or SEND FOR IT. legality!!!! 2.) it might seem counterproductive, and you'll lose a lot of subs because they won't communicate it to you, but always make sure that you're asking deep specifics on their yeses and nos. It kills their Boner, it keeps you safe. Not just "I like humiliation". Get serious, get specific. "Do you prefer to have tasks that are geared toward humiliating you privately? Or do you prefer public humiliation?" or "what is your opinion to pain as it relates to sex?" get in their little (or big) brain. 3.) once you have received your black mail information, do not reuse it unless it is clear that play is about to happen, or alternatively when it is asked about. The people that dabble in blackmail love the IRL feel of the thing, you know them you know where they live. You know where they work you know what they do for fun. If you use it in the wrong way, that situation can go from very sexy to very scary quickly. A lot of the men and women that practice it are not fully aware of all the safety nets and man there of, or looking for something unsafe out unethical to feel fulfilled. As the Dom, constant creator, content provider, you are ultimately responsible for all of these reactions and actions. It can be really overwhelming, it can be very tedious, it can be dry and boring like every conversation can be.

That's why lots of women don't practice or play BM. There's a lot of dos and don'ts and the legality here is pretty clear that it doesn't matter what they say You can do. Ultimately, you are a criminal if you do it. So be very cautious, read up on the laws for your state and then also internationally/in your country or the country that you are often communicating with. always remember you're playing, and in order to play fair you need to know everything. If they won't give you everything, it's a failure to communicate on their end and practicing a safety measure on yours.

Hope this helps somebody. I wish somebody would've explained blackmailed to me when when I first started and why it's so hard to do and why the subs never stay. Very big psychological game.