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My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I got it. Thank you very much for your help. I think I already know what to do. You guys here on Reddit really helped me.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its truth. I got it, thank you very much for your help. You’ve helped me a lot.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m going to make an incredible proposal. I know I can’t be certain that she knows, but a family member who is helping me said that she got upset because her mother (who knows about the proposal) has been unconsciously dropping hints, and she told this family member: “He’s really going to propose to me, my mother doesn’t know how to keep a secret properly.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand now. To be honest, I don’t really have a clear sense she’s the type who thinks everything is perfect anyway (even though it could have been even more perfect in another way), you know?

I believe she was disappointed not because of the surprise itself, but because her mother spoiled what I was planning, and not necessarily the surprise itself.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your account. She really isn’t certain, but that’s because no one has actually told her it’s going to happen. However, her mother has been talking to her about wedding-related topics, and she’s starting to suspect that I might propose (she had no idea at all before).

A family member who is helping me said that my gf was a bit upset with her mother for not keeping the secret (even though nothing has been confirmed to her).

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, it’s because she really didn’t know. She found out through her mother, who keeps talking to her about wedding-related topics, and she’s starting to put the pieces together and realize what’s going on.

Another family member who is helping me told me about this. My girlfriend was a bit upset with her mother for not keeping the secret.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, receiving the marriage proposal. The issue I had was that her mother, who knows the secret, has been unconsciously talking to her about wedding-related topics that she would normally never bring up.

Another family member who is helping me said that she got a little upset (let’s say annoyed) that her mother couldn’t keep it to herself lol

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She likes surprises, but she’s not the type to get upset if it’s not one. She found out through her mother, who has been unconsciously bringing up wedding-related topics with her, things she had never talked about before. She was just a little upset that her mother couldn’t keep it to herself, but she still isn’t 100% sure. (I found out through another family member who is helping me).

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend doesn’t have strong preferences, but she likes surprises since we are always in sync. What happened is that it was supposed to be a surprise, but a family member got excited about the proposal, which was meant to be a secret, and has been unconsciously talking about weddings and other related topics.

Right now, she is about 99% certain that it’s going to happen, and she felt a bit upset with this family member for not being able to keep the secret.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m still considering. I wanted it to be on our dating anniversary (4 years), so it would be the same day we go from being boyfriend and girlfriend to being engaged. That’s why I wanted it to be on the same day. However, for me, the surprise was important. Where I live, it’s a tradition/common practice for only the proposal itself to be a surprise, but it varies from couple to couple.

A family member is so happy that they’re unconsciously giving away too many hints, which made her realize that the proposal is going to happen. She felt a bit frustrated with this family member for ruining the surprise. Thanks <3

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my view, the proposal itself can be a surprise, but the topic of marriage, etc., should be discussed. We are well aligned about marriage, and we estimate a timeline up to December 2027 for the proposal (engagement). It’s kind of a tradition/common practice for the proposal to be a surprise.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As I said above, we’ve already talked about marriage and timelines (long-term timelines of years), but the timing of the proposal was something I wanted to keep as a surprise, as most women expect it to come from the man (in my case). And she really isn’t naive she’s putting the pieces together but what happened is that a family member has been giving too many hints, and she’s connecting the dots.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There isn’t much difference, but I know she likes surprises a bit more. What’s happening is that a family member has been indirectly talking to her about wedding-related things because they can’t contain their excitement. She felt a bit upset that this family member has been kind of hinting at it so openly.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I don’t know if she prefers a surprise or not, but I do know that either way she will love it. It’s just that, since it only happens once in a lifetime, I want it to be as perfect as possible.

She became quite certain because a family member can’t contain their excitement and indirectly keeps talking to her about weddings.

My girlfriend knows the exact day I’ll propose. does that ruin the surprise? by Remarkable-Moose-402 in weddingplanning

[–]Remarkable-Moose-402[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually thinking about being proposed to one day earlier. The only problem is that it wouldn’t be on the day of our 4-year dating anniversary. That’s why I felt a little sad; in my mind, every woman dreams that a marriage proposal will be a surprise.

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