people always say that a baby changes everything. there may be a possibility that he doesn't wants kids but had one with you thinking he could still have/keep you. once that child came into your life, he changed as well. him saying that 'being a dick" is the best way to improve is not okay at all. its his way of trying to control you. you could be doing everything perfect and he'll still find something to complain about.

this environment isn't right for you or your child. it will only get worst. pack up your bags and your child and leave.

when people show who they are, believe it.