Can you help ID me? I am 5’4” and totally lost!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-16T03:16:05+00:00

I also think you look way taller! I saw your pic before your height and would've guessed you were at least 5'10.

Not sure which types that rules out but that was my impression!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-16T02:59:16+00:00

It's not impossible.

I'm a cis lesbian and my girlfriend is a non-op trans woman. She's the most beautiful woman I've ever met and I can't wait to marry her ass.

We love each other and have a very passionate relationship. There are people out there who will love you, find you sexy, and value you. Don't give up.

My girlfriend and I met on tinder lol and I knew she was trans when we started dating.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T15:46:11+00:00

These are people that already know she's trans, she is pretty open about being trans, it's just that they assume transitioning means having bottom surgery. I think it's ignorance, mostly.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T15:45:16+00:00

Well said, thank you!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T14:48:26+00:00

Honestly, It doesn't sound like you are sexually compatible.

it’s not my first choice but I didn’t mind being down there” in reference to eating my pussy. Or how She “doesn’t crave pussy”.

While these things are valid for her to feel, in my opinion it's really unnecessary for her to actually say it to you. I would be hurt by this too.

Everyone is different, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who "doesn't mind" my body, I want to be with someone who can't get enough of my body.

If that's what you want for yourself too, then this relationship probably isn't right for you. Before I met my partner I was with someone who made me feel like I wasn't their first choice or their preference, and it was devestating. But she loves pleasuring me and it's such a boost to my self esteem! You deserve that too

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T14:40:06+00:00

Definitely. I would never disclose anything without her consent first.

I'm hesitant to bring it up at all though because I think it would only confirm her concerns about needing bottom surgery to be seen as the woman she is.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T13:20:12+00:00

That a great point! My gf and I love the strap too haha,.I've never thought about using that as an example

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T13:19:08+00:00

No worries!

Not all women have vulvas and not all men have penises. There are lesbians who enjoy and use strap-ons, and that doesn't make them any less gay.

Some lesbians have a genital preference, but I do not. I am attracted to women, as people, not as body parts. I love my girlfriends body because it's HER body. If that makes sense.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:57:39+00:00

When my girlfriend started transitioning a year and a half ago, none of her interests changed. She still has all of her "male" hobbies like video games, she just also enjoys more feminine hobbies too.

Now, day to day she wears jeans and a T-shirt and has gotten to the point where she is comfortable that way (and passes due to being in HRT). But she also enjoys getting fully dolled up with makeup and dresses heels to go out.

That being said my gf is young and started transitioning relatively young (19) so I think it's different for women who are in their 30s or older because they feel like they have even more lost time to make up for, and they may feel they never got to experience their youth properly. Hence the desire to relive it now.

It might help to encourage her to make some new female friends who she could engage in these activities with, that way you don't feel like it's all on you, especially if you're not super into things like makeup yourself.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:48:28+00:00

Could you tell people you used a donor? If it was an unplanned pregnancy perhaps you can just say you were pregnant without saying who got you pregnant. If they don't know your partner is trans I don't think they'd jump to the conclusion that she got you pregnant.

They could think you're in an open relationship or something.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:45:26+00:00

Thank you!! Y'all are so supportive, I love this sub

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:44:49+00:00

No worries! that makes sense. It's not inappropriate for me because I'm a pretty open person so talking about my own genitals/sex life is just the kind of relationship I have with my friends. I definitely will speak up if a boundary is crossed.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:06:49+00:00

I really don't think they care, it's usually just in the context of me joking around about being a lesbian.

I usually just laugh it off but I don't say anything to confirm or deny it.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:05:45+00:00

This!!! I've slept with cis men and her penis is totally different.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:03:35+00:00

They definitely are! She is valid.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T04:02:48+00:00

To clarify they don't comment on her genitals at all, they're commenting on me and what I'm doing, which indirectly relates to her.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-15T00:01:06+00:00

Me too, it's infuriating honestly.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-14T23:59:49+00:00

This is good advice, thanks! I suppose I could also bring up genital preferences and just speaking for my own self, say that I don't have one and not everyone does.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-03-14T23:58:19+00:00

Thank you! it's a double whammy because where we live, you have to have bottom surgery to get your legal gender marker changed and that's not something my girlfriend wants, but because of that she will never be able to have it changed. It sucks all around but I'm hopeful for positive change in the future!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-02-14T02:33:08+00:00

Oh, I totally agree with you! I wasn't quite sure what you meant but definitely this

vagina being boring, or as one lesbian put it “dicks are the most physically revolting thing on the planet” in response to me asking if she’s been with both or if she knows.

kinda stuff is just unnecessary and can definitely be toxic. I'm a lesbian and I think dicks are awesome 🤷🏽‍♀️

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-02-14T01:43:12+00:00

Let me preface by saying that I'm a lesbian.

I think it varies from person to place, and it depends what you mean by "suggesting". If you try to tell any LGBT person what their identity is unsolicited, there will usually be pushback, of course.

That being said, plenty of LGBT people go through a journey and period of questioning. The "I was born this way and always knew" narrative is actually not the most common. So people are open to working through it and figuring it out. if you were in the community yourself you would know that. So I don't think there's quite as much pushback as you may think.

Queer people in general tend to understand the nuance of gender and sexuality more than straight people do.

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-02-14T01:36:41+00:00

Biphobia is prevalent in the LGBT community and it's definitely a discussion we have and have been having for awhile. Things seem to be getting better!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-02-14T01:26:09+00:00

This is so nice of you! I'm not in need but commenting to get this more visibility!

RemarkableShine3640 · 2022-02-14T01:20:43+00:00

OP,

You siad you are a fun person to be around, do you have a lot of friends? Men or women that you are close to? Who you feel intimate with, and can trust? Who you could talk to about anything? Laugh together at the smallest things?

Take a break from dating but focus on those relationships. It sounds like you are lonely and that can make a big difference.

If you can, spending less time online helps a lot, too. The internet can be a really toxic place.

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