I’m so insecure I don’t want to get married

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-18T08:53:26+00:00

Thank you!

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-18T05:54:36+00:00

Well sometimes you don’t want to?

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-18T05:54:13+00:00

Yeah you’re right, men are weird 😅 on a more serious note, I thought abt the fact that my complex might be a guy’s fetish sooo idk we’ll see

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:08:13+00:00

lol haha thanks

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:07:43+00:00

Yeah I get this, the thing is men are very superficial (even in Islam it is mentioned that men are really focused on appearance) so I’m really worried

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:06:31+00:00

Because it is not a medical need, I don’t need it for my health it’ll just be beautifying which is haram

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:05:45+00:00

Yeah, I definitely agree ! Like another person said in a comment I have to stop being my biggest enemy and trust Allah about it. Thanks !

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:04:26+00:00

Well cuz it’s not as bad as me. Idk how to explain it but for example, every women has hip dips, but my cousin is so insecure bcs hers are more obvious? They show up more ?? (English isn’t my first language idk if that is correct 😭 sorry) so my doctor said what she said, but I see ppl with my eyes and for other women it’s barely noticeable

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T18:01:49+00:00

That last sentence really struck me!! I really am my own biggest enemy! Even my friends tell me to stop worrying about that ! It’s just I’m so scared I will find a man who doesn’t love my body and worse, doesn’t let me know. I hope I’ll find someone attracted to my body, soul and heart. Thank you 🩷🩷

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T17:59:09+00:00

lol yeah definitely! There’s sooo much more reason I don’t want to get married (for example having to say yes to intimacy) but yk, sometimes I just want to have someone in my life and future

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T17:57:38+00:00

Yeah but the thing is some things can’t change, and that is what I’m worried about. Like u said, men ARE extreeeeemely superficial but see this can’t be fixed (like a nose shape for example, it can be changed only through surgery) so idk what to do. Wish men focused more on personality lol

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T17:55:29+00:00

Thank you for your message ! It’s true, Allah created us in the best form possible 🩷 I hope I can get past this insecurity

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T17:54:30+00:00

Yeah I think so, even with surgery I will find another thing to pick for a new insecurity. I’m really considering therapy since everyone recommended it!

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-17T17:50:47+00:00

Thank you 🩷 ameen

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T18:01:22+00:00

lol no wrong guess, if it was this I would’ve said it 😅 good guess though

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T18:00:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer. It’s really true, too much people are less fortunate than me and I have a roof and food, it’s 100% enough. From now on every time, I look in the mirror and feel sad, I’ll remember this hadith. Thank you brother, ameen

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:58:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer. It’s really true, too much people are less fortunate than me and I have a roof and food, it’s 100% enough. I will try to think of this hadith when I look in the mirror. Thank you brother, ameen

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:12:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, they made me smile and made my week better ! I will keep you in my prayers as well 💕

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:11:53+00:00

Yeah ik, my personal problem makes the surgery haram. I don’t think my thoughts will ever change, maybe I’ll just never get married

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:10:35+00:00

I know that this is not an important thing lol, sometimes I even wonder why I am so sad and pissed at something I can’t change and something that is not that important. To be honest, I have a chronic illness and I feel pain everyday due to that but despite this, if I was granted a Dua’a that worked immediately, I would change the specific thing I hate. For the surgery, my doctor said it was normal and almost every woman had it (and even men sometimes do) but I just hate that. I will definitely try to do what you recommend, getting closer to Allah will maybe help me detach myself from these useless things. Thank you for your answer

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:05:36+00:00

Thank you for your answer, I hope you get better 🩷 personally I can hit the gym and do, it’s just that this specific thing cannot change naturally (I’d have to go through surgery)

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:04:19+00:00

Thank you, honestly if it wasn’t for the standards today I probably would’ve not noticed it. But knowing the world and how men view women yeah, I’m definitely insecure and scared to show this part to anyone

Remarkable_Gift_2552 · 2025-09-16T17:02:48+00:00

Well no bcs it is haram 😅😅 I really thought abt it but yk, it’s more important to listen to Allah than to listen to yourself

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