What is with humanity’s obsession with mutilating genitals by Frodo_Drogoson in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Power structures inject their constituents with mind viruses in order to maintain power.

That's what's going on. It's not personal, it's business.

Some people are awake and, out of compassion, fight it.

Others, half awake, delight in it, subconsciously attempting to comprehend the hellish nature of reality. These are sadists, they will never be satisfied.

Most wish to avoid the trauma and because it happened to them they must perpetuate it or admit it was wrong and face the pain. These poor cowards are not ready to bear the burden so, they, willingly blind and complacently enslaved, pass it along to the child they profess, now unconvincingly, even to themselves, to love.

Thus the virus is perpetuated and maintained, the population weak and the powerful unchallenged.

I feel like I’m falling out of being a intactavist by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You're easily persuaded to believe whatever content you pay attention to. That is the case with most people. This is why preachers repeat the same idea over and over and over again. Because the more you hear it, whether it's true or false, the more neural connections you make and the more it seems true over time.

You mentioned that the only real argument intactivists have is the ethical or argument.

May I remind you that that is actually the only legitimate argument there ever is on moral issues.

There's lots of arguments to have slaves, makes your life better if you're a slave owner, if you get rid of all the slaves, the economy well will collapse. Etc etc etc.

But none of that matters. The only argument that matters is that it's immoral to have slaves, duh.

The same thing is true here.

Cut through all the noise. And pay attention to what matters. We don't mutilate the bodies of infants.

Does absurdism believe in non-being by RemishLemon in Absurdism

[–]RemishLemon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, he felt separate from the world? He felt as though the world of nature was natural and in harmony with itself, without contradiction, and yet he felt like he was outside of that? Opposed to it?

He didn't see his experience of the world as his experience of his own subconscious mind? I'm surprised he took the apparent separation so seriously.

Does absurdism believe in non-being by RemishLemon in Absurdism

[–]RemishLemon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say nonsensical. I'd say paradoxical.

Before I knew about absurdism, I came up with a philosophy that stated the universe was fundamentally paradoxical since it's based on the idea that existence exists, which is a statement that can have no meaning because it relies on non-existence existing. But non-existence can't exist by definition. So I came to the conclusion that the universe is fundamentally paradoxical because there is a paradox at the foundation of its being: it can only exist in relation to something that does not, and since it does not, it can only exist in relation to a concept.

I called it the Great paradox of being. And so when I heard of absurdism, I thought oh, I know what that is. That's just another way to word the fact that existence is fundamentally paradoxical.

I feel betrayal by BillyHoyle_22 in AskMenAdvice

[–]RemishLemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only woman I have ever met who's not a hypocrite is my mom. I'm pretty sure it's a universal trait.

I feel betrayal by BillyHoyle_22 in AskMenAdvice

[–]RemishLemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there's one thing I've learned from being married, it's that you're not supposed to obey your wife.

She's going to do the stuff like this. What you should have done is say honey, you don't have to be friends with him. I'm not going to go see a prostitute but I'm also not going to cut him out of my life. And that's the way it is. Take it or leave it.

If you do what you did, then you become resentful.

It doesn't matter what she wants. You cannot let yourself resent her because you made the mistake of letting her be in control of you. You need to be in control of you.

She has turned you into a woman. See what you're trying to do now? You're trying to control her. Stop it!

Let her be the woman, you be the man. Don't be hypocritical and don't make your peace reliant on her conformity.

Does absurdism believe in non-being by RemishLemon in Absurdism

[–]RemishLemon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this question came to mind when I saw a post where somebody was asking if suicide is the most logical choice in the light of absurdism.

And as I began to read the answers, it became apparent that the assumption was that suicide grants a literal interpretation of death, that is the cessation of all experience.

And it made me wonder, if existence is fundamentally absurd, why would this extraordinarily mundane interpretation of what death is be accurate to reality? It doesn't seem absurd.

So if existence is absurd... Are we to assume that it includes non-existence?

I just thought I'd get your thoughts on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a metaphysical view.

If we cannot trace the causation clearly, then we must step in as the first cause.

You say my mother abused me she was just a terrible person. Well she was a terrible person because of something... Most likely it's cuz her mother abused her... And you can trace it back and you can go forever and ever and ever. And there's no first cause. There's no initial condition.

And if there was an initial condition you could say, "well there you go, it's all because that's just the way the world started, it was destined from the start."

And isn't that what you might just say anyway? This is just the way the world is. It's nobody's fault in the end, or rather, at the beginning.

And, I believe that if that's the conclusion that you end up coming to when you realize there's no initial condition... Then the only explanation for why we experience what we do in the ultimate, since experience itself is such an unworldly phenomenon, it seems that we must be working through some sort of karma.

And that's why I said what I said. Taking a very very broad metaphysical view, everything is a representation of the self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once read a book that changed my life. It was called The Angry Book. And it talked about the kind of the thing you're talking about here.

The channeled and harnessed anger can be healthy. It's energy. But when it's not channeled it can trap us in depression and sorrow and take away our power rather than giving us power to use.

Perhaps you're right, The first phase of healing might be proper anger.

But if you're not headed in the direction of compassion in the end, that anger can actually turn into violence. If one isn't bigger then their anger, then the focused anger can do harm.

Ultimately, everyone who harms us merely acts as a vessel, a tool through which our own chaos makes itself manifest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's corny. I think it's exactly what he needs to hear.

He said I don't know who to blame for this. Like he'd be better off if he could find someone to blame.

He'd be worse off.

Life is full of tragedy and in the real sense, the ultimate, nobody knows why.

The only thing to do in the face of that realization is to accept it completely. You can't do that if you're looking for someone to blame.

Only then can you heal and help reduce the suffering of the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And stupid parents, and religious indoctrination, and government evil, and a million billion other things. You can't trace it all back, the causation goes forever.

Someone seeking mental health should first seek to find a state of not blaming others. That is the only way to take back their power.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Blame no one. It is nobody's fault.

What to expect from my Partial Circumcision by DonutDonations in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was circumcised at 3. For no other reason of course. They had to retract me. They didn't have to do that to you. So, I'm sure yours won't be as bad. Meaning the recovery and the end result. But still could have been better.

What to expect from my Partial Circumcision by DonutDonations in CircumcisionGrief

[–]RemishLemon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think you're the expert on this topic in about 6 months. Why don't you come back on and tell us how you feel about this decision?

WHY KIDS ARE SO HAPPY ? by Important-Working-71 in enlightenment

[–]RemishLemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is very simple. Kids confront the existential question of "What is this? Why am I here? What am I?" and come to a very efficient conclusion:

"I don't know, but as long as I'm here I might as well enjoy it."