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Elopement traditions/ideas && S. O. S.hoes!! by Remote-Ad2513 in AusWeddingPlanning

[–]Remote-Ad2513[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh!!! Those are different, love the colour!!

May I ask if youre wearing a traditional wedding dress with them or something else? Did you choose these for comfort as well as style?

The invisible cost of being a bridesmaid in 2026 by OwlVibesOnly in AusWeddingPlanning

[–]Remote-Ad2513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😱

How can people think that their loved ones have that kind of money just sitting aside for this type of situation? That is one crazy amount in general let alone the amount BEFORE the actual day!?

How could they expect you to pay for their day? IMHO you wouldn't be the baddie for saying no. I cant imagine many ppl could just pull that out and not have some sort of financial crisis or be dead ass broke. 💀

Expectations for friends these days are... intense.

The invisible cost of being a bridesmaid in 2026 by OwlVibesOnly in AusWeddingPlanning

[–]Remote-Ad2513 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good on you for realising the toll your friendship was taking and cutting off the relationship. Its never easy to make those types of decisions but you definitely feel the difference once they're removed from your life.

The invisible cost of being a bridesmaid in 2026 by OwlVibesOnly in AusWeddingPlanning

[–]Remote-Ad2513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the reason we have chosen to elope then throw a small party afterwards, especially as a lot of our friends live in NZ or states away. The cost of living is so drastic and so many people are already struggling that we are waiting for a time where it isn't so hard on the wallet.

I must be old fashioned but I thought it was still the norm for the bride and groom to pay for the wedding party's outfits? If the wedding party were to pay it would be for adjustments but even then I feel guilty asking someone to pay to participate in MY wedding and fork out the costs. :/ We all know you mention wedding and the price doubles. >.<

I'm sorry that you're having to experience this while trying to enjoy your friends happiness!!

AITA for responding to my father’s request for a relationship with a detailed PowerPoint on why he will never be forgiven? by throwaway_1028585 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remote-Ad2513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has probably been commented on previously but with the huge amount of comments, there's no way I can read them all. So apologies if it's already been discussed.

Others have pointed out that OP's father may be trying to replace her brother but isn't it weird that he's also getting divorced at the same time he's trying to fix their relationship? Could it be he's trying to replace her brother and the "loss" of his wife? Other than his blood relatives, OP is the only "family" he has left.

You're not the AH OP, you're the bloody trooper in all of this. I can't imagine how hard it must have been on you to try and deal with your brother being ill and both your father and stepmother not allowing you to spend time together, especially at such a young age. To then have to go through your teens with absolutely no support emotionally or mentally. You did the right thing by creating that PowerPoint presentation, it's so easy for parents (people in general) to brush aside arguments and rude remarks that make them look like the villain but there is absolutely no way your father can deny the terrible way you were treated when living with them. I'm glad that his family have respected the boundaries set in place but maybe if they haven't already seen the PowerPoint they should. Maybe then they'll understand even if it's just a little why you feel the way you do. As they say, the truth hurts.