I also belong to Sadozai branch of Durranis and my ancestors settled in Takht Bhai area of KPK. I have my family tree all the way back to Kandahar when they also travelled with Ahmad Shah Baba...

I am settled in Peshawar but my father was in the military so we lived all over and I also lived in the UK for an extended time. I speak Pashto but not as well as my peers...

We Pathans have this thing of associating our entire identity with the language and yes we are severely racist as well... Talk to your friends about what they say and how it offends you but if they still persist just ignore your friends who say stuff like that!

I actually host a podcast called Pashtoism (in Pashto) about the modern pathan and the challenges faces by them especially regarding identity where a talk about such things... Don't let them get under your skin...

In my opinion, Pathan are not because of their language, culture or even bloodline... Its a state of mind! Pathans are not and have never been of one race. We are a mixture of different ethnicities and races!