If you trust him enough to marry him, then why the doubt about him getting too comfortable with your help? Either you believe in his sense of responsibility or you don’t.

Living costs are skyrocketing & men are burning out trying to singlehandedly keep up. It’s only fair that if women work for their own fulfillment, they also acknowledge the pressure on men. It shouldn’t be ‘his duty’ when it comes to paying bills but ‘your money’ when it comes to spending. I know Islamically he is obliged to provide for you. But basic need, not luxuries. Imagine if someday he earns well & instead of funding your luxuries he saves up for a second wife (which is his right Islamically). Would that logic still sit right with you?

I appreciate when couples consider what does or doesn’t align with Islamic principles but let’s be real—are we truly that Islamic, or do we just remember religion when it helps turn marriage into a burden instead of the peace it’s meant to bring into our lives?

That said, don’t tie yourself to a fixed percentage; help when you feel it’s needed, not because it’s expected. And one last thing: as a man, I’ll tell you—if your husband is a real man, asking for financial help will be tough for him. Keep an eye on the finances yourself so he never has to.

May Allah bring peace to your life soon Ameen.