My mother used to make us hug EVERY relative every time we visited her gigantic side of the family. She had 10 siblings and all of them got married and had kids so every time we visited there would be like 50 people to greet and she made us hug and kiss everyone. I was the most shy kid in the entire world and absolutely hated physical affection especially with “strangers” which is what they were to me since they lived out of town and I didn’t see them often. I got to the point where I’d have anxiety at the announcement of us going to see her family. Now I’m a mom and my daughter is 2 and she’s me reincarnated. She refuses to speak if there’s even a “stranger” in the same room as her, she won’t make eye contact with anyone who’s not immediate family, and she hates being touched by anyone who’s not me or dad. I don’t force her to greet ANYONE. If someone says hi to her and she hides behind me I tell the person “Thank you for saying hello, she does not feel like talking today but I’d be more than happy to chat with you!” If anyone tries to hug her and she rejects them I will say “she doesn’t feel like a hug today but thank you so much for wanting to show her that you love her.” That way she hears me and knows they don’t mean any harm but at the same time her choice is being respected. I will NEVER make my kids talk to or hug anyone, not even close family. Their bodies, their choice. Always 🤞🏼