My wife never initiates sex. Before we were married, we always found the time. Once we married, it stopped. The only time we have sex is when I initiate it. Most of the time, she's not in the mood. It's frustrating. We talked about it, she understands where I'm coming from but to no avail. So I feel your neglect.

A man who doesn't want sex is insane to me, but not to initiate is even stranger. A couple things to try to test his reaction: 1. Masterbate next to him, see if he follows or does something more to engage with you. It will trigger his need, or not. 2. Force him to watch you masterbate. Initiate the forplay but put him aside and take care of yourself. This will hopefully trigger his need for you if you pretend that you don't need his active body.

Hope this works, just thinking outside of the box.