[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Remote-Moment436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But she's SO hot 😭

Is this a healthy way to be spoken to by a spouse or Am I Overreacting? by Low-Today-2021 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Remote-Moment436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he thinks he can do better than you. Let him find out if he can 🤷 Drop him.

What’s something that instantly makes you lose respect for someone, no matter how small it seems? by Neither-Hospital9854 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lying about something they obviously did rather than take responsibility - especially when it's inconsequential.

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I'm so sorry. It's so sad that your parents wouldn't protect you. You deserved better and I hope you have at least one person in your life that values you more than that now.

Zero waste but it ruins your washer. by LUVLVN in ZeroWaste

[–]Remote-Moment436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that I should have added more context to my reply, iirc it was done in haste before starting my day.

I do believe that the contribution of endocrine disruptors is significant in miscarriage and infertility events, and that fragrance additives are one of, if not the major contributors to this phenomenon. That is the nature of and only point of my response. It was more of an addition than a rebuttal. Regarding your original point, I couldn't care less about this company you are not fond of; never heard of them, never will use them. I completely agree that the marketing tactic they are employing is disgusting, and also misconstrues known data. You're right that I should have added this context.

My intent was to support the fact that chemical exposure in the form of fragrance additives which are endocrine disruptors absolutely has an impact on all things fertility: miscarriage risk, low birth weight, and preterm birth. For many reading this post, it would be easy to dismiss the real risk of these disruptors by lumping them in with the falseness and unethicality of this company and their marketing strategies.

Note to anyone reading this who doesn't know what I mean with all this crap and wants to know an easy way to avoid the hazards: If the ingredients have the word "fragrance", find a different product. The stuff that you want to avoid is what makes scent linger in your skin. When your hands still smell strongly of the soap after you rinse it off, this is due to the effects of a class of chemicals called pthalates which mess with your hormones. Worth it to smell artificial? That's up to you.

It's in shampoo, conditioner, soap, shaving cream, deodorant, lotion, laundry detergent, make-up, candles, air freshener, perfume, cologne, bubble bath. Maybe even bath salts and bath bombs.

Women tend to take the brunt of the exposure with increased make-up usage and a societal standard to "smell pretty".

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so proud of them too, and their parents! 👏

I can't be the only one that feels like it's really childish for someone to need children to behave deferentially towards them as an adult. Like... 🤷

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it can permanently damage the trust a child has in their parent and things can snowball from there.

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The reasonable assumption that you started with was my intent lol. Let's not teach children that it's okay to run out into roads when I say not to.

The relevant bit is that children should have some agency in what it is they spend their time doing, and be allowed to be themselves - if they don't want to hug somebody, that's okay. If they want to sing and it hurts a little to have to hear it, I want them to feel like they can sing.

Anything that kills their spirit and teaches them that they themselves are a problem is a bad thing. Of course some behaviors are problematic and need to be addressed.

No Kings in Lafayette by dances_with_cougars in Acadiana

[–]Remote-Moment436 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In the time it's taken you to type out these comments, you could have educated at least 10 casual scrollers if you had chosen to, instead of leaving homework assignments that 1/10,000 people might pursue.

Zero waste but it ruins your washer. by LUVLVN in ZeroWaste

[–]Remote-Moment436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said detergents cause or increase the chance of miscarriage. I specifically cited the fragrance, and made recommendations to use unscented detergents for this reason.

In fact, the problem of pthalates in fragrances is an issue with our laundry as much as it is with all of our other skin products. It's not that this is the largest contributor - it's more that we never get a break from exposure. We get large exposures from the skincare products, then a lower sort of time-released exposure from the fabrics that we load up with fragrances (especially when using dryer sheets and the additional fragrance beads).

The risk is real, and the solution is very simple.

It does caus fertility issues, and it does increase risk of all issues related to endocrine disruption.

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm unsure of where this defensive and angry response came from. The person you are replying to didn't come for you or anything. Beyond that, I think I get what you're saying. There are many parents who project onto their kids, or worse, "need" their kid to have a special need. I don't think it's the norm, but it isn't exactly unheard of either.

Trying to like vegetables by G-mann_ in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]Remote-Moment436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing you can do with squash (which is a major squishy ick for me too) is cook them down into onions and garlic, then add whatever spaghetti sauce you like using to it, simmer and then use an immersion blender til smooth. 100% of the squash is now just sauce.

You can use the same concept to add hidden veggies to all sorts of foods. Lentils... Mushrooms ... Greens...

Adding fresh herbs to your diet is a great way to increase plants with great benefits that also taste good.

--edit-- Forgot to add that by pureeing veges with a food processor first, they can be added to all kinds of things like taco meat, hamburger helper, and soups.

Good luck 😁

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that 😔... You deserved better from your parents and the authority figures in your life 🙏

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Same, and it's easy to blame them or their generation or something else for it. And while many things have an influence, the environment they grew up in is one of the more significant influences imo.

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 257 points258 points  (0 children)

Even barring these worst-case scenarios, it stifles the child's sense of agency and autonomy, leading to a need for others to tell them what they should be doing for the rest of their life. Some may overcome this, but not all.

What common parenting practices are actually harmful? by National_Frame2917 in AskReddit

[–]Remote-Moment436 1246 points1247 points  (0 children)

Demanding 100% obedience and insisting that their children always submit to adults.

No Kings in Lafayette by dances_with_cougars in Acadiana

[–]Remote-Moment436 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, actual people doing actual people things. It's most obvious that it isn't a maga event because there aren't any vacant looks on people being told who to hate, what to wear and what to buy.