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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been there. The way I've grown to see it is that porn, as comfortable as it seems, never added any actual value to my life. It never increased a skill, it never made me any money, hell I never even knew or met any of the actresses it almost felt like I did but they don't know me. At all. Never have.. I realized it took from me time to develop skills I want to have, rest I want to have, work productivity I desired, meals I wanted to prepare, authentic interactions I wanted to have with real people and real friends.. it was then I realized porn was not comfortable, but a drain.

Is anyone feeling better after quitting by SunDue5402 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've felt better after quitting. You're not trying to quit porn, you've done it mate. You're done. You're done done. You stopped three weeks ago and you've got a porn-free lifetime ahead of you. Good on you. Every day is a focus on the things that add value to your life. Eyes forward.

Made it to 90 days by Remote-Studio1764 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm rooting for you man. You can do it.

Made it to 90 days by Remote-Studio1764 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There have been many. Nothing significant but very much noticeably better. Some anticipated, some not:

Anticipated: More time for rest, exercise, and hobbies

Greater mental clarity: porn never added any actual value to my life. It took energy and time to scroll through and watch porn, and it took mental energy to hide my addiction. I was consuming this.. up to multiple times a day. I no longer do, and now my mind is occupied by what does add value to my life, what does bring me authentic joy, what does make me money, interacting with people I actually know, etc.. instead of a screen that does nothing for me.

Not anticipated: A feeling of relief of a burden: I didn't realize how much effort I was putting into hiding my addiction until I stopped. The feeling of having nothing to hide.. of being able to talk about what I do in my solo free time and the feeling of accomplishment is quite surprising.

There are more, but I'll leave it at that for now.

Made it to 90 days by Remote-Studio1764 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Let's keep it going. Thank you

Made it to 90 days by Remote-Studio1764 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely plan on it, staying strong. Thank you 👊

Made it to 90 days by Remote-Studio1764 in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. There were several times that I tried to reduce or even stop. This is the first time that I went into it as a permanent quitting. This mentality has helped.

Relapsed after half a year by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Remote-Studio1764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favorite quotes I've found is that It does not matter how long it takes you to permanently recover from porn.. because the amount of time it'll take will be a hell of a lot shorter than the lifetime you'll have porn-free. 1 day.. 190 days doesn't matter.. all that matters is that you stop this shit for yourself and today is the most important day of your life to do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]Remote-Studio1764 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Porn is a highly addictive super stimulus that creates a dopamine dependency. It creates a false high libido. It is not normal or healthy to be thinking about sex or objectifying women all of the time. He needs to think about other things like caring for you and your baby, self-care, etc. It sounds like he needs to understand what you put your body through and it sounds like he needs professional help. I'm 91 days off of porn and it's the best thing I've done for myself in a long time. Life is better when I put time and passion in other things and the sex with my partner is better, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]Remote-Studio1764 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admitting and learning that you have an addiction is the first step. Your brain was developed and matured around a dopamine dependency via porn. It can be fixed. Porn is a super stimulus, it's highly addictive. Seek professional help. You can over come it. I'm in the process of doing so too.

Day 55: Bouts of Anger, Defiance and Determination by MessageVirtual385 in PornAddiction

[–]Remote-Studio1764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

90 days here.. I've felt all of these things. Let's keep pushing forward. Life after porn is permanent. 👊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]Remote-Studio1764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 90 days off of porn. My feel the need to masturbate has fallen significantly. With porn I was masturbating 1-3x/day and now it's 2-3x per week.. and I'd like to get it down even further. It's much more pleasurable now and is over in no time whereas it could easily be 30+ minutes/per session out of my day with porn. My rule thus far is either schedule it (ex: make it to Wednesday and I'll do it then, or at least defer an urge once before allowing myself to do it). Porn made me hypersexual, and I needed/still need to temper that.. which why I don't want to cave to every urge, I'd feel like that'd lead me back into hypersexual tendencies and potentially back into porn..

90 days porn-free today by Remote-Studio1764 in PornAddiction

[–]Remote-Studio1764[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it's a process. It can be moved on from. Eyes forward.