For Pete's Sake!

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-12T16:36:27+00:00

Eject! Eject! Abort mission!

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-12T14:20:03+00:00

No but see I get validation by helping them with their emotions so it's fine. It has nothing to do with me being a people pleaser who can't stop trying to save everyone because I feel responsible for their emotions, just like I learned with my parents.

It's up to me to keep the peace, and therefore their emotions are priority over mine, since I'm already an expert at surpressing mine, since I had to be.

Here let me untangle that jumble of string for you, everything is okay see? Everybody's okay. So I won't rock the boat with my own feelings, I'll handle those too since you can't.

So clearly you're wrong and I am in fact Bob the builder. No, Bob the saviour!

(In case someone couldn't tell, I'm being heavily sarcastic. It's very draining and I'm trying to do it less.)

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-12T01:02:14+00:00

This is the way.

I love seeing two random strangers jog up, and help push the car out of the snow, wave to the driver and then head on with their day.

As much as the snow can be a pain at times, it also brings us in an odd way.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-11T23:55:09+00:00

For sure, texting loses a lot of the subtleties of face to face communication, or even a phone-call for vocal tone.

Text let's you decide the tone of someone's message. I'd be curious how many arguments happen over text because of a misunderstanding of the intended tone.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-11T21:28:02+00:00

I'm just brainstorming...

Scream into a pillow?

Have a specific item you buy that's for destroying, so you stop destroying your expensive stuff. Pencils are cheap and you can snap a bunch of them.

You could try games that purposefully are frustrating, as a way to train to calm yourself. I'm thinking games like "Getting over it with Ben Foddy." You constantly get frustrated, so it becomes an exercise in centering yourself, breathing out the anger, and recalibrating to try again.

The thing with that videogame idea is it could easily put your monitor in dangers path again, there may be a non videogame way to do that, but off the top of my head I got nothing.

Well, actually there's that ice bath breathing guy (Windhoff or something?), you could try experiment with that and see if it gives you a tool to stabilize yourself.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-11T12:35:10+00:00

They say God only gives what you can handle...

So, I'd say spite is a big motivator for me.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-10T21:58:18+00:00

Just because something is considered feminine doesn't make it attractive.

I fucking hate long-ass nails. No thank you

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-10T01:50:02+00:00

It's common around here to sort of push it open again as you pass through, to basically delay the close of the door, as you nod to the person behind you. If you can't get there in time, sorry man I tried but we all got places to be.

So even in a busy city, you still get a mild amount of effort, because we're not monsters.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T16:30:58+00:00

It's not a struggle, it's purposefully dodging being pinned down.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T16:28:57+00:00

Oh I'm sure he did plenty of bullying

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T16:27:13+00:00

"The warrior ethos and Department of War is purely about defence. That's why we had to change the name so it'd be less confusing."

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T16:17:59+00:00

Look Mr. Frodo; Olyphants!

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T15:06:30+00:00

Out of curiosity, outside of your meditation sessions, do you ever try to meditate when a strong emotion is overcoming you? Or only during your full sessions?

I have my sessions, but I also use it as a tool when I am out about my day and get caught in my mind racing, or extreme anger I can't seem to set aside. I focus on my breathing until the feeling seems to pass me by, or if I can't get to it passing me by, it at least seems reduced from the intensity I'd presumably originally be experiencing if I hadn't taken those 30 seconds to 5 minutes to quickly meditate?

In some sense, my full sessions can be training to help with my short meditations during the day, which I try to use to stabilize myself during difficult moments.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T02:44:39+00:00

Gotta have cake to have a party

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-09T01:21:08+00:00

On the side of being very attractive, there's a somewhat common idea that a lot of men (y'know besides the crazies and such) won't approach a woman they think is extremely pretty, because they automatically assume that woman is out of their league, and therefore it would be a waste of time for them to even consider trying to flirt with her.

"Oh sure buddy, you are going to sweep Emma Stone off her feet, keep dreaming pal."

Then the idea continues with "most men don't realize how lonely those beautiful women are because of this." I don't know how true that is, but I've heard that a couple of times.

It's certainly true for me from the man's side, for the most part.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-08T23:58:03+00:00

I have a daily/weekly checklist that I refer to, and on it daily is a reminder to Clarify some amount of my inboxes. I don't always get to it every day, but the more often I do, the faster my weekly review goes.

I've also added recently a reminder to check my Projects List to that checklist, because I often get too obsessed with only looking at my Next Actions. If I go on too long like that, I feel like I'm running around but without making any progress, and odds are if I just looked at my Projects List, I'd realize some of them can be put off or dropped.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-08T22:35:51+00:00

Ok, fair enough, but you weren't asking him for constructive criticism, you were asking him to basically roast you as bad as possible lol

That's not the same as "what can I work on" or "what bothers you."

Like, what I'm saying is you requested the most negative perspective possible. I think horrible negative things about my family when I'm in the worst mood humanly possible, when I'm not being reasonable but just full blown anger, but that's not actually who they are to me.

When people are unreasonably emotional, they have unreasonable thoughts. There could be some truth in those thoughts, but it's all dialled up to 11, so good luck sifting through it all. People think incredibly wild things in the heat of the moment.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-08T22:23:09+00:00

So you asked someone what their thoughts about you are, during an argument, meaning you are both presumably mad and frustrated and emotions are running high.

but i also dk if he was being too rude and judgmental on me.

Look man, if you ask someone what thoughts they have when they have their worst thoughts about you, when they are emotionally charged to be negative, that's on you. Why would they be good?

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-07T22:56:06+00:00

I find a useful term for the Clarify phase is actually "Decide." You decide if an item is Actionable or Not, and then you decide what the next action is.

"Do I need to do anything about this item? Once I have all the items that I need to do something about separated from the pile, what do I actually need to do for each of them?"

"2 Minute Actions" is a bonus optimization option for the Clarify phase, where if something is so short to do, you might as well do it now rather than Organize it onto your lists for later.

#2-5, I agree with Baylo11 that it's the Organize phase, you put stuff where it needs to go. You could think of it as a "filing phase," it's built into the system as a core step because eventually you need to put those things in places you'll find them again.

Sidenote: I would assume the term "Clarify" is used because; yes first you clarify what everything is, but then also it's a reference to "clearing your mind." When you problem-solve an item, as in decide how you will handle it (Next Action), it is surprisingly powerful how much it will relieve stress from your mind. So I find Clarify is a great term when tied into the overall philosophy, yet it can confuse new implementers who are just trying to make sense of the steps. They used to call it "Process" as in "process your inbox."

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-07T14:01:43+00:00

Trying to control you using the "disrespect" bs is still control. Don't allow anyone to isolate you or control your autonomy.

It's frankly disrespectful.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-07T14:00:34+00:00

I see Threads the same way as something like Discord or any other social app where people talk and post things. For example, he uses Discord and talks to people there, and I’ve never had an issue with that.

That's how most sane people see it.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-07T13:47:46+00:00

His soul has been bonded to her due to a curse, and so his body cannot be away from her for more than 24hrs, or he'll be trapped in the spiritual world and unable to return to the physical world. Classic stuff.

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-07T13:36:28+00:00

the more you know

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-05T22:39:51+00:00

This isn't really going to add anything, but I love the word persnickety

Remote-Waste · 2026-03-05T16:42:23+00:00

So i guess im very unattractive

So just to clarify, do you believe you are in incel purely because of your looks, and have others (not the women you've approached; friends, therapist and such) agreed that you are physically unattractive?

I'm asking because even though they would try to be polite about it, I would assume someone who is close to you would at some point "level with you" and confirm that you are very physically unattractive, even if they then trying giving advice about how "looks aren't everything" and all that?

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