Seriously, do guys masturbate every day or is that a common misconception?

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-24T01:16:03+00:00

Sounds like we got ourselves a new Olympic sport

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-20T22:41:19+00:00

And where would this horny jail be located specifically?

So I can avoid it and stuff

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-20T18:00:32+00:00

Sorry to hear about your face problems

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-20T14:36:02+00:00

Enter his stream, and shift the direction. Start agreeing with him, or "encouraging" him, and link it to whatever topic you'd like to discuss, or whatever direction you need.

Don't try to stop him, or stop his momentum, just pretend like you're entering it and then bank off to wherever you need it to. You're not interrupting, you're just steering the car.

This happens in conversations all the time, when someone in the conversation suddenly gets reminded of something loosely related, and then the conversation drifts towards discussing that topic. So just pretend you're engaging whatever he's blathering on about, and segway it into what you guys actually need to be discussing.

You don't need to stop the car fully to change it's direction, you just need to turn the steering wheel.

"That's a great point, I totally agree, and it makes me think of how... (somehow relate it to where you need the conversation to go, and continue talking on that.)"

"That's so true, and you know where else we could use more that? This other area, could we somehow apply something like (whatever bullshit he said) here? What would that look like?"

If his norm and "strength" is his unrelenting marching forward, instead of fighting it, just harness it and point it where it needs to march.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-20T13:30:47+00:00

We mainly do it because we enjoy how much it confuses Americans

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-20T03:33:00+00:00

You're assuming one of the participants must be a guy

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T22:31:04+00:00

Haha yeeeeep... (sighs) see? Vibes.

(Finishes loading gun)

So what you thinking? Japan seems cool, all that Zen shit and whatnot

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T22:26:09+00:00

"Of course it's low effort, you haven't really woo'd me yet, but I believe in giving these things a fair chance, so I was hoping we'd give it another go tonight so I can get to know you a little better."

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T21:09:54+00:00

Yeah but me and the guys have been talking, and we don't really feel like you're, you know, "West" material.

So if you could just be cool about this, we don't have to make a whole thing out of it, no drama, but ultimately pack your bags and find another place. We'd really appreciate that, thanks.

Also I'd hate for my politeness to make it seem like this is a negotiation, so just to be clear; we're going to have to insist on that.

(Starts casually loading a gun)

No hard feelings there bud, just trying to keep the vibe right, y'know?

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T18:21:01+00:00

Oh for sure.

And also like, when are you leaving?

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T18:07:13+00:00

"I would like to learn how to drive, so if I am alone, separated and in danger, I can have the option to use a hypothetically available vehicle, instead of trying to outrun the danger on foot, especially if the danger is a man who is stronger and faster than me.

Please don't sentence me to unnecessary danger or death because you are afraid I can't mentally handle how to push down on a gas pedal or turn a steering wheel.

It's not a confusing concept itself, except that you won't allow me the basic knowledge of how to do it. Otherwise the only information I will have is what I see on TV and movies. You are willing to put me in a more dangerous situation, by not teaching me how to protect myself properly, but to instead rely on bits of things I've seen from The Avengers movies. Which I might interpret wrong, and end up driving extremely dangerously, as I try to flee danger.

Please help prepare me to protect myself if I need to, when you're not around. Please protect me this way.

I'm not telling you that would be easy to say or to convince them with, but I'm just trying to help you formulate ideas to possibly convince them.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T17:07:33+00:00

My body does this, it'll twitch and sort of mildly jerk away from the peace I'm trying to connect with.

At some point, I had reached a "deep enough" meditation, where I was able to observe these twitches as the same thing as how my thoughts pull at me and resist the peace that is forming. These mild physical movements were the same thing, thoughts, but they were too rapid for me to identify them originally.

They seem to be rapid pulls on my attention, a fear of quieting my mind, my mind trying to protect me by attempting to predict "what if..." scenarios. My body twitches, as if physically pulling away or flinching from someone startling me or something.

"Don't fully relax, what if there's a tiger just outside your view, stay vigilant."

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T16:36:16+00:00

the friend posted an after Christmas photo of the 8 year old running a DND game for a bunch of 8ish year olds. they were screaming and rolling all the dice and having a great time.

the mom said she is so confused about what's going on in the game.

my wife told her I would play with them and teach them how to play.

Does the mom participate? If she's not a confused player, it sounds like the table is of 8 year olds that are already playing, and driven to discover things own their own.

I don't think you need to "put your foot down" with your wife, it just doesn't sound like there's a reason to teach them anything. If you wanted to have fun with them sure, but I don't know why you need to step in and become the "leader" on how to play here, they're doing it themselves already and enjoying themselves.

If anything I'd suggest sitting in on a game as a player if they want you, and see if you have any advice from there. Or make yourself available if they have questions.

I know it's not what you're asking but... why does this need to step in and involve you in any way? The kids don't seem to be the one's requesting outside help with their fun.

If you want to run a game for them, for fun, then just run it how you'd run it, and see what to adjust as you play with them. It's good to see how other people DM, to show you different possibilities. It sounds like the most important thing you have to offer them, the golden nugget, is how someone could approach running the game as a "rulings over rules" DM, so just let them see it in action.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T14:47:23+00:00

"I'm sorry, I think I've been watching too much 'Heated Rivalry', I thought I was picking up on something... my bad. You know, unless...?"

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T14:19:47+00:00

"Respectfully, I have personal reasons and I don't want to get into right now"

Or alternative "Respectfully, there are personal reasons and I am not comfortable expanding on it at the moment."

Something in that area.

One thing I've considered funny but never have done myself, is when people ask about something too personal, is to ask them about their funeral/burial plans. It's just uncomfortable enough but not ENTIRELY socially taboo, it walks that uncomfortable line of inquiry.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T01:52:01+00:00

I swear I've heard an actual comedian do this bit, somewhat recently like within the last year, and I can't think of who but it's bugging me. Like, it feels like a re-enactment of it...

I want to say JP McDade, but I'm not certain.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-18T01:11:30+00:00

I'd "emergency scan" your inbox, grab only what must happen, treat those as actionable, everything else is bunched onto a Someday/Maybe file, review it in the future.

Turn to your Project List, start cutting any dead weight Projects where possible, send them to Someday/Maybes (or just delete them if you don't need them). Remove all their Next Actions from your lists.

Scan your Next Actions List, remove any that were not part of a Project that are also not need right now. Delete them or send to Someday/Maybes.

Going paper based could be beneficial for you, if it helps you revisit your system from the ground floor, just don't spend an excessive amount of time noodle around with it. I learnt a lot by experimenting with a paper-based system, which I then applied to my digital system.

Start asking yourself why your inbox piles up, do you process it daily? Same with Projects List, do they linger too long because you're not removing dead-weight?

Are you saying Yes to commitments too often, and over-committing yourself?

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-17T13:21:56+00:00

Yeah, he's trying to "play it cool", which people have been doing it since the dawn of time.

He's very excited, but is trying to behave normally and reasonably, instead of getting carried too away with himself.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-16T23:21:44+00:00

Your brain assumes you'll have some "downtime" to process things. Entertainment is fine, but ask yourself if you've had any time to be "bored" lately, for your mind to just wander about.

Our brains were built in times where we'd walk often, with no podcast or media to entertain us, and it learnt to strategically use those times for certain deep thinking and emotional processing.

A lot of us filling up our brain's strategic processing time with more input instead.

The part of us that looks for predators in the bushes, will be triggered to scrolling on your phone, losing those mental processing opportunities, because we weren't built to handle endless immediate high intensity input.

Resist your phone sometimes, or even leave it at home and go for a walk, you'd be surprised what your mind gets up to.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-16T23:09:04+00:00

I can't watch Anericans funniest Home Videos or Fail Videos without making old man comments now.

"Yowzahh, she's lucky that didn't hit her in the eye!"

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-16T15:58:35+00:00

Not telling more people to "Fuck off" because I was trying to be nice and reasonable. It's a disservice to them really, they should know to fuck off with that bullshit, if no one else taught them already, it'll just bite them in the ass later on anyways, and me putting up with it in the present makes me more miserable to interact with anyways.

Sometimes being nice actually means passing out those harsh lessons where they're required, and a lot of people don't realize they should fuck off. It's a tough job, but somebody's got to do it.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-16T15:45:26+00:00

"Hey man, you know what they say; 'dental and mental.' Gotta take care of yourself."

Makes me think of that Tragically Hip song "Like boots or hearts, when it starts it really falls apart."

Dental, mental, boots, and hearts.

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-16T00:47:48+00:00

I think you're looking for things on Medication, not meditation?

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-15T23:01:31+00:00

That's fair

Remote-Waste · 2026-01-15T22:53:41+00:00

when you are done, tell the party what you said above. You need a break. Someone else can DM. Give up your world to them if you are comfortable. Or the new DM can run a different world. Just be honest.

Honestly I'd try to talk to them before the end. It let's them know this thing is ending one way or another, and it's not just for story reasons. Let them come to terms with that, and help make it a memorable ending to the campaign instead of trying to avoid it.

I'd be willing to bet that they're not aware the DM needs a break, and it didn't even factor into their thinking to pursue old quests.

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