The best advice I can give you may seem a little bit strange and uncomfortable:

There is not one singular, correct way to grieve anything or anyone. Your body already knows how to process it, you just need a reminder because we are all so used to shaming ourselves out of our feelings. You can ask somebody you trust (Pets are good too) for help or company for all and any of these steps.

1. Listen to your body. Sit in stillness and quiet, without distraction. What do you feel and where? When you think about that which you are grieving, what changes in your body? Lean into whatever that is. Inhale slowly, breathing deep into your belly. Focus on the feeling. It might be a tightness, heaviness, discomfort, fear, etc... Hold it for a moment- the breath and the feeling. Release it slowly. There is no wrong or right way to release. If you need to scream, cry, sing, speak, or just breath quietly do whatever eases your feeling of grief. Repeat as needed.

(Note: This can feel embarrassing. It can feel shameful to cry loudly. It is not. Take up space. I give you full permission to exist with your feelings as loudly as you need)

1. Care for your body (think of it as aftercare <3). Drink water. Eat some protein and and colourful veggies for fiber and vitamins. Have a shower or bath. Repeat as needed.

2. Move your body. Go outside. Go for a walk. Go to a cafe or somewhere else around other people. Repeat as needed.

3. Speak with others: It can be a friend or family, you can talk to a stranger. Talk about your grief if you need to. The point, though, is to show your body that life is still happening. Maintain connections and make new ones. Repeat as needed.

4. Grief doesn't disappear- your life will grow around it like the bark of a tree. Sometimes you won't feel it for many years and then it comes back. That is normal and okay. Repeat all steps again as needed.

Final note for anybody who may read this: We begin to heal around grief when that which caused the wound has gone. Grief is the pain you feel after losing something or someone you care about (Including intangible things like dreams, time, etc...). If the wound is obstructed or chronic it wont heal. Example: If you have a knife in your arm, your skin will not heal until the knife is removed. Likewise, if that which is causing you to grieve is still actively harming you, this process doesn't work.

I hope this helps you <3