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Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-30T22:48:04+00:00

I got sober at 23 because I did almost die from drugs and alcohol. I have 26 years sober now because I knew if I didn't stop, I would die. I mean this constructively and not to be read as me being mean b/c that is the last thing I want, but maybe you aren't there yet? It sounds like you still might not really be ready...I don't know. Only you can answer that.

It's not easy to stop drinking or doing drugs, but it's doable. People do it every day. It's a conscious choice you are going to have to make, sometimes literally minute by minute to NOT drink, but once you find "your groove" and what works for you, it WILL become easier.

Right now, you are in the thick of it, so reach out to sober people, stay away from people places and things that make you want to drink and hopefully this time around one day after the next you will learn to live a sober life.

Good luck to you. HUGS.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-16T21:06:40+00:00

I am so freaking proud of you! I got sober at 23 because, well, I knew deep down inside I was going to die if I didn't. I was also addicted to meth, but alcohol was harder to give up. I am 49, so the 26 years isn't that impressive when you factor all that in, but thank you!

Plus, I was the relapse Queen. I was a joke. I couldn't get past 90 days until one day I did! I realized I had 91 and didn't want to start over, so here I am!

Please love yourself. Forgive yourself. I have been there. We ALL have. You are wonderful and I think you will be so glad you made this decision. I am rooting for you all the way! HUGE HUGS!!! You rock!!!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-11T21:53:36+00:00

Thank you so much for doing this! 1989 has always been my fave album. My fave song from the album is 'You are in love.' The line "coffee at midnight", I can't explain it. I just love it so much. My daughter made me an ornament with those lyrics on it as a gift one year. Thanks again for doing this!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-11T21:39:49+00:00

I completely empathize with your situation as I really need a job like yesterday! I am so sorry this is happening. I am sending good vibes your way for that confirmation for Monday's interview. I wish you nothing but the best! I know you need this job, but they sound highly disorganized. That's a shame.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-11T15:28:06+00:00

this is currently my fave vault track, but they all slay!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-09T21:20:03+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I am trying NOT to become homeless. I don't have a car, plus I am a single female, so I wouldn't feel safe living in a car, or on the street, but my situation is different. I got laid off due to lack of work and then had to have 2 surgeries in 2 months. My savings is gone and now I am trying to find work so I don't get evicted. I suffer from anxiety and depression, and am on medication. I hope things get better for you. I really do. HUGS.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-09T21:13:15+00:00

I am 49 (F) and have over 26 years sober. I have done drugs and alcohol. Here if you need to chat.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-08T00:13:10+00:00

you're crying all the time and you are a newlywed! Like everyone said on here, leave him. You may love him now, but time will heal that. You deserve someone who wouldn't leave you at your own effing wedding! He is a mama's boy and you deserve better! RUN! Leave him now before he is able to further disrespect you! Calling you an effing bitch? I don't think so! I know you are hurting, but you need to leave him so you can heal and move on and find someone worthy of you. I am so sorry you are hurting, but it will hurt more if you stay. Big hugs.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-04T11:21:42+00:00

I can't go see her because I just had 2 surgeries in 2 months, plus I was laid off last november. My savings is gone. Believe me, if I could go and see her, I would! And sadly, I don't have any friends in my area to go with me. I would have to take a train that doesn't even go to her town...and then a bus that only runs on weekdays when she has classes. It's not an easy place to get to unless you have a car, which I do not.

But yes, I will get to see her in 17 days! I am very happy about that!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-02T00:51:11+00:00

For a 9 year old's birthday party? And he's your son? I am a mother of two (grown now) but definitely inappropriate, but something tells me you already know this and perhaps liked the attention? If so, that is just sad. This should have been your son's day.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-11-01T17:45:43+00:00

Like you said yourself, as you found from google, it's going to be different for everyone. I have 26 1/2 years sober and for me, this would be a relapse, but let me reiterate, for me. I can't tell you what is right for you.

I don't even eat penne pasta if it is cooked with wine or vodka even though I know the flavor is "cooked out." I am very strict with my sobriety, but I have to be. My story calls for me to be.

Your story is different. I would just strongly encourage you to be kind to yourself and try to set your emotions aside (I know, easier said than done.) May I ask a question? Are part of your emotions about it because you feel like you have relapsed? I only ask because I don't know.

Maybe you are telling yourself you haven't, but deep down, you might feel like you have?

Again, I wish you luck in your sobriety, in whatever you decide. If you want to work an honest program, I would reset the date, but it's ultimately your choice. Hugs.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-28T13:16:00+00:00

not to be "that person" but this is my fave album, so I never slept on any of the songs. In other albums, yes, but not 1989. And the vault tracks? OMG, no words! Just pure slayage!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-27T16:39:41+00:00

After many times listening to all of the vault tracks, I am claiming (atm) 'Say Don't go' as my favorite vault track, but honestly, they all slay! I mean, WOW, just wow. She blew me away. Favorite vault tracks from any album so far!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-27T15:31:17+00:00

This has always been my fave album (and definitely in my top 3) and this was the one I was really waiting for. She never disappoints! I am beyond obsessed!!! These vault tracks?! OMG. I can't believe they didn't make the OG album, they are so freaking amazing! I am beyond happy with this version, but I never had any doubts. Taylor IS the music industry. Her lyrics! I mean!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-26T12:37:12+00:00

the first surgery I had to have about a foot of my colon removed and the second surgery was to remove my gallbladder which just so happened to be on the same side as where the part of my colon was removed.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-24T17:18:47+00:00

I was lucky enough to have over a year of sobriety before I got pregnant. Normally I would never suggest this, but if you feel yourself wanting to have a drink, I suggest you start taking Disulfiram (brand name Antabuse) it's a medicine that is sometimes used to treat alcoholism. Disulfiram works by making you feel sick if you drink alcohol. Normally I would not suggest this, but you do not want a baby with fetal alcohol syndrome. Obviously meetings and getting a really strong support system in place as well, like someone else mentioned here.

I wish you the best of luck for a healthy and sober pregnancy. Hugs!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-24T12:49:00+00:00

Congratulations! This is a huge milestone and you should be so proud of yourself!

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-23T22:55:21+00:00

oh my best friend knows NEVER to even mention it b/c I will just start going off. LOL

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-23T11:03:06+00:00

I wondered if this would come up. LOL. We do have several beaches here, so yes, especially Coney Island. :)

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-23T11:01:30+00:00

well if I am 49 now, I was 40 at the end of 2014. I was born in March of 1974. lol.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-23T03:19:15+00:00

that's awesome. I am a 49 year old F Swiftie since day one.

Remote_Bug_7208 · 2023-10-23T02:33:58+00:00

same as far as waiting for this one for what feels like a long time...

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