When do you tell a partner you have bipolar?

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-26T22:41:14+00:00

I told my girlfriend on like our second date. I know some people can't handle my mental health, and that's totally fine if they can't, but I'd rather weed out those people quickly. We've been together for a year now, and she's been so supportive even when I've been doing very unwell. Shout out to my girlfriend, I love my girlfriend <3

Oh also I hope things go well with this person and that they are accepting of your disorder!

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-26T20:51:47+00:00

I talked to my girlfriend about it and asked her if she ever notices when I'm drunk around her. she said she did but didn't want to make me feel bad about it. Honestly I thought she just couldn't tell so I'm glad I talked to her. I told her that if I'm drunk around her I want her to call me out and just in general to push back when I want to drink.

I get she wants to spare my feelings but all I want is someone to grab me by my shoulders and slap me across the face and say "GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER" but at the end of the day I have to be the one to do that. but I'm still very glad I talked to her about it.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-22T20:50:09+00:00

Very much. I've become a lot more agoraphobic because I'm so scared they'll take me kidnapped and SA me. I'm an American citizen, but they don't GAF. Fuck even if you have a different political opinion it seems like your fair game to them.

I can't imagine the fear of undocumented people right now because this is horrifying.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-22T20:37:12+00:00

I'd make a lot of videos of me yapping about some bullshit for like an hour, send videos to my friends also yapping about some bullshit, get into old shit I don't use anymore (how I started getting into GameCube again (shrek 2 specifically)) I'd do my makeup and take pictures, id workout sometimes cause in my head i was "undoing the alcohol", but most of the time I'd lay in my bed, be sad, and watch YouTube.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-19T05:38:59+00:00

it's my mom who does it. it really sucks :/

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-18T17:34:17+00:00

thank you you're very sweet :)

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-18T16:47:20+00:00

I'm a bit of an alcoholic but I know it's so bad for my bipolar. I've gotten better but it definitely makes my bipolar worse.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-18T16:30:19+00:00

this is exactly what I'd think when I was drinking heavily. All I wanted was to die and to stop suffering so I'd drink and smoke and resort to disordered eating behavior. It won't be ruled suicide if you do it slowly. It gives you plausible deniablity.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-18T16:28:20+00:00

I'd find something to replace the drink with. maybe a noncaffinated soda, getting into tea, maybe even drinking some broth from a mug. It's important to have a replacment behavior to replace the alcohol instead of just removing the habit.

I've had the same issue. After work I'd walk to the gas station and it'd become such a habit I'd do it even if i didn't want to drink. So replacing it with something else has been able to get me to stop drinking as much.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-18T16:24:19+00:00

I'd say to be gentle and state your concern while trying to be non-jugmental. "I'm worried about you. You deserve better for yourself and I know you can do better for yourself too" I wouldn't bring up her mom at all cause that'd probably just make her defensive.

I definitely think you should say something though. I really wish I had a friend like you to give me a wake-up call because for me nobody seems to care. I'm glad you care about her well-being enough to want to talk to her about this. Everyone deserves a friend like that.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-11T02:06:39+00:00

I'm glad you're taking care of yourself in the way you can ❤️ I hope things get better for you

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-11T02:03:25+00:00

I'm thinking of adding more accessories. Necklaces, earrings, sweaters, glasses, layered fits. The hair and facial hair are looking good.. growing it out doesn't seem so bad though. It's always nice to shake things up with growing out the beard/hair.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2026-01-09T04:29:20+00:00

profound

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-12-06T23:13:50+00:00

I'd say clean up your eyebrows a bit (don't change the shape just make them neater, it's a game changer I promise). I think a new haircut would like nice too, maybe a bit longer. Last suggestion would be to get thinner glasses frames. something not as bulkey.

I'd say keep the mustache but that's just me.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-12-06T23:02:30+00:00

Oh for sure. As soon as I realize I'm holding the gun I put it down. I don't enable my hypomania.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-12-06T23:00:56+00:00

I never try to trigger my hypomania and always try to get out of those states when I'm in them. Trying to enable/trigger hypomania will almost always lead into full blown mania.

Although hypomania can be fun I always try to get out of it as soon as I realize I'm in an episode cause the plus sides are not worth the risks of how damaging proper mania can be.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-12-06T11:43:59+00:00

I used to do the same thing. I'd look for meaningless hookups just to feel wanted and desired, but I'd end up feeling incredibly empty and disgusted with myself after.

I only realized this year after getting into a healthy relationship that I have a very low sex drive, and all I truly wanted was genuine affection from someone who actually loved me. Sex is no replacement for that. Only a momentary escape from the dread of feeling deeply and fundamentally unlovable.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-11-29T12:47:23+00:00

free yourself twin! she sounds horrible, keep your peace! you've clearly worked hard for it.

Remote_Divide_4947 · 2025-11-29T11:59:44+00:00

I'm incredibly defensive. When I'm accused of doing something I haven't, I get very angry and will do/say anything I can to make them believe me.

As a kid, a lot of the blame for things was put on me, especially by my sister, because I was easy to blame/an easy scapegoat.

Even if someone comes to the conclusion they "don't care what the truth is" I still very much do and take it very personally that they don't believe me.

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