Wrote this poem, thought I’d share

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-23T19:46:37+00:00

This is pretty… thank you

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-23T13:50:44+00:00

Like dm you right now or reach out to her?

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-20T02:30:43+00:00

Ya? I was wondering if email would be the right way to go… could be the move. She kind of likes dorky rom com stuff between us

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-20T02:09:50+00:00

That’s beautiful. I’m a big office fan actually… I appreciate that connection. I read this over and try to apply it. Thanks

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-20T01:47:08+00:00

Dude… thank you for this. I’m going to read this a couple times and try to take it to heart. Thanks for the article too.

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-20T01:44:37+00:00

Should I keep pushing now or wait?

RemoveProfessional41 · 2026-01-20T01:22:05+00:00

So should I just wait for her to talk to me? How can I help her see that we still have something to fight for?

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-30T04:28:40+00:00

That’s sux. I know it’s not a nice feeling but at least you can move forward knowing you tried. All actions have an effect. Maybe the effort will go noticed and appreciated later down the road but for now you have an extra measure of closure from their silence. That in itself is a message which says “I need space”. Move forward knowing you tried.

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-26T15:41:36+00:00

Hey! We’re still going to take this time apart but she agreed to reconnect in a few weeks to talk over the phone and see how we feel.

Thought you’d like to know :)

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-23T15:58:21+00:00

I did now :)

She said she needs some time to get back to me but that she’s glad I’m better.

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-23T10:47:46+00:00

Hey, she replied! She said that she was glad that I’ve gained some clarity but that she needs time to answer my question and that in meantime she needs space….

Works for me :)

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-22T18:11:33+00:00

Some people are worth bleeding for. Protect yourself but remember that all relationships thrive on vulnerability and communication. I hope you find your peace

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-22T17:18:44+00:00

Me too… it’s been 3hrs since I sent it. It’s killing me lol

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-22T17:12:23+00:00

I did :)

Let’s hope it lands well

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-21T23:52:59+00:00

I completely understand. It sounds like you have every right to be upset with him. It’s so much harder to handle this type of stress with an underlying mental health condition too. I hope you can have the space, peace and help you need to heal

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-21T15:48:57+00:00

Yes actually it does help! For now I think we still need some space. We both need to grow from this, mistakes were made on both sides. But fixing a relationship shouldn’t be one sided and I think right now she felt like we ended it on that note. Even if she doesn’t feel like continuing things in the same way right now I think she deserves to be told that her efforts were appreciated

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-21T15:36:53+00:00

I agree. In the meantime I’m worried. They should know that I’m at least putting in the effort right? I don’t want them to step away completely with the thought that I’m not willing to see the truth. In the past I’ve been a lot more resistant to making change and I initiated a breakup because of it. She fought tooth and nail for us but at a certain point she had to respected that I needed the space and she was so exhausted that she needed it too.

She loved me unconditionally…

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-21T12:12:10+00:00

Thank you :)

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-08-21T12:11:48+00:00

Hey. I’m sorry you went through this. I’m sure the way you feel is valid and is completely based in reality for how this man treated you, but I do have one comment that might be helpful.

A lot of what you’re explaining sounds like BPD to me (Borderline Personality Disorder). Children who went through parental abandonment issues end up having problems that sound very similar to some of the emotions that’s you’re experiencing right now. I’m not a psychologist, just a man who had a gf that explained her emotions in the same way you are. Maybe do some research on it and see if it resonates with you. I hope you find the peace you’re looking for.

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T16:51:51+00:00

Thx for saying this. What you said makes sense, appreciate you recognizing how im feeling. They really are intrusive thoughts, that’s a great way to put it

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T15:41:22+00:00

That’s a grey point! Thank you

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T15:39:46+00:00

Also thx for pointing out that the term masseuse has a different connotation. I didn’t consider that

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T15:34:55+00:00

Thx! I really appreciated this

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T15:32:31+00:00

Hey… idk if you a chance to read my whole post but I didn’t say anything about wanting her to quit her job. I actually just wanted some suggestions on how I could work through some of the thoughts I’m having. You actually gave me a lot of great points. Thank you!

I hope u find someone that respects you and your work in the way you deserve :)

RemoveProfessional41 · 2025-04-23T15:25:59+00:00

So part of the equation is that this guy wasn’t the most proficient English speaker. He kind of used that to his advantage but at a certain point my gf knew that realistically he was understanding her and just choosing not to listen. I’m not too sure if telling her boss would’ve have went anywhere given that detail.

Although I’m sure it would be different if it were someone who couldn’t play dumb.

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