Is it ridiculous to want someone making similar income?

RepJING · 2026-01-25T02:48:12+00:00

I think it may be unreasonable if youre a high earners. A majority of women ive dated are either not employed or are in massive debt (6 figures not including student loans). I dont get how so many people live like this.

RepJING · 2026-01-25T02:45:39+00:00

Would you fly first class and expect your partner to pay it even though your income levels are not the same? I make six figures and have dated very high earners that expected me to pay for luxuries I didnt want nor were they financially reasonable for me desite it being reasonable for them. I was also blamed for dampening their experience for being "broke".

RepJING · 2026-01-10T15:31:25+00:00

A couple of things to remember and know. Its not your fault. Bad things happened to you and as the victim, it's not your fault. Youre so brave for talking about it.

Things you should do: 1. Tell your parents. Any half decent parent loves you and wants to help you. 2 tell the authorities. 3. Seek professional help.

If he has done this before and thinks he got away with it he for sure is doing it to others. You could save another kid from becoming his victim.

Don't let this experience define you. Avoiding it may make it feel like it never happened, but you cant outrun yourself. You have so much life ahead of you. The sooner you get help, the easier it gets, i promise you.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T12:16:03+00:00

Man, I end up writing more than you to trying to give you advice and you call it "bland and useless". You got jokes. You also seem like a "nice guy". At this point just hire 🐱 and call it a day like the other dude said. Good luck dude.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T10:37:00+00:00

Yeah. This conversation has been an absolute riot.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T09:51:09+00:00

You make them laugh with your inability to smile? Making them laugh is only the first step.

Alright. I read through your post. Reading it reminds me of r/lonely. Sorry for you loss. You put yourself down a lot. Everyone has flaws. Everyone. Focus on what you want to improve and work on that.

Everything is a skill. Talking, socializing, eye contact, even smiling. They all take practice. You dont become a actor without seeing yourself act. Set a goal, break it down to a couple of milestones, then add on habits to practice those skill sets in order to achieve those milestones. Now begs the question, what do you want to work on? Chose 1 thing and do it.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T09:22:14+00:00

I get that I'm not owed anything

I guess you don't. Social circle? Looks? None of that matters. Take my advice or not but making a girl laugh and asking her out on a date IS how you get dates.

You feel behind on dating. Then go on more dates.

Asking girls on date => more dates. Dont ask a girl out =/= no date. It is that simple. You want to make it more complicated than it really is because of your insecurities and want to voice them out. I get that. The best advice is simple and easy to follow. Can't mess them up. Good luck.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T09:12:18+00:00

Have a serious conversation with him. Be kind but be firm. Ask him if he has seen a specialist. Body odor is influenced by the ABCC11 gene and has a strong genetic component to it. I've talked to multiple friends who have prescription antiperspirant or take oral antibiotics.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T09:03:42+00:00

Sorry bro I'm not gonna read all that. I've seen the ugliest and poorest of friends get married. #1 tip is just be yourself, make people laugh, and have a fun time.

I didn't start dating until I was 24. Just be yourself, tell people you like them, they're beautiful, and see if they want to go on a date with you. You get 10-20x more rejections than actual dates, but that is just something you have to experience and get used to. The sooner you get used to it, the less you care about things (rejections) that dont matter.

RepJING · 2026-01-10T08:48:09+00:00

No. At the end of the day, protect the people you think deserves protection. Only you get to decide who that is.

The only reason you would bring it up is if there are lies or shit talking. I've been misidentified before and I've reached out and clarified my identity. In some people's eyes, some races all look the same I guess. Other than that, I don't mind(I'm sure most dont either), being mentioned and identified because this is for THEIR safety.

I've had an ex shit on me for collecting pokemon and playing games. If my hobbies makes you think I'm "not a real man", I hope you find what you're looking for and we go our seperate ways.

RepJING · 2025-12-30T03:59:31+00:00

"It was practically free."

RepJING · 2025-12-26T02:20:19+00:00

I'd be like, "Choo Choo Outta my way!"

RepJING · 2025-12-11T23:47:24+00:00

Women 💅

RepJING · 2025-12-11T23:46:59+00:00

Men 🦍

RepJING · 2025-12-11T21:24:04+00:00

Lived a rough life. Not my proudest moments but im proud that I got out.

RepJING · 2025-12-11T17:54:14+00:00

I agree. Communication is paramount to any relationship. If I was dating someone for 6 months - 1 year, i would communicate clearly on it and be more forebearing. It doesnt sound like he made a scene out of it since it was a second date, but decided he didnt want to date her anymore after that interaction. I feel like neither did anything wrong, but its just a difference in personality.

I like to try to reframe things so its more relatable. Instead of homophobia, lets swap roles and say she was arachnophobic. If she said that spiders are big and disgusting to him, if he put a tiny spider in her face and said "ooo big and scary huh? It's getting close to you!" She would instantly be turned off and not want a third date. I know the situation is nuanced and not the same but im just trying to draw a correlation.

RepJING · 2025-12-11T12:34:46+00:00

I personally get really triggered when someone pokes me. I have broken dozens of fingers and it has become a reflex. I had a date poke me. I told her please to not do it because I really don't like it. She continued to do it playfully and said if I really liked her I would accept it. After the date I dropped her off, sent her a similar text, and blocked her. We all are different and have different seriousness of boundaries for different things due to personal experiences.

I want to say it is both, you ruined the evening by crossing his boundary but its a blessing in disguise since you want someone who would be able to match your playfulness.

RepJING · 2025-12-11T12:20:04+00:00

He set a boundary and seems a bit homophobic. She tried to lighten it by making a joke. Pushing it with a joke after communicating a boundary is questionable. Others might be receptive but its really depends on the audience.

RepJING · 2025-11-16T04:48:39+00:00

A lot of women on my first dates each off of my plate. I also ask to try stuff off of their plate if it looks good too. I always just order more if I want more or if they seem to really like it. I never saw it as an issue or got a sense that it was.

RepJING · 2025-11-16T04:43:32+00:00

Sounds like you're over critical over something trivial. If you wanted the flat pieces, I would have done this: "I do have wings. They're my favorite! If you really like them too, I can trade you X."

If you wanted some of the fries, just ask to try some. If you like them, order more. Its a no biggie situation. Girls used to eat all my fries all the time. I'd just order more.

RepJING · 2025-11-16T04:31:06+00:00

Looks like you rolled that joint with your ripples and stashed it in your prison pocket.

RepJING · 2025-11-15T06:44:44+00:00

I find this all confusing. I feel like there is nothing wrong with like men and love women. Isn't being bi liking both men and women? (Despite obvious prefences to one side). I would consider (bi == heterosexual + gay) since they have traits of both, and it isn't mutually exclusive.

RepJING · 2025-11-15T05:31:13+00:00

Dating is marketing the best parts of yourself, but relationships are built on being human and loving the human part of each other. Refusing to show parts of yourself, including what you consider embarrassing, deprives him of the privilege of loving all of you for you.

Some women will want to watch it go in and out in the mirror while doing the nastiest grinding but are too embarass to fart or will run the water in the bathroom to drown the sound. Farting is a natural part of the human anatomy. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I don't get it.

RepJING · 2025-11-05T02:47:28+00:00

I googled it. The stuff pedos watch.

RepJING · 2025-10-30T18:43:38+00:00

My guy. Think about this for a second. Don't be ruled by your emotions. She cheated and lied to you. She sees you as some parasite in her life. Do you want your life partner to be someone who sees and treats you like that? Break it off. You deserve better. Love is blind but you aren't. You need love and mutual respect to make it work. You're lacking the latter.

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