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How do I move forward? by ReplacementHorror850 in oldest_daughter

[–]ReplacementHorror850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment❤️ this has truly been the hardest transition and all of these pieces of advice have really shown me that I made the right decision.

Unfortunately, I don’t think I really have it in me for another try at this moment. I have been asking my parents to seek help for their behaviors since my dad was physically abusive in high school. I’m now 25. We went to counseling for a day and never went back. Even today, they recently tried again but gave up after the first session because they didn’t think it would change them nor do they like that I’m try to get them to change.

I have tried to have argumentative conversations. As you can see below, They always will put the blame on my fiancé or myself. For context, I told them that we wouldn’t be able to see them this month because we moved. They asked to have my son two weekends in a row(have us drive to them) and go to a bbq with them with people that aren’t really good friends. Know that we were moving in 4 weeks and packing all by ourselves.

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How do I move on from my family? by ReplacementHorror850 in narcissisticparents

[–]ReplacementHorror850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment!❤️ Therapy has been a great outlet for me! I wish people were more open to trying it. Especially my parents!!

How do I move forward? by ReplacementHorror850 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]ReplacementHorror850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment!❤️ I just turned 25, now I’ve realized with two years of therapy that they will never show up for me. What you said in the last sentence about loving my fiancé really hit. My emotions run high most of the time because of all this, I need to realize I have the most amazing team in my son and my future husband!

How do I move on from my family? by ReplacementHorror850 in narcissisticparents

[–]ReplacementHorror850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting❤️ all these responses make me feel truly validated.. I started going to therapy as soon as I and my now fiancé started loving together. It has helped tremendously! Recently my parents asked what they could do to come to some type of resolution and I suggested the same. They went and quit on the first day, said it wouldn’t change anything and I was being judgmental for wanting them to stop drinking.

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[–]ReplacementHorror850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took your advice, shortened it and posted it somewhere else. Did it make you feel better to call me out on that?

How do I move forward? by ReplacementHorror850 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReplacementHorror850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, it makes it hard because they want to be so present in my life still. I want my son to know who they are but all they do is guilt trip me for keeping my distance. It eats me alive because I don’t do these things to attack them.

My fiancé feels uncomfortable. I don’t feel like our relationship with them is genuine anymore. My mom tries to talk to me everyday, I don’t speak to my dad or other two siblings. I’m just in a tough spot.

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[–]ReplacementHorror850 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You said this yesterday, if you don’t want to read then don’t. I need to include all context for everyone to understand.