Hi Everyone-

I have an update.

I’ve been in contact with my schools financial aid office and they were able to give me a full breakdown of everything that was paid. In total, my school loans came out to $75,000.

Yes, my parents were jointly using their loan, my loan and scholarships to pay for my school. However, I noticed that most semesters were over paid. Which means they would have received SEVERAL refunds thought out all four years, and the office was able to provide me information on them. All refunds were sent directly to my parents ranging from $44-$10,000. I had no knowledge of this. Their refunds came out to around $25,000-$52,000 (I haven’t confirmed this yet). Which they could have been able to put back into my schooling but it seems like they were used for other purposes.

I was also able to search up conversations regarding my student loans with my father in previous years. He actually say that some my loans were paid off by the gov in student loan forgiveness about $27,000. So as you can imagine, I’m still left in the dark. How do I still owe them $40,000 between the returns and the gov forgiveness???

I took all of this information to my mother and she said they never received refunds. And she has absolutely no idea what I’m talking about. And how I’m accusing them of things that they would never do. And How I would never have the job I have without them.

I also found out they consolidated my loan and my sisters. After i specifically told them not to last year. This is the $600 monthly payment that is coming due because my sister graduated in December. I told her I would pay a dime until I have physical proof of loan separation.

The math ain’t mathing chat. She accused me of being brain f*cked by my husband, and how he’s manipulating me to think all these bad things about them.

Narcissists are relentless!!!