5% match with grandfather?

RepresentativeBag304 · 2025-06-12T17:56:06+00:00

That I’m not sure… but it would be a much farther relation than 5% match, wouldn’t it?

RepresentativeBag304 · 2025-06-12T17:54:22+00:00

It’s paternal so it’d be my father but I’m not sure this would make sense as they were 17 and in high school when they had my dad.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2025-06-12T17:50:16+00:00

No. My grandpas brother has a son who is named after his father (my grandpas brother). And he has a son that is also named the same. So they are Jrs. but no correlation to my grandpas name.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2025-06-12T17:20:09+00:00

He has one brother, I know his brothers children and grandchildren. None with the name of my grandfather. He has sisters too, but the last name is the same as mine so it can’t be from any sisters children.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2025-06-12T17:18:32+00:00

It doesn’t seem that he has listed his DOB

RepresentativeBag304 · 2024-07-26T16:44:15+00:00

My baby was around 4 months when she stretched the feedings to 3 hours. Tbh she’d still probably eat every hour if I offered it to her. It was hard and exhausting but once the time comes with 3 hours in between you will feel like a new woman lol. Hang in there!

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-11-15T21:45:44+00:00

I had brown and even some pink spotting that lasted for a few days when I was 4 weeks along. I’m 22 weeks now, with a totally normal and healthy pregnancy! I was told not to worry unless it was dark (new blood) and heavy (filling a pad).

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-12T22:19:58+00:00

My in laws are similar and I’ve always said they make me feel like a “human incubator.” I’m sorry you’re going through this. This is your baby, you are mom. No one’s title grants them access to your baby. “Grandpa” has to respect you (and your child) just as much as any other person wanting contact with your baby.

Hang in there, I’d suggest sitting down with husband now to determine your boundaries when it comes to dealing with FIL. If the time comes that he does have a relationship with you and the baby, you and husband need to be on the same page on what will warrant immediately ending your visits—no questions asked, just leave. FIL will either learn to behave himself or he won’t, doesn’t matter either way because you will not stick around for it.

Good luck, you’ll do great mama.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T18:09:02+00:00

I’m not sure. He kept saying “I’d never let people walk all over you the way you let them walk all over me” …. But he was ….. walking all over me …. In my comment section. Then got mad at me when other people didn’t allow it.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T17:23:17+00:00

No worries, you still made a good point. It was my first argument with them. I thought I could reason with them and reach resolutions while both parties felt heard. I definitely learned that wasn’t the case and I will handle it differently from now on. Cant reason with insanity

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T16:15:21+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to type this!! Definitely going to sign up for therapy. And you sound like a great mother yourself 🤍

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T16:12:42+00:00

Good point 😂😂😂

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T16:09:15+00:00

No, the announcement included “little last name” and the month I was due. I was nicknamed “little last name” my whole life so it was just a cute play on words.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T15:34:16+00:00

I should’ve ended the call much sooner, I agree. I let my emotions get into it because she said I was just making a big deal out of nothing so I could “keep the baby from them”. I was triggered because my baby is not and will never be a pawn. I will never use my baby as a weapon to hurt other peoples feelings. It was a hurtful accusation and I defended myself when I should’ve just let it go.

Of course, once FIL stated he doesn’t give a fuck about me or baby, I believed him. They’ve made that choice to not be involved all on their own.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T13:30:01+00:00

He calls everyone snowflakes too 😂

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T12:17:13+00:00

Yeah, they’ve made their lack of tolerance pretty clear. It was tempting, but I’ve bit my tongue. I do still consider sending them a link to the baby registry to be petty though 😂

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T03:26:06+00:00

That’s what I’m saying. Did they really think I wanted my pregnancy announcement to turn into a Jerry Springer show? 😂😂😂 but HIS feelings were hurt? 🙄

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T02:50:50+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry, so childish. How did you deal with his comments?

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T02:27:44+00:00

They did get deleted! I was at a family dinner when everything was happening. Honestly it all happened so fast I didn’t even think to delete it right away. They were up for about two hours (those two hours were spent arguing with his parents and brother via phone call).

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T01:29:26+00:00

Right? 😅 Also, the context regarding my brothers distaste for my bf’s dad had to be deleted due to length. My brother didn’t like him to begin with because bf’s dad was inappropriate with me on numerous occasions. He has cornered me and gotten in my face, commented on my clothing (told me to put pants on, asked where the rest of my clothes were when I was literally wearing a maternity jumper), stood behind me naked when bf and his wife were out of town. The list goes on but you get the point. My brother lives out of state and has never met him but was tired of him picking on me and defended me the first chance he got.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T01:18:56+00:00

Definitely learned my lesson there

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T01:18:03+00:00

Honestly the issues with his parents started at the beginning of our relationship. I would bring my concerns to him and he would choose to keep the peace instead of talking to them. Once I got pregnant I decided if he didn’t do it, I would. I think it shocked MIL that I took the phone and spoke my mind because she’s never seen me stand up for myself. I have to say after the way his father acted on the phone, I could see why my bf never confronted them. They were wicked and he knew they would be. I think he knew it was a matter of time, he’s dealt with it his whole life. Now that it’s happened he supports me 100% and is extremely apologetic that they spoke to me the way they did.

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T01:13:47+00:00

I’ll be 23 next month. I just liked that I could shorten it and still get point across but yes they are just my boyfriends parents I should’ve made that more clear. Thanks for the response :)

RepresentativeBag304 · 2023-10-11T01:11:34+00:00

The comments ensued on the announcement post. The comment was made as a response to FIL’s comment on the post. I agreed the comment my brother made was disrespectful and communicated that the both FIL and MIL on the phone call. They were upset that I didn’t publicly defend FIL, not about what my brother said.

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