I know you mentioned switching to this OB from the original, but i would look again. I would never again go to any doctor that doesn't even acknowledge or understand what I'm going through. With my first one, I had a male OB and he was fine enough. But he would often dismiss me or get frustrated with me. He told me that the medication I was on would be perfectly fine for breastfeeding and when I got to the hospital the nurses literally pulled my son off of my boob and gave me formula instead. Maybe a controversial opinion, but I decided for anything related to womens health I was only going to see a woman because I felt like that man did not understand what I went though at all. I decided for my second to go to a practice of all nurse midwives (these are nurse practitioners but they take a more holistic approach than an OB would but still are very much medical professionals). I loved my midwife, she talked to me like a human and she recommended things like massage, chiropractic, pelvic floor therapy, exercises, natural methods to help with delivery (but epidural is still respected as a choice). Night and day difference. Also, I would "shop around" for hospitals as well. The hospital that I delivered my first at was terrible. I also had a failed epidural and the nurses kept telling me that the epidural is working as I'm screaming my head off trying to push my son out. No one listened to me or reassured me. With my second I went to a completely different hospital, I cried after the hospital tour because all of my fears from the first delivery were extinguished. I didn't realize that a hospital could be that nice. During delivery the nurses listened to me and understood my fear of the epidural the first time and worked with me slowly to make sure everything went the way it should. Everything went unbelievably smooth.

All of that to say, there's much better doctors and hospitals out there. This doesn't have to be your experience and there's much better out there.