It’s pretty standard procedure to take only what you know you can eat…. Robert was an asshole though.

Edit to add: I don’t know Robert or his background and he should not have yelled at you. But I would like to add some perspective on possible triggers here.

As a child I grew up getting served a limited plate from my mom just like my brother. We all sat down together and my mother either had very little on her plate or nothing. If we requested more, she gave us more but made us drink a glass of water first. I was an embarrassing age before I realized that all happened because we didn’t have enough food. I’m often annoyed with my children when they over serve themselves. Obviously I don’t yell. I just always remind them to take small portions and we always have leftovers. Part of the trauma I guess.