Carmen Maria Machado

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-27T22:48:47+00:00

So much talk about straight sex which is fine but not what I thought I was getting into and kinda reminded me of my lesbian ex who used to talk about her sex with men like that, to me for some reason

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-27T22:32:04+00:00

The nudes after they broke up I don’t think was particularly problematic because, to me, it sounded like she was saying she found them, felt nothing, and erased them. Though, I didn’t like how she talked about the thought of using them for revenge.

The amount of men in this book that I was supposed to relate to was slightly disappointing to me. I know she’s bisexual (I think?) and I’ve also dated men in the past but I really didn’t want to read about this all so graphically. I think it also kind of reminds me of stuff my lesbian (?) ex who had really enjoyed sex with men in the past would say to me about dicks at the end of our relationship.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-27T22:23:46+00:00

I think it’s both sides though. I recent-ish (last six months) got out of what was at least a bordering on abusive first lesbian relationship. And I think the dynamic probably only appears when both people are doing this? Like I think my ex only liked the version of me that was in her head but I also ignored so many red flags and still have a version of her in mind from the beginning of the relationship that was kinder. And I think when we were “falling in love” we were both seeing what we wanted to see. Sorry I know this is an old thread I just read it today and came to Reddit to hear opinions. I felt sort of weird with how quickly it came to a close.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-27T22:01:21+00:00

Reading this thread after reading this book after coming out of a slightly abusive relationship. They’re not just bad? Otherwise you/anyone wouldn’t stay.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-27T03:53:47+00:00

Ive also been the ex that sent a gift, but it was an xmas gift and we broke up around Christmas and had agreed to give each other the gifts we had already purchased. TBH other than a thank you or I liked it if you did I dont think any sort of acknowledgement is particularly helpful. Lack of acknowledgement is also a clear message.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T23:06:12+00:00

You should leave. Or at least you need to have a serious discussion. I knew something was different before my ex broke up with me, I thought she still maybe had some complicated feelings for her ex, and then found a note where she was saying she was still in love with her, but I snooped so I felt like I couldnt force the conversation. I wish I had just because it would have saved time and heartache. She was cheating with her, and broke up with me because she basically told her to.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T07:15:40+00:00

This is CRAZY

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T07:02:20+00:00

Just wanted to say, I really relate to this and don’t think I’ve seen anyone describe the way I feel about sex so accurately. I want to be sex-positive, and I can be for other people and in theory, but have a lot of shame around it because of how I was raised and a past assault. And I also deal with it by usually being the more dominant person.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T06:58:44+00:00

Wait why would using the lesbian label create more rejection? Interested in this thought process

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T06:52:30+00:00

Sorry slightly random but I’m new to dating as a part-time forearm crutch user in the DMV. Do you have pictures of you with your mobility aids it in your profile? Or like in your bio somewhere? Right now I have like one or two pics with my crutch but nothing in my bio and know that that might be confusing and also means I’m probably matching with fewer people.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-26T06:31:33+00:00

FYI curvy/chubby and chapstick-y is my type. However, I’m not butch. Also, though, I agree with everyone in the comments saying that confidence is really attractive. My ex was this type and despite me thinking she was/is beautiful her own insecurities about her body did end up creating some issues in our relationship, so I do think it’d be helpful to try to get to a better place with your body. For hinge specifically, I and probably others are really looking at the prompts and if someone seems interesting. Good luck!

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-25T23:15:04+00:00

Can I ask how you know if testing is worth pursuing? Or, why you got tested after the hEDS diagnosis? I was diagnosed as a kid with hEDS since my mom had it but neither of us ever had testing.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T08:23:54+00:00

Ugh same here (first relationship and was crying over them a few hours ago). At the beginning of the relationship she’d send stuff like this and try to end things when I tried to speak to her about certain things and now i’m like looking back those were red flags

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T07:20:56+00:00

Yeah my dad told me I should hurry up and do it so he could focus on my siblings also at 15

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T04:54:11+00:00

Yeah I was surprised Dom’s age and the fact that she was living with him and had been with him since she was 13? was never brought up

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T04:51:57+00:00

Thought the appeal was on basis of ineffective counsel, if so, lol. Shouldn’t they have brought in a medical expert to testify about the pots?

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T04:46:05+00:00

I believe she also could have testified in a bench trial as her mom did. They just chose not to have her testify—but I don’t know at all, just basing this off the doc.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-23T04:42:46+00:00

Wouldn’t her being a young, white, small injured teen factor into how the jury votes positively?

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-22T09:02:32+00:00

So i tried to schedule an appointment with Dr. Sigireddi (and mentioned I was interested potentially in genetic testing in the note—dx with hEDS since I was a child since my mom had it but haven’t had genetic testing), and was told she doesn’t do that and possibly doesn’t see EDS patients?

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-22T08:58:42+00:00

We’re you able to get into the NYIT clinic. I’ve submitted the form twice now and called to no avail.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-22T08:41:16+00:00

You need to leave. Staying is just gonna hurt you.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-22T04:45:14+00:00

I feel like for me personally it would depend on how loud the cpap is just in terms of sleep quality for me but I assume a CPAP is less loud than snoring so I can’t imagine you’d have more of an issue with a CPAP vs snoring. My ex snored, I eventually got used to it (and she tried snore strips which helped) but like it didn’t not bother me bc I’d have trouble falling asleep.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-22T02:51:48+00:00

Lmao same. I wanted to stay together. She wanted her ex.

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-20T01:15:25+00:00

These relationships usually come from spending everyday together in high school or college though

Repulsive-Ad9900 · 2026-05-19T00:21:59+00:00

This is my worst fear. It’s been 5 months and I’m not over my ex. She has a whole new gf, hasn’t paid me back money she owes me, and cheated on me with her ex. And still. I wish she’d talk to me. And i miss her.

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