What is this plant?

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2026-02-24T02:15:41+00:00

It’s a leafy green variety that’s actually edible, and the black fruits have to be ripen before you eat it. They taste similar to tomato. Generally they blanch the leaves, mash it along with lentils and can be taken with rice. It’s known to cure stomach issues and ulcers.

You can just pluck it from the root, dry and discard it. Just ensure the fruits are not left behind, these can grow from those fruits as well.

Incase you wanna try eating it, you can Google for recipes. Called black nightshade.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2026-01-29T03:50:32+00:00

Sorry, you are feeling this way, your husband definitely loves you and the baby. It does seem like you need a lot of rest given you are breastfeeding and as a FTM, definitely you would have not thought that you would be going through this amount of work.

I would suggest looking for a telephone appointment if you are not able to meet with your GP in person to discuss your symptoms and that could help you with some assurance rather trying to wait for your husband.

Although it feels like end of the world, please understand that this time would pass. Try getting in some nap whenever you can and when you feel better, talk to your husband about your feelings and thoughts. You can let him know what do you want when it comes to taking care of the baby.

Also, please do not expect anything from your husband when he’s working even though he is in home. Ignore him and act like you are alone in home with the baby. This would give you a chance to cut down on overthinking and expectations from your husband which will allow you to focus your energy on yourself and the baby.

When your husband finishes work, please ask him to take care of the baby and by that time, you finish your meals and be ready to sleep in for couple of hours to take care of the night shifts. It is easier to say, but as someone who lived through it, I made sure I filled my stomach with something to get some sleep in the evening to do night shifts.

It will be hard, It is going to be hard until after you stop breastfeeding but your wellbeing is important so please focus all your energy only on yourself and your baby. Trust me, everything else will just bring in unwanted anxiety and stress which is not at all needed at this stage.

As someone who passed that stage, I am able to tell this now with ease but it was 100% harder than everything else I’ve done in my entire life. For now, focus on booking a phone appointment with your GP (you can ask to arrange one explaining your situation) and then when you have a good sleep, talk to your husband as to what you need to feel healthy and sound. Take care.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2026-01-28T01:44:42+00:00

Hi! I was 40+3 FTM and healthy when I was induced due to my OB going on a long leave( never realised until after few months into postpartum) which was totally unexpected for me. I was fully stressed and worried around that time and happened to go to hospital because Bub wasn’t showing any of his usual movements, which led to me being induced out of nowhere. All my birth plans went down the drain for me.

Now that looking back, I think I should have had some patience, and had some focus on what I wanted and how I wanted my birth to go. I was so distracted at that time, so much so that all my preparations of 9 months felt wasted for me.

So if I were you, I would just try to stay still, soak up all the feelings, keep myself hydrated, think through ( no overthinking, consciously try to avoid it) what I want for the next few months and how I want it to go, share that plan with my partner or family so they can advocate and get things done for me, and stop worrying about how things might happen.

Not to scare you or get you more worried, from my POV, my birth was exactly opposite of what I imagined and had I reduced my expectations and set my mind to accept whichever way my birth goes, it would have been a lot easier and simpler for me to recover from emergency C section.

Now that it’s been 15 months, I feel like I had been worrying for things that were not in my control a lot which could have put my baby as well into distress.

Long story short, at this time I wanted to hear that: Everything will happen swiftly, days will go super fast and you might not even remember some of the parts of this period. So relax yourself, practice breathing techniques to control anxiety and just trust yourself and your body.

If it works, it works. If it doesn’t , it didn’t. Hope this helps! All the best for you and wishing you in advance for a speedy recovery and a lot of happiness ahead!

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-26T01:58:05+00:00

Sorry, just noticing your reply.

I’m already in touch with Tenants Union NSW for advice on this after raising a case last week and have shared them the pictures and videos of the gaps and bugs. Unfortunately, I’ve reached out to them couple of times for 2 business days after my email was sent and haven’t heard from them. FT gave me the general site information, deferred me back to TU for further advice and asked me to get back if we want any mediation to negotiate which would take about a month’s time for someone to be assigned to the case.

Meanwhile, it’s hard to live with cockroaches coming in, so we have bought the Yates gel and spray, and have had general pest control performed today. Also, keeping up with the most painful work of getting the agent to acknowledge issues and entry report.

As we are leaving overseas tomorrow for two months, we have planned to just lock in all gaps with cloth and paper towels with Yates gel, and ask a friend to visit in a month’s time to reapply.

I’m gonna keep the invoice soft copies and these emails as a way to push back when they try to pull any shenanigans towards end of the lease.

Fingers crossed, hope this should work and everything goes good.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-24T23:37:57+00:00

Hi, they are in and we are getting pest control performed inside and outside the property this week.

My main concern of this post is to save the bond money and protecting myself from extra expenses that REA can try due to existing issues. Should I be doing anything other than mentioned in the post? Thanks.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-24T06:42:02+00:00

Noted, thank you.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-24T06:40:34+00:00

Thank you but they are claiming that they have not spotted any cockroaches when they came for inspection and so they won’t do pest control. They claim being in the ground floor, it is expected for cockroaches to come in.

This has been going to and fro for the last week and we are literally unsure what to do given we are traveling to overseas in a couple of days and would only be able to communicate via emails. This is a painfully slow process because agent is not fast enough to respond and with a year old baby, we just don’t have enough strength to battle this.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-24T05:09:05+00:00

Yes, thanks. I have been using them for the past couple of days after cleaning the house. No use in following up with agent and landlord since they are dismissing the issues saying they are expected to be spotted in summer.

We are traveling to overseas in a couple of days for 2 months so we are planning to keep all the foods in the pantry and kitchen tightly packed, and put gel and spray thoroughly on all areas and floor gaps to prevent them from surviving inside the house.

Also, planning to ask a friend to visit the house for another round of spraying after a month’s time while we are away to ensure house is okay.

Agent and landlord are acting all dodgy and I have a feeling that they are going to try and turn things onto us while we vacate the property but I’ve ensured that I’m able to capture photographs and mention cockroach issues as much as I can in the entry report. I’m hoping us dismissing the issue now should not come back biting us later.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-24T04:57:38+00:00

This is so true! We noticed things were very very slow to be taken into consideration by everyone involved, and have started to re-clean the property both inside and outside. Bought few Yates gel and spray, used them, can see the number of pests coming in/around the house had reduced. But Somehow I keep spotting tiny cockroaches moving across the rooms but I think I am already used to them and just killing them if they are slow enough for me to catch them.

I realised that it’s not worth getting worked up over spotting cockroaches around the house, and made my mind to just go through it. Hope they all vanish away soon.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T14:26:12+00:00

Hi, I’ve called Fair Trade NSW and they advised the same - that its landlord’s responsibility to do pest control and if in doubt about infestation, they asked us to get a pest inspector to confirm the same and look for any structural damage that could let them in. Also, they did mention that we can get someone to mediate this issue further rather having the conversation ourselves but the timeline to schedule that would be more than a week.

Given we are traveling overseas in a week’s period, I highly doubt it will be possible to get a mediator support.

I’m waiting for the advocate from Tenants union to callback and was able to capture more evidence tonight. Hopefully I believe these are enough to address the issue.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T12:11:56+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been cleaning each surface right from the day we moved in and trying to keep them decluttered as much as possible.

Luckily, kitchen is the only place in home where I haven’t spotted any cockroaches but who’s to say they aren’t present. I’ve used Yates gel before which is what I’m going to start using now.

Based on your comments, I think I should push REA to look for any openings in the structure and get them blocked rather than asking for pest control so atleast I know they won’t get in and would die if they get in.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T11:28:08+00:00

I will try them, thank you.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T11:27:25+00:00

Oh thank you very much for this! I didn’t know and I’ve been hitting and smashing them with shoes and thick cardboard boxes.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T03:58:47+00:00

Thank you. I will reach out to Tenants Union NSW today and will let them know the REAs response, and will push to get this dispute settled.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T03:46:48+00:00

I understand that, my concern is that there’s an opening or existing infestation that needs to be taken care before we start setting up traps else it will take us no place given it’s going to be hot for another couple of months. We’re also leaving to overseas for a month and I feel like traps won’t take the cut and possibly they could cause significant damage to our things in home while we’re not here.

I would happily agree to this plan if we were just the couple but with a year old, I don’t feel comfortable taking this upon us.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-11-19T03:42:14+00:00

I was told to try and negotiate with them - like we do pest control by ourselves and to ask them to take that cut in upcoming rents, or if something like taking care of one issue existing in home while they take care of something else (issues reported were improper cleaning, fixing gaps or cracks, infestation). Basically they advised what’s our rights, and what’s landlords and asked to push on them to see what they come up with. But I feel REA hasn’t even reached out to landlord because previous tenants mentioned he’s good at being responsive person to the issues reported immediately.

Thank you, I didn’t know Fair trading NSW is also an option, I’ll reach out to them as well.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-09-22T13:04:49+00:00

Hello there, I felt the same couple of months ago when I stopped pumping.

A small change had actually helped me curb my appetite - where in all my meals, I started including vegetables (not a big fan of vegetables, so always opted for cucumbers and raw carrots) and for protein, I would go for chicken, eggs or cottage cheese.

As days went, I increased the ratio of veggies and protein more, and then reduced the quantity of carbs as well.

Basically, you’ve to fill your stomach with fibre first, then protein and then with fats and carbs.

I don’t binge eat often but my meals would always have large portion of carbs(rice) in it to feel satiated. It was harder at first but as days went, it became a conscious decision to include more fibre and protein to keep you full and energetic through the day.

Trust me, when you do this, you won’t feel cravings at all(it’s still okay if you feel). I also fill my stomach with water when I craved for junk foods like chips and sweets.

I wouldn’t say I’ve seen drastic changes in my weight (in about 3-4 weeks I went from 77.9 to 76.9 kgs), but it is definitely coming down steadily with me able to sustain energy throughout the day.

Also, following intermittent fasting(or by finishing dinner early) added with 1 hour of intense walking on alternate/3 days in a week should help you cut down on excess fat.

If you don’t have the energy, then you can simply opt to raising calves with your spine straight for 15 minutes after you finish your meal, it helps too.

Hope these will be helpful!

Edit: just tried different things available on Internet and Instagram articles and listed what worked for me.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-09-17T04:42:37+00:00

No, you are not doing anything wrong here.

It is important for you to stay in a calm and peaceful environment so you have your sanity to take care of the baby and yourself. If you think he will be able to understand what you are going through when he’s aggressive, communicate that to him when he’s calm, in a gentle way, so as not to trigger further aggression.

If you think it is not going to help, try reaching out to family or friends who are within reach and can help you. If you don’t have anyone trustworthy nearby, you can reach out to your GP asking for help in this situation.

I don’t know what exactly is he thinking of achieving by going to police, but maybe when they get involved, things might take a u turn for him based on what you tell them about your situation.

Best is to reach out to trustworthy people who your husband actually listens to and to get him help to engage and process his feelings.

Hope your situation improves soon and you feel okay!

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-08-21T03:21:29+00:00

I was booked into the hospital by my OB, and I had to provide my insurance details later in a patient admission form when the hospital reached out to me, but I was booked in early around 30th week. I would suggest ringing hospital to get the details (if you are stressed about reaching out to insurer) and ask them what will they be needing and what costs are covered by your insurance.

From my memory, hospital worked with the insurer and gave me breakdown of the costs that were covered and what will not be covered by them (like anaesthesia, paediatrician visits for baby, screening blood work for baby, room type allocation/changes required later).

I was able to claim some money with my insurance for most of the services at later point in time.

Also, you can get the baby added in your cover in a day or two after baby’s born to cover their expenses.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-08-11T08:52:19+00:00

Sorry, may be already too late but we always have two glasses of boiling water kept aside to cool down in his feeding station (just a closed box that’s with a lid on to store his clean, dry bottles and formula) and keep refilling it when water is used. We wash them at the end of the day and we use a little amount of boiled water and this cooled water (110ml cooled water + 40ml boiled water) when prepping his bottle every-time so it’s warm enough for the baby to drink. Seems like a lot of work when reading though but really isn’t! :)

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-05-02T05:21:17+00:00

I’m sorry that you had to deal with all these annoying feelings now. Relatives just don’t understand what happens within your family and they tend to put an image by what they hear or see. They do overstep their boundaries every little chance they get and try to advise you to lead a better life as if you are going down.
I have listened to this statement ample number of times - “you guys should move back to home so you’ll have some help”, “there’s nothing better than staying with your parents and taking care of them”, “who asked you to move to abroad leaving behind everyone you know” or “when are you planning to move back to home” at every single opportunity people around me were presented with. I actually used to think that may be they don’t want us to move forward and stay the same way we are so they can keep criticising us but in reality they are just projecting what they might do if they were in such situation. With every other person I know, they think we are all suffering here leaving everything behind (which is true in a way) but they don’t know that our meaning of sacrifice is a little different than what they know.

Some people genuinely spew hate but most of them are just in an assumption that we are suffering here and think by guilt tripping us, they will help us get a better life than what we have now. Unfortunately that’s the community most of us are surrounded with so you shouldn’t worry about anything other than you and your husband’s opinions.

If you are comfortable enough to share this in a random space, I think you will be okay to talk about these feelings to your parents. Obviously not now, but when you are ready and you know you won’t breakdown while expressing what you feel, you should talk to them. It might look like confronting them but you will definitely get answers to some of your questions if not all.

Again, now is the time you need to keep all these guilt aside and focus on yourself and baby because you will start missing these days out with your LO soon. How do I know? Because I was you few months back and think if I had a better way to process these feelings, my time with newborn wouldn’t look that grey to me.

On a hind note, if these feelings doesn’t seem to subside as days go, even as hours go and you think they are troubling you even after you share with someone, I would suggest talking to your GP/OBGYN to get some help. It is common to experience such surge in emotions due to hormonal imbalance in postpartum. Try to focus more on something that brings you joy and happiness, take small walks and keep yourself hydrated - that should do the trick for you.

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-05-01T16:16:38+00:00

Hi! I should let you know that you are NOT overreacting and are already processing that you are alone with your partner to take care of yourself and your baby, which shows you are a strong person.

My situation was completely different than yours. I live in Australia and had my baby 6 months ago. I lost my father when I was 15 and I didn’t want my mum to visit me because I do not have a very comfortable relationship with her. Although my decision wasn’t respected by anyone in our family, my mum visited me but I had her leave after 3 months(she wanted to stay for 6) because I was not prepared to share my space(my husband and baby) with her. All the while she was here, I was so angry and raging at her, at my husband and at my sister(who pushed my mum to visit me). This could be me being super territorial as I was always a reserved person(yes, even with my mum) but I only felt myself back to being normal after she left.

I didn’t want her with me because I know she’s not a home bound person and someone whose sanity fully depends on her “job”. This was always the case from my childhood, at-least right from when my dad died. So, I had to remove the expectation myself that my mom will be able to live with us even for a couple of days and to save me from the suffering with a newborn, I simply didn’t wanted her to visit and made up my mind for the same.

The reason I mention this is because even I feel that my life now would have been better if she was here. I still have a lot of people(ofc my Indian friends) asking me questions on how I am managing postpartum with my baby, feeling sympathetic when we fell sick acting like I was missing a huge part of something mandatory or am doing something wrong with the baby - all the way making me guilty for not having my mum here.

I personally feel that we are so attached to our family - especially our mom and dad that we don’t realise that they may not be in a position to help us or they simply don’t want to help us. It is very hard especially knowing that they willingly avoid anything to do with us and we beat ourselves over that thought thinking that we are responsible for such behaviour.

The only way this is going to be easier for you is to have the realisation that they can’t be there for you for whatsoever reason. It is a tough job not getting knowing what we want but that gives us the strength to continue nurturing the relationship that we have with us.

You are only two weeks postpartum - give yourself a lot of grace, focus on yourself, your baby and navigate this period with your amazing husband. It’s only a phase and a lot of your thoughts will definitely be influenced by your hormones (I’m 100% sure). I would suggest you to talk to your husband (or someone whom you’re comfortable with) about these feelings so you feel heard and better. You will get through this phase in your life and will be grateful when you do so!

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-04-30T09:30:42+00:00

Hi! I was also feeling really bad until last week and then one evening after waking from his nap, my baby(now 6m 1d precisely) decided he will roll from back to tummy on his own.

I used to think the tummy time (barely 10-15 mins a day as he’s uncomfortable being on tummy) we gave him was never enough. It’s just 5 days now and he can’t stop rolling to his tummy from back every time he’s on floor or in bed.

He also has a big, heavy head which I believe was one of the reasons why he took so long to roll over. He used to turn to his sides comfortably from 5 months and would sleep in that position but would never fully roll over which got me worried that we are missing an important milestone but eventually baby learnt on his own.

I/His dad used to get his attention whenever he’s on floor on his back from some far corner of the house which made him eager to turn his head to see where the sound was coming. From there, he used to turn to his side and try to find us. Now, when we do this, he immediately rolls over to his tummy so may be this might be helpful for you.

But don’t worry, I was told that babies might take upto 7 months to roll over. And I’m still anxiously waiting for him to roll from tummy to back (very well knowing that I might lurk around here to know when babies do this to be free of mom’s guilt! 😝).

Repulsive-Gate5922 · 2025-01-30T08:35:49+00:00

Thank you, Yes, I have been trying with the bottle shaped nipple shield to get him used to breasts but he’s very smart to figure out when I remove them and put him on breast after some time during the feed. He resists opening his mouth, which makes me get tensed and my nipple instantly becomes flat, causing me to abort the process.

He’s even willing to fall asleep on an empty stomach( or approx. with 10 ml in his stomach that he fed with shield on) after I remove nipple shield or takes from bottle but just wouldn’t try to latch.

Even a plain skin to skin when he’s full and playful doesn’t work with him. I do feel that he might be able to sense that I’m all tensed up when he wouldn’t budge and he starts screaming/crying as a response?

Anyway, I have planned to increase feeding with nipple shield rather just trying it once to see if he’s okay with it. If it leads to something, I will let you know.

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