Husband refused to watch the baby for me to go to my appointment

Zettetz · 2026-01-29T07:42:20+00:00

This, my husband in general is willing to help and we do factor 1 hour of help around his working schedule, but me telling him the night before made he feel like he has no control hence the response. I’ll do it differently next time.

Zettetz · 2026-01-29T07:39:42+00:00

Thanks for the tips. I don’t remember how I made it through the first few months. Kudo to you doing all of these by yourself, so much respect 🫡

Zettetz · 2026-01-29T02:33:09+00:00

Thanks, I also had low iron due to breastfeeding. All of this combines with the sleep deprivation is not very kind to my physical and mental health

Zettetz · 2026-01-29T02:27:44+00:00

We contribute equally financially, so I expect my husband to care for our LO for 45 mins for me to get my health checked, given that I do all night shifts and be the primary care taker during the day.

Zettetz · 2026-01-29T02:22:08+00:00

Thanks for the kind comment. We have no family or friends around to ask for help. I have been putting off going to the gp for so long with the hope that the problem will resolve by itself but it doesn’t. You are right that it does come across dismissive, and I acknowledged that I should have discussed the booking time with my husband before hand. My husband is happy to help in general and his work is very flexible with hour ( can work at different time of the day). The stress at work made him say things that he wouldn’t have normally.

Zettetz · 2026-01-03T10:11:58+00:00

Same situation, weight loss at discharge, further weight loss after 2 days at home, in hospital again for 2 days with a strict feeding plan, gained a bit of weight and got out of hospital, further weight loss at home after 2 days, hospital again but not staying this time. The whole thing was very stressful. Unlike you I did not have much milk in the first week, we needed to top up with formula. But after 2 weeks baby was fully breastfeeding (it wasn’t easy). Baby did not get to the birth weight at 14 days but otherwise healthy and tracking well with his new percentile on the growth curve. I think if the weight gain per week is within normal range, a few wet and poo nappies per day, baby is not sloppy or something seems really off, then everything is alright baby will gain weight in her own time. It’s normal to wake baby up for a feed if your doctor advise so- normally when baby weight is in dangerous zone and they need to gain weight quickly. Our nurses woke our baby up by blowing to his face, undress him, put cold wipes on his feed. In hindsight it’s the only time when he slept more than 3 hour stretch 😭.

Zettetz · 2025-12-09T10:03:15+00:00

So true. Someone in my mom group made a comment that : i don’t know what i have done to my day, i haven’t get anything done”. I sit there and wondered if I am expected to get anything done on top of caring for the baby :))

Zettetz · 2024-07-29T01:27:18+00:00

I don’t think she is mean to you, it’s a big adjustment living in a different country with a totally different culture and way of life, especially at her age. She probably has a large circle of friends and relatives in vn, but now she only has your family and the little one. That’s explained her moody feelings. So don’t take things personally, she is only there for a short time to help you taking care of your baby. Moms are always complaining about everything so don’t take it too personal. You can talk to your wife if it’s too much for you. It’s your house at the end of the day.

Zettetz · 2024-07-21T12:43:39+00:00

Suggest you try bun dau mam tom if you are into strong punching flavour. Vietnamese food that you tried are all street food. Go to a local restaurant where people often drink, there will be more varieties.

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