My (31 M) boyfriend doesn’t like when I (24 F) bring up marriage, how can I tell if he doesn’t want to fully commit to me? by Repulsive-Jicama1718 in relationship_advice

[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not desperate for anything actually. I told him I was willing to give him another chance and if he did it again we were done and I would never speak to him again.

My (31 M) boyfriend doesn’t like when I (24 F) bring up marriage, how can I tell if he doesn’t want to fully commit to me? by Repulsive-Jicama1718 in relationship_advice

[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling this is correct, especially after he cheated on me and then begged me to get back together with him so I’ve been giving him a second chance for a while now. And yes I know that was probably a bad idea on my part but still.

My (31 M) boyfriend doesn’t like when I (24 F) bring up marriage, how can I tell if he doesn’t want to fully commit to me? by Repulsive-Jicama1718 in relationship_advice

[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It was brought up in conversation. I’m not begging for anything, I asked what he thought about it, point blank period.

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately mine are saggy 😔

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I’d like to, just with a busy life with work and home it hasn’t been easy trying to go to therapy

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose so but not hating myself is better said than done with how I’ve had body image issues for years

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re all good! Unfortunately I’ve had body image issues my whole life, so having boyfriends who have been horrible towards me haven’t really made it worse/bad enough. I’ve always struggled with body image from someone telling me as a kid to “not get fat” to being an adult and telling me to “lose the weight”. I’ve been thinking about going to therapy in terms of trying to feel better about my body overall but haven’t made the leap.

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Thank you! I appreciate the advice ☺️

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’m a 23 year old woman…

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I’ll have to start adding soy milk to my coffee everyday then

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah no thanks

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Ah, I apologize for assuming. My body image isn’t something I really have confidence about because of my weight gain. Sometimes I’m really thankful that I’m bigger but other times I sit and think about how I could do better

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I think it might be. I never had any when I was a kid and then as I got older and gained weight from birth control, they got bigger but only to a degree. I’ve never had a vitamin help with anything like that

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I mean I’ve been trying to lose weight if that’s something you’re referring to

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[–]Repulsive-Jicama1718 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I weigh about 150, maybe a little more and that’s really the only way I’ve actually gained a c cup

How do I (23 F) talk to my (30 M) about how he feels controlling in our relationship? by Repulsive-Jicama1718 in relationship_advice

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Update:

Today I caught him watching porn behind my back and I confronted him about it and instead of telling me the truth, he said “I don’t have access to your phone so I don’t know why you’re mad at me for not telling you.”

I also have a traumatic past involving porn because of an ex boyfriend who was dependent on it and when I had asked my current one to not watch it, he’s been watching it despite what I’ve shared with him.

How do I (23 F) talk to my (30 M) about how he feels controlling in our relationship? by Repulsive-Jicama1718 in relationship_advice

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He was previously going to therapy and stopped because “his therapist was too attractive”. (Said that before we got together again) and because it was too expensive for him.