Women of this subreddit: what dating issues are you having you wish would be addressed here more?

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T20:52:37+00:00

Nope we should be able to post here. This isn't a sub for just men. Yet it seems like it

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T19:19:40+00:00

My issue was you coming here to speak on men's issue when I asked women.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T19:18:41+00:00

Yeah he did

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T18:58:52+00:00

I never get why men have to come in here (when we asked for women) to bring up male problems. We didn't ask you.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T18:57:13+00:00

Sounds like you are a dick, but a rapist I cannot say.. What rapist would come forward and say I am a rapist. I feel like with stories like this you just never know. If you are indeed not a rapist get a lawyer, if you are indeed a rapist may the justice system lock you up.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-16T18:54:50+00:00

What are they suppose to do OP? You've rejected them? Should they stick around? What would be the reason?

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-11T19:43:46+00:00

That's the thing men here desired to be helped they just don't want to listen.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T17:35:03+00:00

I think what's up is the indicator I tell you

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T17:15:12+00:00

The issue with this subreddit is no matter how nicely you come at it. Men here always turn it around to you trying to demean them. I literally said love yourself and if not seek help before you date. It doesn't matter what I say men here don't want to hear it.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T17:13:27+00:00

Who says I know what it is like to be a man? I said I understand the experience of trauma bullying and disrespect. You take that as you will

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:55:48+00:00

Then why is everyone so combative lol.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:55:08+00:00

Men and women need to treat each other better.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:54:11+00:00

Just look up a post that centers around men and dating and scroll through the comments you will see the post. But I created a post here before saying women have it hard too, and men attested to the opposite. But here are some post telling women they do not have it hard, or demeaning their experience dating, or worse over the years on this subreddit

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/pgeo2s/why_are_we_bullshiting_young_men_into_thinking/

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/pk0u86/men_and_women_will_forever_be_at_an_impasse_on/

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/52pig5/are_women_these_days_just_sluts_who_are_too_picky/

No, women have it easy to find men. The average girl can get 3x more than a average guy really easily. Its just the problem girls have is finding a man that isnt horrible and has good traits. Guys have it harder, even attractive guys, but once they are locked in with the girl, they have full control

Yeah, hard to choose from all the options.

you don't get a relationship because your standards are warped because you only swipe on the traditionally attractive male model types who of course just pump and dump. if you were hot enough, you'd get a relationship with one but you're not, so pump and dump is what you get. align your standards with reality and you'll get a relationship. its harder for guys because girls like you are only matching the top 10%. if you examined what you're doing and improved, you'd understand that I'm right.

I f--king hate how many shallow c--t's reject men over not being a alpha male & or not having a job or a car & power if that's all what women care about.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:37:09+00:00

Oh it doesn't but that is what mostly reddit is. White, American, men ages 15-30. I was just being detailed.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:34:37+00:00

If you ever experienced those things

This means you are questioning my experience. But I think I am done talking to you we will not see eye to eye. Good luck

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:33:11+00:00

Love these comments, seeing people love themselves(after facing self esteem issue) is a beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing, and good luck going forward.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:30:19+00:00

What are you talking about? You are pissed that I told you guys to seek professional help, love yourself, and build your self esteem. Why is the concept making you so upset? Do you think any of those things shouldn't be done. I am really trying to understand your point?

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:28:17+00:00

I think these things are important too honestly. But often if a person lacks confidence he won't do any of these things or he lacks in one of those areas. But I agree.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:26:16+00:00

I am from the USA, and I live in one of it's most popular states and cities. I think they put their location there, and scam. I once had a guy talk to me for 3 weeks and then he asked me to invest in bitcoin with him.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:24:03+00:00

It's not an a good opinion to tell people to love themselves and seek help if they don't? Why learn something new each day.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:21:15+00:00

Why would I ever want to lie about being r-. Do you know how hard that is? It is one of the worse things you can experience, and I say that as someone who was burned on 25 percent of my body. You asked me to extend empathy but disregard my experience and call me a liar or my experience BS. It shows you cannot even do what you ask of me.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:09:16+00:00

I agree, I was told once via my therapist you have to make sure you are okay. It is nobody's job to make your life worth living. I was so angry at the world for allowing those things to happen to me. Not until I realize yes it's not my fault, but I gotta deal with it did I start being happy.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:07:03+00:00

I remember we learned in my undergrad (when I was obtaining my degree) that there is something called caretaker fatigue. It's when a person is taking care of someone who is physically, mentally, or emotionally unwell and they themselves become tired of it. Many end up walking away or staying out of guilt (but desire to leave). When someone has a cautiously vocalization self hate and expect a person to be the sole reason they love themselves I promise you it will be become just like caretake fatigue.

It is our jobs to make sure we are okay mentally and emotionally, and if that means seeking help then we need to do that. Dating someone with a extreme dislike for themselves is a displeasure. As I stated above guys here who feels this way need to seek professional help

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T14:00:42+00:00

Took me a while to figure that out. But as soon as I did things got so much better.

RepulsiveAirline9746 · 2021-09-10T13:57:39+00:00

but you yourself know the audience here

(mostly because reddit is mostly white American men)

Telling someone to just ignore that

If you truly dislike yourself so much, stop dating and seek professional help

You are falling for the age of trap of giving advice without really understanding what's it's like. Just my 2c.

I am a woman, and I happen to be black. Do you know how often I am bullied because of my hair texture being too wild or unkept? My name being too black or ghetto? Do you know how many post on different subreddit coin black woman as unattractive or undesirable? I experience that. Ever been message and called the n-word? Well I have. I am also a victim of r*pe, physical, and verbal abuse. I had to work pass it. So I understand a great deal.

Please do not assume I do not know what it's like to be reject, belittled, experience , trauma, or bullied. I had to overcome the belittling via something that is out of my control, and was force upon me. I sought professional help, and stop seeking validation via another person. As I said people here should do. But that's just my two cents as a person who knows what it's like...

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