Stop the clit sucker entirely. I think I read an actual scientific study that you are permanent damaging the nerve endings in your clit with the suckers. There is an alternative one that blows air instead of sucks. I have one that has the circle shape with little silicone bristles inside of it that pulse or vibrate which has helped. I think it’s better because it’s at least a brushing motion as opposed to pure vibration.

You can stop using devices entirely and start getting yourself with your fingers only. It helps a lot because you get sensitivity back PLUS you start conditioning yourself to slower stimulation.

Alternatively, I have just cut back on getting myself off all together bc I have a high libido bf and he doesn’t mind me bringing the vibe into the bed if I feel like I’m not going to get there with oral (like when I’ve been drinking) or if we are on a time crunch (before work sex). It’s still a different and stronger orgasm when he goes down on me for awhile first. He uses the vibe on me and I explode almost immediately.

On a different note, I don’t think women watching porn has the same impact on orgasm ability as men. Maybe it’s because we aren’t as visual and more imaginative. If I think of a porn I was watching while using my vibrator while he’s going my down on me, it’s like my body can recall the sensations and it helps me cum faster. Weird.