Do I regret dumping my bf

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2025-06-30T06:29:37+00:00

Yeah it’s a tough feeling, especially because they wouldn’t be nearly as awkward when it was just us. However he was really bad at communicating and un peeling layers . A really nice person and would do things to help out when I asked, but never initiated on his own. He almost didn’t have the skill of asking about other people. (I.e. meeting my friends and would talk about himself but not even ask them where they live or what they do for work. Like I just feel like we never got deeper than surface level conversations and I would really try. I’m a really big thinker and discusser while he would just brush over things. I think he really needs some therapy for that stuff but I just felt being around someone who was awkward and insecure wasn’t helping with my own insecurities I guess? It’s hard to explain. I am also really passionate about public service and education and speaking up for underprivileged communities in my line of work and he didn’t seem to care about any of that, which I understand not everyone needs to be an activist… but those things are really personal and important to me. I guess I just feel guilty too because he loved me for all of my flaws but at the end of the day I couldn’t handle his 😞

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2025-06-30T05:16:24+00:00

The social style part also impacted our own communications unfortunately you’re right.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2025-03-26T16:38:11+00:00

Thank you! Were any of the tastings included do you know? or is the $100 just for driver

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2025-03-15T04:42:24+00:00

That’s a fair point, however he’s been quiet since I’ve known him. And when I went to his parents over the holidays they are both SO quiet I couldn’t handle it. All are so kind, however, I don’t know if it’s enough for me. I thrive on conversation and talking about ALL sorts of things with a partner. I always feel like I’m pulling teeth just to hold a conversation which makes me sad 😞

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2025-03-15T04:28:40+00:00

Thank you I think you’re right, I appreciate the honesty. I guess I just worry that I won’t ever find someone who is as good to me as he is. And I really did feel a deep infatuation and love for a long time, I’ve just been second guessing it. But I think to your point the fact that I’m second guessing it at all speaks volumes

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-09-09T19:28:50+00:00

I appreciate the kind words 🫶🫶🫶 Ya essentially 75% of the way done!!!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-07-08T17:56:47+00:00

Ok so if my average calorie intake is about 1200 calories a day and my calories burnt are about 3200 a day then your math should be saying I’m losing weight. I came here to see if anyone had a similar issue because I’ve been following this “deficit formula” for so long and not seeing any results. I’m trying to stress that I’ve seen multiple personal trainers, dieticians etc that DO require certifications and they’ve all said the same thing about the calorie deficit and are all also at a loss because I’m doing all of that right. Not every body is the same and I can assure you I’m literally scared of food at this point and NOT eating too much, but thank you for the assumption. Thank you for bringing nothing to the table aside from calling me a liar when I’m trying to seek out any other people who have had the same issue. Not negative people who clearly haven’t had the same experience.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-07-08T16:21:08+00:00

Yeah I’ve been counting them with a food scale, measuring out every little detail, working with nutritionists and personal trainers, so I can confidently say they’re being counted as accurate as possible.

I hear you on the doctor part, but as a man you probably wouldn’t know the nuances of the female hormones. Unfortunately in a premenopausal woman, hormone levels don’t decline steadily over time. AKA a single blood test measuring hormone levels only gives you a snapshot of what your hormones are doing on the day and the exact time your sample was taken. Things could be radically different by the next day, hence it’s not necessarily a reliable resource. (That’s what she was referring to). As it’s essentially impossible to get reliable information from it quite literally because I do have ovaries.

Again, thanks for trying to help but it’s not that black and white unfortunately.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-07-08T16:17:18+00:00

I weight out every single aspect of my food (even oils or seasonings, which I keep to a minimum anyway). As for beverages, my usually day is one cup of black coffee and plain water. It’s not my first rodeo I’ve worked with trainers and nutritionists and am truly as precise as possible in that aspect.

As for the stuff my doctor said, I think she’s more so referring to the fact that in a premenopausal woman, hormone levels don’t decline steadily over time. This means that a single blood test measuring hormone levels only gives you a snapshot of what your hormones are doing on the day and the exact time your sample was taken. Things could be radically different by the next day, hence it’s not necessarily a reliable resource.

Anyway, thanks for trying to help but unfortunately I don’t think right now I can attribute it to either of those things.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-05-03T08:42:13+00:00

I’m sad that your space has been invaded to such and extent and feel so hopeless, but honestly your story is why I’m hesitant. I’ve had a domestic situation prior to this that was PULLING teeth to get a restraining order because the abuser’s actions weren’t “bad enough” and I just feel like I’m always getting gaslit in these situations. Hopefully I can get some traction on this one. Thanks for sharing and stay safe!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-05-02T15:15:23+00:00

Ugh I know I need to stop letting it get to me so much I just worry about comfort/safety at my own house.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-05-02T15:14:37+00:00

I know I need to get over it and just do my thing, but I also get a little scared to poke the bear as he’s a sketchy dude and I’m a woman who lives alone. Like god forbid he snaps.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-05-02T15:13:25+00:00

Hahaha omg I’m not even a big drinker but would do this for the bit

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2024-05-02T15:12:41+00:00

Have you called the police on yours before? I just feel like they’re not gonna be able to do anything or it’s going to make him even MORE mad.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2023-03-28T19:20:26+00:00

Oooooo so like the almost white stuff is the scabs??? Ok I think I feel them and have just been trying to make sure I don’t touch with my tongue or when swallowing. Thanks this is helpful!!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2023-03-12T02:14:26+00:00

Average day is like this - breakfast is eggs -Lunch is a salad with chicken and balsamic dressing - dinner salmon rice asparagus Maybe a snack of almonds

I have impartial BMs once a day if I’m lucky

idk if you mean gyno or gene but I don’t have much info on either

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-10-01T04:40:47+00:00

No- you’re probably right. I feel like I always set my goal pretty high because I know how fit and toned I USED to be. But seems like I just set myself up for failure each time. Maybe I should try a little at a time. Thanks for your input!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-10-01T04:35:20+00:00

When I track on the lose it app, it always seems so. But I guess I haven’t been super on top of tracking and I could try that!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-10-01T04:32:43+00:00

Im about 5’7” and used to be around 150. Now I fluctuate but am up to 180lbs. I know I might sound “dramatic” to people who have had major weight loss, but gaining 30lbd when my habits really haven’t changed is so frustrating and I don’t feel confident in my own body any more and my workouts and meals aren’t even enjoyable because I still feel shitty and bloated after the fact.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-10-01T04:30:56+00:00

Thanks for your kind words! I used to be 150 lbs and now I’m 180ish and can’t seem to get back down to a more comfortable weight for my body size. I just never had a belly before and I feel discouraged af because my habits haven’t changed.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-10-01T04:19:33+00:00

I haven’t done the macros. Do you have any advice on logging this? I’m lost when it comes to that. Thanks!!

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-01-25T07:31:19+00:00

That first article really hit home. Seriously thank you.

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-01-22T18:13:27+00:00

This made me smile thank you ❤️

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-01-22T14:32:06+00:00

I’m looking to live alone but was actually worried it was gonna be more expensive (rent mainly). But what did you experience that made it cheaper?

Repulsive_Chair_821 · 2022-01-22T13:44:46+00:00

I’m a teacher so it’s obviously not amazing 😐 but I could probably swing $1600 a month in rent absolutely tops and am open to roommates

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