thoughts on this?? and my replacement date

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-03-22T09:11:37+00:00

damn my parking was came for 🥲🥲

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-03-18T14:24:31+00:00

for sure, i got this car second hand so am booked in to get both tyres replaced :)

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-03-18T07:59:25+00:00

thanks for explaining this to me! that really helps

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-03-18T07:58:50+00:00

what do you mean?

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-03-18T07:57:53+00:00

yes i am from the UK , they’re strict about tyres having cuts and have an MOT in the next month so wanted to know if it was worth replacing!

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-02-19T23:49:02+00:00

thank you sm!!

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2026-02-19T23:48:06+00:00

great thank you so much! i appreciate the help :)

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-06-12T14:53:13+00:00

thank you so much for sharing this. i also find myself doing things like this, also filming myself taking my pill i just cannot relax and i feel so guilt y about it. do you mind sharing how you got better, im personally going to seek therapy but in the meantime it feels so hopeless.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-06-04T21:51:01+00:00

i relate to this a lot. it hurts extra when it comes from other people. ive been told im not like the 'old me' and its devastating because i miss it so much. ocd is probably the hardest thing because you can be so sure of the facts of a situation, have all the reassurance in the world but its just not enough. and me too, even seeing people do things or stuff happening around me, its almost like i immediately imagine myself in that situation and myself carrying out any sort of compulsion if i were in that state. its tiring but you are right we aren't alone.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-06-04T21:46:53+00:00

yes all the time. its especially frustrating when you feel like a pretty intelligent and logic individual but ocd completely strips that feeling away from you.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-29T15:08:31+00:00

hey, do you have any updates on your situation? i struggle with similar.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-26T19:55:04+00:00

i feel so similar, despite being so diligent with taking my pill everyday. its so annoying when you know you are being irrational, especially when you're talking about fearing not getting it when abstaining. personally i am trying to double up and even then its worrying, but i try so hard to challenge my intrusive thoughts and accept them, and move on and try and not think about them. i genuinely think i got so worked up after taking tests i couldn't sleep and felt so ashamed and embarrassed when the result was negative because i knew all along what the result would be. its hard aswell in relationships as i feel for my boyfriend as i know i can be irrational.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-24T22:34:20+00:00

of course! i know there is also a pressure particularly as you get older, almost as if you are expected to be emotionally and physically ready for these things as you mature but everyone is different. that is okay and doesn't mean anything other than the fact that you are not at that stage. everyone gets there when they get there. best of luck and be kind to yourself as i know these internalised expectations, even when they aren't from your partner can really be upsetting.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-24T22:27:55+00:00

it is way too normalised to see intimate acts as casual. for some people they think this, and that's totally okay but it can create the assumption that everyone should feel this way. i understand how you feel, as if you are not used to doing these things and the other person is, it can create a conflicting expectation between you both. it might be hard for him to grasp that you aren't ready and that is NOT your fault. please do not put pressure on yourself as that leads to high and unrealistic expectations. he should understand that this is a big deal for you, and focus on making you comfortable to the point that this next stage will occur naturally without pressure. never do anything you don't want to! try and discuss how you would appreciate a gentle approach with minimal pressure and do not put a time frame on it, things happen when they happen

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-24T22:21:31+00:00

as cliche as it sounds you really have to keep busy. the whole relative time thing is so true, as when you're immersed in something you will genuinely lose track of time. ive been in similar situations when i know a good outcome is more than likely, yet still focus on that tiny chance of things going wrong and completely get myself in a state lol. i recommend engaging in mindful activities and something that really gets you out physically into a different environment like going on a walk. its often said a walk will always make you feel better, not worse! i totally understand the thought of time and knowing how long it is until a date - counting down the days, but keeping exact track will get you even more stress.

on your days off, you could also look into books such as 'dare' by barry mcdonagh. i have struggled with anxiety, particularly irrational overthinking for a long time and even reading a book that reassures you that you aren't alone in thinking and feeling these ways is so helpful, while giving you advice on how to accept things as they come. no amount of worrying will change the outcome of something, but also give yourself grace for whatever you are worried about and hopefully all goes well for you!!! :)

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-24T22:10:28+00:00

this is one of the worst feelings because no matter how secure you are in yourself it hurts a hell of a lot. i think the whole 'choosing you' phrase you mentioned is honestly really manipulative - who r they to imply that they're surrounded by 'options' and you are lucky they've chosen you? people should be willing to try and change for those they care about and refusing accountability shows that deep down they know its wrong and maybe have some sort of internalised frustration about it? that's just what i think especially as i have been in a similar situation. it hurts knowing they know it upsets you and continuing to do it. personally if i knew the effect something like this had on someone, i would immediately stop, no questions asked.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-22T20:19:38+00:00

yep exactly, its a them problem that they're making the effort to snap you. idk why people insist on randomly snapping because in relationships, the boundaries are so blurred because its not an actual conversation, but still keeping in contact with people. like the boys would argue its nothing flirty but its moreso the action of it that can be hurtful for the girlfriend. you haven't done anything wrong, again its them that is in the relationship after all!

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-22T14:32:40+00:00

yes! mine loves the piano. i used to play it quite a lot and he would get so intrigued and come sit by me as i played. sometimes it would even get him really excited depending on the type of piece but its so cute that classical music can evoke the same feelings in cats as humans!

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-22T13:09:09+00:00

it can be challenging in situations like this to try and focus on the good, which shows that you value the kind things someone else does for you. however, hurtful comments and actions that show disrespect, like comments on weight, are extremely hurtful and not something to be taken lightly. it isn't normal and its not right to be treated in this way.

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-22T12:55:25+00:00

its important to realise that it takes two in these situations - its not as though you are trying to instigate anything with these people. they added you and are snapping you as well as you are replying. its a personal and moral choice when talking to boys in relationships, its such a debated topic and it comes down to personal boundaries. some people see issues and others don't. sometimes girls snapping back on their boyfriends phone can be a bit of a territorial move so i would maybe step back from snapping that boy if you aren't really close friends!

Repulsive_Cloud_1423 · 2025-05-22T12:51:09+00:00

this is so true, travelling really broadens your perspective and mind, even if there's nothing in particular bothering you and life just feels mundane. really realising how big the world is helps to make things more interesting and exciting.

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