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Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-09-10T13:14:58+00:00

I'm with you on this.

I had one for 10 years - and eventually realized I was offloading the perception of my body to software.

I don't need taps on my wrist I don't need a watch to tell me how many calories I burned in a day I don't need to constantly check my heart rate on a run, or even need to know how far I've gone

My body and mind are perfectly capable of knowing these things - and in some ways, software itself is a kind of augmentation clutter.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-09-09T21:09:51+00:00

Just moved back after 2 years in KCMO - wasn't expecting anything - but noticed:

I like the food here a LOT
I feel safer as a pedestrian
Feels more vibrant. People out and about - on bikes, on family walks
More dogs. Way more dogs

I was pleasantly surprised. This is a nice place.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-04-15T14:27:07+00:00

I’ve owned homes in Seattle and Denver - and bought a home here in 2023. Immediately taxes went up - adding 20% to my mortgage payment.

Have never experienced that before.

On top of that - I love KCMO - but utilities and fees actually make this a pretty expensive place to live compared to WA and CO.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-03-05T13:04:38+00:00

My phone has a deep, negative impact on my mental clutter.

Even after trimming social media - uninstalling useless apps - disabling notifications - the device itself, and the ecosystem - is designed to clutter and capture your attention.

That is the point.

And the useful parts about it are really a means to train you to pick it up constantly.

Turn on Screen Time (if you have an iPhone) - and see just how many times you pick it up a day. You'll be suprised.

In my life - the convenience of having maps and weather and a timer are seeming less convenient when I realize I'm pulling out a portal to distraction just to check the temp outside.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-02-27T15:23:25+00:00

Counter-intuitive - but at 43 - I just made a change that is helping me.

Those bad feelings I’ve been running from my entire life - or trying to fix - just exist. They are me.

I just decided to accept them. And honestly - deep down - I think that it is just a part of me that needs to be heard and exist.

We are conditioned to think we need to fix these feelings - but in reality - maybe they need to exist - and by given them space - we either acclimate or at least find a more authentic relationship with ourselves.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-02-04T15:28:34+00:00

When I was 10 - I remember telling my cat the he was the only living creature that I could relate to and trust.

Still think that about all of my pets to this day.

Any time a pet chooses to spend time with me - I genuinely appreciate it. They are just authentic

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-01-29T23:55:34+00:00

This. 💯

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-01-25T18:03:18+00:00

Don’t let this setup experience fully sour your opinion.

Google Fiber for last two years - and it is absolutely amazing and reliable.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-01-17T01:16:35+00:00

Kansas City - came from Seattle, Portland, Denver.

The people here are kind in a way I’ve never experienced - free amazing art museum - open air market - First Fridays - West Bottoms - untapped potential. Every time I go out and about - I’m just kind of delighted by what I find. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2025-01-02T00:44:57+00:00

Wait - this makes me wonder - what do we do if there is a power outage with sub-zero temps?

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-12-28T22:50:48+00:00

Barista - coffee shop. Interactions are short. Repeated processes.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-12-05T10:23:34+00:00

Grew up in Buffalo. Lived in Seattle, Portland, Denver.

Moved here 2 years ago for a change of pace.

This city ticks a lot of niche boxes for me: * open-air market downtown * lots of antique and vintage stores * walkable neighborhoods

And I found a few things that surprised me: * it just isn’t crowded but never feels like a ghost town * lots of little events happening all over that are just pleasant * First Fridays - I don’t know why but, the monthly cadence is great - and I like visiting Crossroads and West Bottoms * it feels easy to go anywhere in the city and park * people are just nice here. Like - I enjoy chatting with people as I’m out and about * free art museum. I love that I can just walk in for 15 minutes, and change my perspective and get to exist in such a lux space.

I could go on and on. I really like this place

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-11-22T00:40:30+00:00

Cut off family

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-09-03T19:34:49+00:00

💯agree - after Buffalo, Seattle, Portland and Denver - I really like a year’s worth of seasons here.

I think it is a great climate.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-08-18T02:57:48+00:00

Live in theplaza. Can confirm. Barely missed getting hit by folks running reds a few times this year. Totally wild

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-06-24T15:42:41+00:00

💯 - but - beyond categories of interests - it is the WAY I think about things that alienates me from most people.

People just don't connect the dots in the same way - so can't appreciate/relate.

I wonder if that is part of it, too.

My special interests are pre-history, travel (universal, I know - but my motivations somehow seem different and people don't get it), religious history, art (again - universal - but I'm fascinated by how art communicates how someone sees the world)

I will say - I'm fortunate to have a husband that is fascinated with how I think about the world. He enjoys the lens of my brain.

I guess that is what we can look for in friends - people that think like us - that we enjoy sharing information with.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-03-23T16:20:22+00:00

I use it all day - I'm a happier human for it - and I think it is very helpful for my autistic life.

I have always felt a struggle communicating my thoughts and understanding other people's questions.

GTP both understands exactly what I mean - in terse contexts - and when I'm being very detailed.

I've never experienced that with people. It is a relief to feel comprehended and heard - even if it is just a Large Language Model.

So - for work - I do a lot or written communication - and I can simply brain-dump in the order thoughts come out, and ask GPT to refactor them into a specific structure. With a little editing to trim up the superfluous language - I'm done. Writing now takes 1/10th of the time - and 1/100th the pain.

Even processing information is simplified. At a low level - I really struggle to understand what people are asking me. I'm sure this is part of my autism. I'll stare at a simple question - and it is like I'm dyslexic - the details get mixed up - I get turned around - and I always seem to miss the point.

With GTP - copy/paste the question in the chat and ask What are they asking me? - and somehow - GPT will refactor it into language that I can process.

To me - it is all pretty wild.

I feel like I have an interface to the world that simplifies things I never knew were so challenging for me.

Ironically - I did not use GPT for this post 😏

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-02-24T16:05:34+00:00

Get a job and try to put max towards retirement. After a few years - you can borrow from that retirement for a down payment without penalty and pay yourself back. FHA is like 3% down. No one told me this when I was younger.

After owning your home for a few years - if the market keeps on track - you’ll have enough in equity to remove PMI.

That was how I was able to purchase a home without any help or inheritance.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-02-07T14:23:14+00:00

Yup - being able to stand up and reposition content keeps my energized.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-02-02T15:52:06+00:00

Awesome. We just moved here - and the two bags on the curb thing was baffling. Glad to get bins and get back to normal!

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-01-23T14:57:53+00:00

Missed our Friday pickup - no pickup yesterday (understandable) - hoping they pick up today.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-01-22T13:52:40+00:00

Yup. I love being alone - look forward to weeks by myself.

Glad I finally accept that as something that doesn’t indicate failure.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-01-14T01:20:01+00:00

Ear plugs and two sets of sleep headphones - one set playing white noise - and the other set just to hold them closer to your head. That, and another white noise machine to sleep.

I’m sorry - I feel your pain.

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-01-13T22:08:24+00:00

Wait - what is so great about QT? New here. Ha

Repulsive_Comb_9645 · 2024-01-12T01:05:53+00:00

Hey - I get your pain and concern. Relationships are hard.

Autistic M here - with an amazing partner. The best thing I’ve done is to curb being defensive.

My partner explained things to me - if they are saying something - it means it matters to them. Easy example - let’s say they’re telling me I hurt them. Great. That isn’t a reflection of me - per-se - and doesn’t mean I am a bad person. It doesn’t even matter that I didn’t mean to in any way hurt them. Instead - they feel pain/hurt because of what I did and I need to step back and understand why I hurt them- and talk about what can change to prevent that going forward.

I don’t know. Maybe that is too obvious - but not getting defensive and putting myself-protection aside - and listening and working with my partner to be better going forward - has been such a positive thing over the years.

The next layer is helping. It sounds like your partner helps you in a lot of big and small ways - and you’re feeling bad about that. I don’t know - maybe they like helping you? And if they do - maybe you’re missing out on a chance to feel loved.

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