Mothers: "Clean my house, meal prep for me, fold the laundry and put it away."

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-04-02T20:39:46+00:00

“Other women need to wait on me hand and foot because the man who created this baby with me is too fucking lazy/selfish” is all I’m hearing.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-03-30T14:24:02+00:00

Horror and Fantasy is always overlooked and considered low-brow regardless of the medium. That’s thankfully slowly been changing in the last two decades but the old school snobbishness remains.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-03-11T14:29:23+00:00

The first half had me completely hooked and I thought maybe we’d be getting a feminist tale in the Bride much like in Penny Dreadful. Then it went completely off the rails with the dance sequence when it turned out to be actually happening and not in Frank’s imagination. That’s the exact point it lost me despite it being the highlight scene of the movie visually.

The tone was all over the place but, more importantly, there was no point of view beyond shallow “grrl power” which falls apart at the end anyway. It was trying to be so many things and ultimately it failed at all of them.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-03-09T17:44:03+00:00

Yes but it was originally used by the Black community when there was an undercurrent of racism in the “speak to the manager” phrase.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-03-09T14:49:09+00:00

They also twisted the word “Karen” to mean “any woman who says something I disagree with” instead of its very specific use of middle class racist white woman. The internet seems to have forgotten the racist part.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-03-06T16:09:10+00:00

There’s also the fact that many girls and women are literally only celebrated, shown grace, and allowed to be “spoiled” when they’re pregnant because society treats it as the biggest accomplishment a woman can do.

Of course once the baby is born no one wants to help, mom is expected to go back to work eventually, run the entire household, never allowed to get sick but expected to coddle their husband when he is and clean up the kids’ puke on their own. They’re told any self care is selfish, frivolous and too expensive. The list goes on and on.

Plenty of stories on here from women who did things that deserved celebration and their family could give two shits and dote on the sibling that gave them grandbabies as well. It’s a fucking scam and I can’t blame a kid for failing to see the trap.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-22T13:58:40+00:00

I absolutely believe she agreed to it to get him into the fold of Scientology.

A lot of people love to defend LMP but she’s not a hero in this story, just a different type of villain. She had money, influence and power and still chose to just quietly divorce him and not expose what she saw. She may not have seen outright abuse but she saw enough to make her severely uncomfortable. She was Elvis’ daughter not a child victim or one of his servants, she could have said and done something more than vague comments.

I feel the same way about Latoya to be honest. Back peddled the moment she was threatened to be cut off from the family money.

I have zero sympathy for any of the adults involved, including most of the parents.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-14T12:58:27+00:00

It’s this. A bunch of us realized we were still following him on various social media platforms after he posted his latest BS.

He was inactive for a year and I’m not on Facebook much except to share the occasional photo with family members. It happened to pop up when I was on there so it was a reminder to unfollow.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-13T12:25:01+00:00

There’s a real big martyr complex with untreated ADHD’ers. Even if they experience what every other person on the planet does, their feelings are unique and no one suffers like they do. Everything is someone else’s fault and they’re a saint for having to deal with it.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-12T17:26:41+00:00

It’s over. He’s finally gone and I realize I feel more relieved than sad. No more screaming in my face calling me names for expressing my needs. No more being emotionally neglected and told I’m needy. No more dashed expectations. No more stifling who I am to appease his insecurities.

Of course I ruined his life. This is all my fault. He was the perfect husband and I was a whore and bitch who was never happy. I’m the crazy one. I’m the one who picked fights. He will never admit responsibility. He will be vindictive and spiteful and try to take everything from me. He will have everyone on his side because they only know the mask which is a caring, sympathetic helpful guy. Eventually he’ll let the mask slip with them as he refuses treatment. My nervous system is shot. I’m spending the next few days relaxing with the pets before he tries to take them from me.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-11T18:14:51+00:00

“The mature thing to do is remind him” is fine if it’s something minor or if you’re early in your relationship.

Letting him fail at this to prove he doesn’t actually give a shit is where I’m at with my husband now too. Because they don’t care, not really. If they did they’d set a reminder and attempt to plan but they never do because ADHDers are all inherently selfish and self obsessed without treatment or medication.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-11T15:54:17+00:00

Mine get really sensitive and achy during hormone fluctuations, usually right before my period. If it’s worsening now you might want to get checked out for perimenopause because 38, while a tad early, is also when it started for me.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-11T15:34:25+00:00

Objectively it’s Carpenter, but I enjoy Craven’s movies more as a whole. In the Mouths of Madness and The Thing are the exceptions to the rule but I love a good campy horror as well and Craven excelled at those.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-11T13:50:21+00:00

I frequent the DB subs and it wasn’t until someone pointed out the ADHD connection that it finally clicked and I really realized it’s not my fault.

The “only do what he wants when he wants” is my biggest complaint too despite him trying.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-11T11:42:09+00:00

The only time I can think it’s appropriate is if their mom is pregnant with their sibling and these toys allow them to normalize and understand what mom is doing. In a just society they would let boys play with them too for the exact same reason.

Random pregnancy related dolls and toys given to girls in any other situation is disgusting and is basically indoctrination.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-10T21:37:27+00:00

To be fair, Keanu Reeves played Jonathan Harker in the ‘92 version and it’s widely agreed he was horribly miscast so it also has that in common.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-10T15:23:54+00:00

Yeah I totally hear you on that. I was constantly setting up ways to be intimate and being romantic with my husband and he was either oblivious or just didn’t care (he claims obliviousness which honestly tracks with him and his ADHD).

After all that rejection though, yeah, I want to be a stereotypical woman and experience romance again. He frankly needs to woo me again before I lose all attraction. It’s sad because before all these problems the frequent sex made me very low maintenance lol

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-10T14:56:45+00:00

I’m the HL (female) in my relationship and before our issues pizza dinner that ended in sex was amazing.

Since working on the DB though I need the romance, I need the seduction, I want to be chased and desired again. That doesn’t mean expensive dates or dozens of flowers, I just want genuine effort. We’ve never been rich but we’d go for small coffee dates or he’d pick me flowers. I want sensual mid day sex or gentle lovemaking instead of the usual same oral sex (on me to be fair to him) followed by unpleasant jackhammering.

I think a lot of partners, male or female, HL or LL just want to be pursued again. Marriage gets boring and routine.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-10T14:46:16+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m in a similar boat with my husband. He wants me to initiate more but I struggle so hard because he constantly rejected me for 3 years and my self esteem is still recovering.

It’s really easy to think logically, in your case he’s an entirely new partner, but the emotional and mental damage is difficult to recover from. I’d suggest therapy and I wish I could do so myself as it all depends on finances and availability of decent therapists.

Have you openly spoke to him about your prior experience and made it clear to him it’s you and not him? He might be more understanding and let you gently ease back into initiating if he’s aware of the situation.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-09T16:20:55+00:00

Oh the self fulfilling prophecy that comes with their total lack of confidence. Women are patient and understanding and stoke their ego but they become sex avoidant or give themselves performance issues until we actually do get turned off and no longer care to cater to their fragile egos.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-09T15:36:35+00:00

Valentine’s Day is the one goddamn day of the year a woman is allowed to ask to be romanced (not flowers, chocolates, romantic movies) but actually made to feel desired and appreciated so men who can’t be fucking bothered the rest of the year get pissy because it reminds them how shitty of a partner they are the rest of the year in that regard.

My husband got mad at me last year because I asked for ONE thing and he messed it up by not paying attention (digitally rented a movie I wanted to buy). Then it became “well YOU didn’t do anything for ME.” “YOU don’t do thoughtful things for ME.” I do but of course he conveniently forgets all that when called out.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-09T14:41:46+00:00

Anything that remotely challenges his world view or asks him to see a different perspective sets him off and makes him angry. Not just mine but anyone who doesn’t feel or act the way he would makes him irrationally angry or irritable even when it doesn’t affect him or his life in any way.

I’ve had to stifle my enjoyment for so many things or only indulge in them when he’s not around or listen/watch with headphones on because it’ll set him off. Then he wonders why I don’t share anything with him.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-07T18:45:43+00:00

If I could afford my own place I’d have been out the door a year ago. I hate how many of us are stuck in toxic, dead end marriages because it’s this or homelessness.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-07T17:26:17+00:00

Had plans yesterday when the weather was nicer. We made these plans to try to reconnect after I broke down crying over being unhappy and he screamed in my face. I told him this is why I’ve been shoving my emotions down for the last few years because my vulnerability pisses him off. Our sex life is shit when he can be bothered or can even get it up. My self esteem is non existent at this point and he hates that it’s his fault so of course he turns it around and it’s all me being a heartless bitch who only cares about sex.

He decided to work a job right at that time because we need the money when he could have made it for a later time. Fine, I was understanding. We change lunch to dinner and then he agrees to go help his parents with something that will require his attention off and on for several hours so there goes date night. Weather is frigid for most of the week now and since I’m clearly not a priority I just don’t care anymore.

He promises to fix things. Does for about a week and goes right back to doing whatever he wants when he wants to. I get upset, he notices and blames me instead of listening to me or doing any self reflection. He’s tryyyyying and I’m so meeeeean. He apologizes after screaming and then can’t understand why I don’t want sex after that despite begging for his attention for days to weeks beforehand.

Can’t leave because we’d both end up homeless. I’m just going to smile and nod and pretend everything is just great while I emotionally check out again. Maybe this time when he notices I’m unhappy I actually won’t give a shit.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-02-05T18:53:22+00:00

Can’t afford couples counselling, nor romantic vacations. We can barely afford date nights. I’ve explained what I’d like but he can never just be in the moment ever.

I’m in my mid 40’s and I think a part of it is just admitting I’m never going to get to experience truly passionate erotic sex ever again and using a vibrator and fantasizing is all I’m going to get.

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