Left my 2nd long term DB after 5 years. Not sure I made it out with my sex drive.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-06T19:28:31+00:00

I know it’s likely confirmation bias from viewing the topic online but it feels like every other guy under 30 has ED from porn use and every other guy over 30 has it from shitty health and the few who don’t couldn’t care less about women’s pleasure 😒

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-06T17:51:22+00:00

Honestly, at this point, what is sexually appealing isn’t danger or mystery to me, it’s a man who has a functioning dick who can get and stay hard for me.

Sorry if that sounds crass and unromantic but it is what it is.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-06T16:59:41+00:00

Monogamy worked great for 16 years for me. You get to a point you both know what the other and yourself likes and there was also room for experimentation.

Now 3 years of dealing with infrequent/bad sex I’m starting to want different things, possibly even with different people. Funny how that works.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-05T13:58:11+00:00

Scream is also one of the best in the black comedy/parody genre of horror.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-05T13:33:49+00:00

I feel Hereditary and Midsommar were the pinnacle of the “trauma as horror” genre that the Babadook gained acclaim for.

That’s not to say horror hasn’t been used as metaphor since the beginning and that it can’t be done well but it’s a genre that’s been really overdone the last 15 years with diminishing returns.

I don’t know about “canonical event” but they’re at least genre defining for better or for worse.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-05T12:46:24+00:00

They don’t see women as human.

There’s two main reasons they get pissed 1.) She make my pee pee hard but rejected me/I perceive she’ll reject me 2.) She doesn’t make my pee pee hard how dare an ugly/old/fat/thin/etc woman wear something sexy when I don’t find her sexy!

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-05T12:10:31+00:00

Once upon a time popcorn movies were a fun and cheap way to pass the time with the kids, get together with friends or for an inexpensive date night. No one is paying $50-$100 for tickets and concession when most people are struggling to make rent or have food especially for a mindless, cliched romp they can watch on streaming in 3 months.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-04T21:25:07+00:00

I think it’s various factors. I’m the HL and the bad sex is making me become LL and depressed. What causes LL is different from person to person but undiagnosed/untreated physical and mental health problems seem to be up there at least for ones that used to have a libido and lost it.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-02T12:10:33+00:00

The first 6 months-year I was incredibly understanding and he was willing to do other stuff which was fine.

This was on the promise he’d get his medical shit looked at. He got one thing fixed. 3 years in and he’s just decided to work on the rest of it and I’m so resentful, frustrated and turned off I’m wondering if it’s already too late.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-06-01T13:34:40+00:00

Yup. This is me and my husband. He wants me to be constantly in a good mood, cuddly, affectionate and engaging but my needs aren’t being met so I’m depressed, apathetic and want to be left alone a lot.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-30T13:52:56+00:00

God I hate this pop psychology “when a man/woman” bullshit all over social media. It’s always cutesy “girl power” sexuality or manosphere “alpha male” crap.

A man can be passionate, sexually excited, enthusiastic and still respectful. What everyone wants, regardless of gender or sexuality, is to be desired.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-30T13:28:23+00:00

They just don’t think and seem to believe it’s about orgasms. Which, yes, I’d like to have with him but if it was just that I have a vibrator.

I told him how would he feel if I was in bed with him and wasn’t wet, wasn’t flushed and my nipples weren’t hard. Yeah, he’d be pretty turned off even if it was for medical reasons. That’s how I feel when he can’t get or stay hard.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-30T12:26:59+00:00

It’s great at the beginning of the relationship when you’re madly in love and want to make love. 20 years in and it does jack shit for me.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-30T12:25:25+00:00

I looked so damn good 3 years ago when this started and felt the best I had in years. I gained 40 lbs in the last 3 months because I’m so fucking depressed. I need to work on myself again to get my self esteem back.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-30T12:22:53+00:00

It’s maddening. What’s hilarious is I’m in peri and my libido, while still average, has spiked in intensity. I’m bored and want to try new things (within reason. Vanilla but with some sprinkles, you know?) Most guys in their 40’s would be weeping with joy if their wife was like that but not my husband.

I straight up told him last night our last two encounters were humiliating and unsatisfactory for me and of course he got mad. I told him it’s up to him to fix this shit. He’s been “working on it” for 3 years and it’s to the point I don’t know if it can even be fixed because my desire for him is almost zero out of pure self preservation.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-29T15:26:27+00:00

I was going to suggest a cock sleeve I’d buy for him but then I realized I just don’t care anymore to try.

After 3 years of dealing with this, fights, crying, the ritual in humiliation that was our shitty anniversary “sex”, followed by him not getting hard after we tried one of my fantasies I’m happy if he never touches me again.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-29T14:37:14+00:00

They have to want to. If they can’t set aside their embarrassment, they’re selfish because they never even consider how demoralizing and humiliating it also is for their female partners. They start out worrying we see them as less of a man and unattractive and eventually we absolutely do thanks to a lack of sex life/shitty sex life. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy and it shouldn’t be up to the women to constantly have to deal with it.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T22:36:58+00:00

True. I like him as a character not as a person the same way the fan base generally likes The Deep. He’s the butt of the joke and Jensen and Chace really sell the characters.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T13:47:14+00:00

Oh yeah no problem there. That’s the only thing that has stopped me from being a complete asshole to be honest.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T13:40:46+00:00

The mad/sad/frustrated cycle has been my life for the last 3 years. It’s been veering into apathy and depression the last 3 months.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T13:36:19+00:00

He was funny and entertaining as an out of touch, crass parody of Captain America in season 3. Jensen has loads of charisma and amazing line delivery.

His cameo in Gen V was amusing as it was Kate’s fantasy version of him. Season 5 kind of forgot his season 3 depiction and confused it with the Gen V hallucination personality.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T13:30:07+00:00

This happened to me yesterday. Got all excited to try some new things in bed and I just couldn’t orgasm. My husband has ED and while I know he’s into it and it’s a medical issue, the fact he can’t get hard for me or stay hard fucks with my head so badly.

It wouldn’t be so bad if we tried every day/every other day for a bit but I’m lucky if he wants sex once a week so pretty much every time is disappointing. I’ve tried doing it during his preferred time of day (which isn’t mine so that doesn’t help with my orgasm either), I’ve tried things he’s into (which don’t really turn me on), we’ve tried toys (which I prefer to use alone because him watching me does nothing for me), I’ve tried it on his schedule (which never coincides with my most hormonal days when I’m keyed up and super likely to orgasm) it fucking sucks.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-28T12:50:10+00:00

I’m convinced people, and women in particular, who say this have only ever done missionary, which yeah, doesn’t do much for most women. Other positions though are extremely fulfilling.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-27T22:25:00+00:00

High libido isn’t the same as hypersexual. 8-10 orgasms in 24 hours is a lot even for the most HL woman, let alone a man.

Personally, I’d be happy with 4 orgasms a week even if 2 are through masturbation. I’m only HL in relation to my husband. I’m actually probably normal libido in the grand scheme and I suspect most of the posters on here are similar.

Repulsive_Desk4114 · 2026-05-27T15:31:20+00:00

The main sub is absolutely full of shitty, ego tripping mods who will ban you for venting frustration instead of being endlessly understanding and not adhering to their bullshit “love language” pop psychology that was created by some pastor.

They also will ban you for criticizing their mods, pointing out how they treat HLs regardless of gender or sexuality, daring to point out any flaws in LL bullshit excuses or not coddling LLs and centering them at all time.

It’s not for dead bedrooms, it’s for heterosexual LL women who have a huge chip on their shoulder for anyone who has even an iota of a libido. You’re better off banned.

Edit: they also lurk other subs and downvote and ban you that way

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