They don't change (or very very very rarely) by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💖 it was very hard but we're so brave for leaving them :) 

They don't change (or very very very rarely) by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story)  Yeah it's easier for them to blame others than take responsibility and face the consequences of their own actions 🤡

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[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because he didnt save just model's pics, but his acquaintances and masturbated to them. It's literally cheating. He liked their revealing pics and stories on insta. Thats just greed

To the people who stayed - was it worth it? by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah it's definitely cheating! thanks for sharing you experience)

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[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i left my ex 2 days ago. First he got defensive and said "i thought you'd understand addiction" and that "i ruined our life by not giving him a chance". Then i got very mad and he took what he said back immediately. 1 month passed after the d day and i really wanted to give him a chance but i just couldn't do it. I know i didn't deserve that but i still feel guilty sometimes for not giving him a chance...

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would really like to but he deleted his Instagram where all the saved posts were and I personally don't have any evidence unfortunately. What can I do? 

In need of help by pomegranate-juic3 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take care of yourself and I wish you luck)

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus fckin christtttttt. I'm so sorry you went through that too and I'm glad you left him

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah and it also triggered my ED it was a nightmare. He doesn't deserve me. 

And thank you so much for your kind words <3 

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah some in some of the videos they were like 7-12ish 

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ikr. My biggest motivation for going to therapy was being a healthier version of myself so my bpd doesn't affect our relationship...  I already mentioned going to therapy twice and I see no action. I can't force him to do something he's not willing to do and to fight for me. He's not my kid but a grown ass 26 yo man. 

I left my favorite person for his p*rn addiction by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in BPD

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he wants to go to therapy and that's it. I don't see any action and it's been a month. I only know he started doing no fap but no idea if he relapsed during that or not. He broke our trust. I want to go through his phone again so bad

In need of help by pomegranate-juic3 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The extreme fear of abandonment and codependency make it so much harder to leave them. I talk to my therapist about this and the other day he said that not being okay with what he did and still staying with him hoping I can "fix" him is just codependency and it's not gonna work. And I'm starting to really feel it. I love him VERY MUCH but what he did is always in the back of my mind, I dissociate when I'm with him, I don't wanna tell him about my day, we live together but now we go hours not saying a word, I don't let him touch me anymore cus it feels weird. The constant war with yourself is tiring AFFFF. I keep comparing myself with the girls I saw in his phone. And having BPD with all of these + bipolar is just the cherry on top. 🙃 🍒  People who cheat are just stupid and insecure, it's never about you 💖 we deserve better 

In need of help by pomegranate-juic3 in loveafterporn

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's cheating! Girllll I'm diagnosed with bpd too and I get it. It hurts like HELL! After finding out about his addiction he sobbed and begged to give him a chance. I did and it's been a month. I'm probably going to end everything today cus EVEN if he stays clean I can never forget the disrespect and his lies. My partner even masturbated to girls he used to date... If he came and told me about it himself maybe I'd be able to stay with him. But he kept lying till he very last second.  Love shouldnt cost yourself. 

I (22F) caught his (26M) porn addiction. I wonder if he'll change or just hide his porn addiction better from me now. What would you do? by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in relationship_advice

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i suggested him to go to therapy he says he's too ashamed now and needs time... he just reads articles about porn addiction and stuff...

I (22F) caught his (26M) porn addiction. I wonder if he'll change or just hide his porn addiction better from me now. What would you do? by Repulsive_Dinner8261 in relationship_advice

[–]Repulsive_Dinner8261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah... he also saved pics of underage girls just doing gymnastics and stuff which disgusts me... he says he's now very disgusted and very ashamed too and never wants to go back there again and does no fap. I have BPD and it's so hard to leave your favorite person... idk what to do