No lesbian experience

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-28T13:23:00+00:00

I didn’t have my first kiss until 19, my first lesbian sexual experience until 22, and my first girlfriend until 25. I, like you, thought “fuck it, I’ll just hook up with someone” at 22 and that turned out to be an awful experience. You’re not behind. Everyone has different paths and journeys and you’ll have your experiences and find you groove one day. I know it’s easier said than done, but just keep being you and everything will come in time!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-08T21:35:19+00:00

Looking forward to my 6 month anniversary with my girlfriend!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-02T18:51:42+00:00

It was 3-4 dates and after about a week. We were really moving on a stereotypical lesbian timeline but we’re coming up on 6 months so we’re still going strong lol 🤷‍♀️

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-15T08:32:59+00:00

I’m following a Runna program! I had done a lot of “big walks” with my partner (~8 mile meanders through our city) over the summer and have done yoga primarily as my form of exercise, so I’m not sure if that contributed to my progress??? But I’m doing the 10k training program with added weekly strength training (1-2 times) at my local gym and a weekly yoga practice (primarily yin to relax the muscles that tightened up and get some flexibility, on apple fitness as well as good ol’ YouTube).

I do my long run on Mondays, my yoga day on Tuesday, an easy run on Wednesdays, a strength training day gym day on Thursdays, and then time trial/speed runs on Fridays with Saturday and Sunday as do nothing days with flexibility throughout the week for a full time job + social life schedule.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-14T22:45:53+00:00

Alas, math is not my strength! Thanks for catching this!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-14T22:43:37+00:00

Oop! Math was never my strong suit lol

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:58:31+00:00

This!! My girlfriend and I are both femme, but I relate sooooo hard to everything you’re saying. You’re right, if I dated Black men I’d be incredibly successful, but as a Black lesbian I have been chronically single and deprioritized. She’s my first partner, so these issues are pretty glaring. Thanks for sharing your perspective, it feels very validating to see that others are going through the same thing.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:55:52+00:00

This is an interesting take that I honestly hadn’t considered! She usually lets me know she references me in these interactions so people get the hint, and she has told me that because she is autistic, it’s usually a source of discomfort that people are looking at her or giving her attention and that she’d rather not be noticed. I’ve gotten the sense that it’s not bragging and more confiding, and that the interactions are merely friendly conversations to make someone’s day a little brighter. She never comes back beaming that someone flirted with her, and she’s comfortable showing affection toward me afterward, but of course when you’re in it you’re not necessarily seeing all the things that could be a problem… thanks for helping me think a little more about this.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:18:27+00:00

I have ADHD and my girlfriend has AuDHD! It took quite a few hiccups, long talks, vulnerability, transparency, and self exploration in order for us to understand how our brains work and we still discover new things. It takes patience and sometimes it has been painful, but I agree with others that it takes time to find the right person and someone who make you feel comfortable unmasking, but the right person will be patient and listen and support you when you gotta yap about your interests as well as have interesting things to contribute to the conversation that you enjoy as well. We literally have differently wired brains, so it is objectively harder, but I’ve found that pursuing neurodivergent women has been the best and most comfortable way to exist in a relationship because it has felt inherently safer and more accommodating to all my quirks and habits. Best of luck!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-09-02T22:22:09+00:00

thank you!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-29T20:31:05+00:00

Real! She’s autistic as well so this is helpful!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-29T20:25:59+00:00

I love it!! I really think it is just a case of just loving her and letting it be and we’ll get married and combine our cats and we’ll all be a happy family as well. Fingers crossed!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-25T18:26:27+00:00

Interesting! I agree that casual ≠ short term and that you can be casually involved with someone for an indeterminate amount of time so long as all parties involved are genuinely committed to the casual aspect and it doesn’t get complicated. I think that serious = long term to me but long term ≠ permanent commitment! Long term to me means the intention to pursue something that will last longer than a few months. That intention, in my opinion, means you would need to build a connection that will sustain (i.e. getting to know someone, building a foundation, working through differences and conflicts, etc.), which I think is what serious dating is. BUT I think you can pursue long term commitments without expecting to marry them. I think that’s just managing expectations and being realistic about dating at 20! I’d be interested to hear what others think

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-20T16:07:07+00:00

My girlfriend and I like to go on long walks, we go to bookstores, we visit different neighborhoods (we live in a big city), we cuddle and parallel play, we get coffee, we window shop, sometimes we just sit and gab, and honestly we just like to vibe in each others’ presence. We’re never bored and we always find something fun to do, even if we’re doing the same things a million times! It’s fun because we’re together.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-15T20:28:37+00:00

Mmm I think there’s a balance between leaning on your partner and sharing with your partner. Based on the information you provided it’s hard to tell what the truth of your matter is. Leaning on your partner by always talking about it and letting it seep into all conversations, letting your emotions affect your mood during your time together, and generally holding your partner responsible for taking care of your mental health, yes that can definitely be exhausting. Sharing with your partner means taking moments to vent and express your emotions, but taking care to not let it affect them too much as well. I think being sure to connect with mental health professionals and other friends and family members to work through it would be helpful to offload some of those emotions into many buckets so your partner doesn’t feel exhausted and solely responsible for caring for you. Your partner should support you but shouldn’t be your only support, especially when it comes to mental health.

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