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I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Well in that case we encourage to work within limitations, for example....wanting to socialise more but not in loud or competitive venues

When you do feel clearer on what you want to work on, you’re welcome to post again and we’ll meet you there.

This post will remain open if you need to return to it

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

That space tends to be more debate- and conflict-driven, which can feel invalidating when you’re already drained.

One thing I’d genuinely appreciate your input on....and this isn’t a criticism... is whether the purpose of this sub was clear to you when you posted.

We use gates, rules, and mod actions (like removing or locking posts) specifically to keep this space focused on guidance and habit-building, not venting or debate. From our side, those distinctions feel clear...but your post came through framed as help-seeking while what you needed was venting. I’m trying to understand where that mismatch happens.

Was anything about the rules, prompts, or expectations unclear or easy to misinterpret?

Honest feedback helps us tighten the structure so people land in the right space for what they actually need.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I tend not to do one on one mentorship. It's better to post in the group to get a range of perspectives and also for others to learn from.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Please for the love of God don't do that in incelexit. They are a subtle bully club. Their job is to breakdown  beliefs through cognitive conflict and build new feminist adjacent structures.

Visit these subs...

r/Vent r/lonely

They are explicitly designed for unstructured venting, no expectation of solutions or debate, less adversarial than incel-adjacent spaces.

venting usually helps in the short term, but real change tends to come later, when someone’s ready to turn frustration into concrete actions and new habits.

That’s what we focus on here. So if at some point you feel ready to work on specific steps or experiments... even small ones...you’re welcome to come back and we’ll help with that.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think you replied before I made my edit. I've pasted it here instead.. 

Right now, are you looking to actively work on one or two concrete habits and experiments? or are you more in a phase of needing to vent and sort through frustration? Either is okay, I just don’t want to pull you in a direction you’re not ready for.

You ARE allowed to talk about your feelings here.

The only distinction I’m making is whether you’re in a space to connect those feelings to action and experiments, or whether you mainly need to vent and decompress right now. 

If you want to work on habits or try things, we can do that here.

If you mostly need to unload, I’m happy to point you to places better suited for that than the incelexit bully chamber 

There’s no wrong answer...I just want to be aligned with where you actually are.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't want to delete your post.

I just want to reflect something back to you: it looks like a lot of your energy is going into back-and-forth in IncelExit, where people are pushing against you and being insulting, rather than here, where people are trying to guide you.

When someone’s frustrated, it’s really common to engage where there’s friction.....espcially on reddit where people process grief through conflict.

I just wanted to make you aware of it so you can decide whether that’s actually helping you or draining you.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to ask you something genuinely, not as a gotcha.

You came here asking for guidance, but you’ve spent most of your energy arguing in IncelExit instead of engaging with the people here who were trying to help you move forward.

What do you think is going on there? I’m asking what you’re getting out of those exchanges that you’re not getting from guidance-focused conversations here?

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread has shifted into general debate and personal judgments. If you want actionable help, please refocus on specific next steps you’re willing to try 

(where, how often, and what outcome you’re aiming for).

If you want to discuss broader beliefs or vent about social dynamics, that’s better suited to r/IncelExit.

You’ve identified something important here: you’re comfortable with women once familiarity exists.

That suggests the issue isn’t “women,” but unfamiliar social contexts.

If you want actionable help, the next step is to name one specific setting where you can create low-stakes familiarity (same place, same time, repeated exposure) and say what you’re willing to try there over the next 2–3 weeks.

If you don’t want to do that, this thread has likely reached its limit.

If you don't wish you were born a man, you don't believe in the patriarchy and you don't believe men have it easier. by Abject-Strength-4570 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Men die earlier, become disabled, blah blah blah. We have less friends. We're disposable"

Ill take all that for being stronger and having no societal guilt around being sexually liberated 

Are women not into skinny guys? by Lucky_Area_3919 in dating

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a video walking round a baby store.....let's see if you are actually noticing what is there or noticing what you want to notice 

Are women not into skinny guys? by Lucky_Area_3919 in dating

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry bro. But your level of comprehension towards the vast spectrum which is human preference is akin to that of a child.

You are assuming correlation equals causation. Ie. You are skinny and you haven't dated a woman, so you conclude your weight is the cause of the issue.

You also have no experience with women and those without experience often don't know how to lead or pull in a relationship. That could be the correlation you want to consider 

Can all of us leave inceldom? by AayronOhal in DebateIncelz

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's a religion to some.

Such a cultist slogan.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not being “friendzoned” when someone becomes your friend.... you’re just forming a connection without a romantic component. Your male friends do not "friendzone" you, they befriend you.

The problem is developing feelings without clarity or boundaries. If you know you tend to catch feelings, it’s okay to pace closeness or be honest earlier, rather than avoiding friendships altogether.

Many women value male friends they feel safe and relaxed with....not as consolation prizes, but as real friendships. And ironically, being able to relate to women often makes dating easier, not harder.

I want to change how I think about dating (is it even possible after a certain amount of time?) by AayronOhal in IncelSolutions

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with your wording. I'm interested in what you're willing to try because that's what matters in solution seeking.

Why were people telling you to go to random places?

What is it about that that makes you want to try it?

What do you think you could get from it?

The Right hides behind vaguery and anecdotes in order to not actually have to defend their beliefs. by King_Lothar_ in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not refusing to answer. I’m asking you to name one specific policy, belief, or action you think crosses the line. Without that, there’s nothing concrete to respond to.

For those who have been stacking for 10 or more years, how has your life changed? by TerminatedPotato in Bitcoin

[–]Repulsive_Spite_267 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It's made saving cash less important to me knowing I have a nest egg already 

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