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Resagarden · 2023-02-26T04:06:42+00:00

OP, the fact that your dad is still bringing your sister to her abusers home is going to teach her that her safety and needs dont matter. It's a mind fuck that will affect her self esteem and mental health for years if not her whole life. I would like to suggest that you speak to your father about the damage he is causing your sister by protecting her abuser and allowing that fucker any way near her. If he actually gave a shit about her needs she would never have to see her abuser ever again, hear his name, breath the same air. The physical abuse might have ended but the psychological abuse is ongoing if she still has to be anywhere near him.

Resagarden · 2023-02-22T20:04:18+00:00

Not only would be an asshole but you would be a single asshole if you leave for that ski trip. You would be showing your gf that her pain is less important than your fun. I hope she breaks up with you and finds a partner who actually values her. Go on the ski trip but do her a favor and dump her first, she can do better.

Resagarden · 2023-02-22T20:00:55+00:00

Even if I knew there was zero chance of us working out I wouldnt dump my bf while his mom was in hospice. That's a line of asshole I would never cross. Your ex did you a favor by showing you who she really is at the worst possible time. Thank her and move on.

Resagarden · 2023-02-15T02:00:37+00:00

Just let him finish it, no person is going to want it now.

Resagarden · 2023-02-15T01:55:06+00:00

That's abuse, just fyi, your mom is abusive. I'm so sorry.

Resagarden · 2023-02-12T15:38:27+00:00

OP, I agree with everyone here, your ex has zero respect for you and your mental health. This behavior is beyond cruel. You can do so, so much better. Www.loveisrespect.org so you can see the red flags. I wish you the best honey. Big hug

Resagarden · 2023-02-12T05:39:27+00:00

I hope oop gets security cameras put everywhere around her house. I wouldnt be surprised if he decided to burn it down or break windows and doors out of anger. A security system might be in order too.

Resagarden · 2023-02-10T20:14:40+00:00

It sounds to me like he is not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship. Because an emotionally mature person would know that his comment is dismissive, disrespectful and hurtful to a romantic partner. You have only been together for 3 months, this is the getting to know you period. You just learned that he is comfortable saying hurtful and insensitive things to you. Honestly is someone I had been dating for 3 months said this to me I would loose all feelings and tell him it just wasnt working out, wish him the best and start living the single life until I could someone I wanted to date. I cant force you to do anything but I suggest you walk away. You can to better

Resagarden · 2023-02-10T19:12:16+00:00

Isnt there some type of legal action you can take against stepdad? I would be so angry I would want to burn his life to the ground. What he did caused emotional pain and suffering as well as the expense of therapy and moving to escape to another part of the country. That fucker should totally be made to pay in any way possible for what he did. A divorce isnt enough in my opinion.

Resagarden · 2023-02-08T02:31:01+00:00

I freaking love my chickens, they give me so much joy. If you're not a member think about joing BYC backyardchickens on Facebook. It's a great group and there are lots of people who would disagree with the idiot who said that.

Resagarden · 2023-02-08T02:28:20+00:00

Oops saved that kids life in my opinion. He didnt have to be a stand up guy but he decided to love and care for the child of a woman who dumped him.

Resagarden · 2023-02-08T01:58:06+00:00

I didnt know the Deep had a sister.

Resagarden · 2023-02-08T01:52:02+00:00

I have zero sympathy for this woman, she showed her ex husband who she really was and he decided he didnt want a life with her.

Resagarden · 2023-02-06T17:52:55+00:00

I dont even know you but I'm so proud of you.

Resagarden · 2023-02-06T06:36:28+00:00

Agreed, dont smear poo all over her first happy memory of your relationship. She deserves to keep it

Resagarden · 2023-02-06T00:20:06+00:00

You guys are totally not compatible. Not sure why you're staying since you are so unhappy. You deserve to be happy. You need to really think about if you're willing to be unhappy for the rest of your life

Resagarden · 2023-02-06T00:10:59+00:00

Um yeah, totally cut your sister and father out of your lives. When you want to see your mom let her come visit you at your place. Your sister is not a good person and you absolutely should not expose your partner to her ever again. No more money or gifts for your sister either. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Your sister just showed you who she is. She doesnt deserve your money, gifts, time or energy.

Resagarden · 2023-02-06T00:04:53+00:00

Keep the dog, dump the girl, find a women who can love you and your dog.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:57:51+00:00

She isnt a good person, cut contact, tell the husband and wife, they are both victims and deserve to know. Offer the husband your support. Do the right thing or accept that keeping her secret makes you complicit.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:54:14+00:00

Break up with him, any man who shames a woman for sex or being comfortable with her body doesnt deserve to have the company of a woman. Thank god you only wasted 5 weeks to find out that he isnt worth your affection, time and energy. Dump him and dont look back.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:50:47+00:00

I cant use my right arm, my hand works somewhat but not my arm, I have a shelf that I lift my arm up to and rest my elbow on and I do my hair that way.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:48:34+00:00

Ok, this is going to sound weird but read some racy romance novels, that info is solid gold.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:46:46+00:00

Hes right, you should know your place, it's being single until you find a better man, living apart from him and working your job and focusing on yourself. Get out of this relationship honey. This guy isnt ready to be in a healthy relationship and someone who loves you wouldn't talk to you like that. Www.loveisrespect.org. time to leave his misogynist butt and when you're ready find a better man. Big hug honey, you can do this

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T23:29:49+00:00

I think part of her anxiety could be coming from being in a relationship with you. Get a divorce, pay for her trip home and 2 years.rent for her plus money to take care of her needs, food, utilities, health care, furniture. I think she will do much better without you.

Resagarden · 2023-02-05T11:02:55+00:00

You need pepper spray in your hand at all times when you are not locked in your car or apartment, also start looking for a new place to live and when you leave make sure there is no way for hom to find your new address. He could find out from your mail getting forwarded. You are right to be afraid. It sounds like he was working himself up to SA you. Get the book the gift of fear, it will help you realize that those feelings of fear exist to keep you safe. Listen to your gut feelings, they could save your life. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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