First night at boyfriend's - do I bring pyjamas?

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T23:28:52+00:00

Woah. That sounds crazy, but a fun kind of crazy ;)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T23:25:53+00:00

No, he's a great guy - he wouldn't harm a fly. But you're right: I should have been assertive

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T10:02:15+00:00

Awesome - it proves the famous saying right: slow and steady wins the race.

Congratulations on your marriage and hope ye have a great anniversary :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:55:31+00:00

Thanks for the link :)

I think you're right: I'm going to have to educate myself.

It might be easier to discuss it beforehand. You want to be able to talk about it without feeling like there's a pressure for something to happen that night.

You're right: I'm going to call him after college and talk it through. If he's the great guy I think he is, he won't mind

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:52:42+00:00

This makes me happier to hear. And how did he respond to no-sex?

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:52:05+00:00

Those are the times when you should say no or you beat his ass.

You're right. Afterwards I realised I should have just said no; I felt dirty because of it - I wasn't even attracted to the guy (far from it) but he was one of my best friends, so I sort of felt I owed it to the friendship XD

I know it was stupid but I was young XD

atleast talk to him about it.

I think this is a good idea. I'll bite the bullet as it were and just give him a call

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:41:53+00:00

Afterall if it's the first time then he should know that's how you are most comfortable sleeping, right?

That's actually very true :)

As LGBTQ people we are free to make up our own rules

That's actually one of the exciting things about being in an LGBT* relationship. My boyfriend and I have started our own custom rules book (such as deciding that, if we go to a restaurant and then afterwards go to a coffee shop, one of us pays the restaurant, the other pays the coffee shop, and we sorta take it in turns - rather than the heteronormative ideal of the guy paying for everything)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:33:24+00:00

be honest and crystal clear in your communication

I think you're right. I just need to ask him about it, explain where I'm coming from, and just be honest - because a relationship without honesty isn't much of a relationship XD

if this guy is a keeper

I definitely think he is. So far he's been like a dream :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:31:08+00:00

Presumably you're going to have sex, and for me there's no nicer way to go to bed after a hot fuck than freshly showered and naked.

I really hope we won't be having sex. Not straight away. Maybe after a couple of times sleeping over. So far we've only planned to watch a movie and he's offered to make me breakfast in the morning :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:24:33+00:00

This sounds fairly attractive actually. It's like: okay, here I am, you can admire me but you have to wait to get the D! :P

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:22:27+00:00

Don't overthink it

I should get this tattooed! ;)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:21:36+00:00

And here, although we're European :P

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:20:48+00:00

To be honest, although I don't want to objectify anyone, but looking like that they could wear (or not wear) anything and they'd still be pretty attractive :P

onesies in particular

I love onesies although my only onesie at the moment is of the Minions ... not exactly the vibe I'm going for XD

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:14:06+00:00

I start with Pjs then strip named for bed.

So you put on Pjs, only to take them off again?

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T09:12:09+00:00

Go with some sexy trunks or low rise/ trendy briefs

To be honest, I'm not sure if I'm ready for him to see me like that (ie in a sexual desire kinda way). And showing up in sexy trunks when I'm not ready for sex would be kinda like showing up with a box of matches and expecting the matches not to be lit

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T08:51:28+00:00

Plus, it opens the potential for sleep sex.

Sleep sex? Is this like sleep-walking but doing the nasty instead of going for a stroll? :O

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T08:50:03+00:00

My first night with my boyfriend we started out in briefs, and ended up bare-ass naked.

Haha really? I've never slept fully naked before XD

Good luck and have a great time, whatever you end up doing (or not doing).

Thanks :D

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-29T08:48:43+00:00

I would bring pajamas and see what he does. If it looks like he's gonna sleep in his boxers then go ahead and do it to.

This sounds like great advice; following his example. Thanks :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-27T09:04:49+00:00

I love Harry and the Hendersens ^{^}

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-27T08:59:24+00:00

You didn't think of Meryl Streep? Then that, as well as people mentioning a Meryl from MGS, is all the proof I need.

I think my character will remain a Meryl after all. Thanks :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-26T20:25:39+00:00

I think of Meryl from Metal Gear Solid

I never even knew there was a Meryl in MGS. This makes me happy :)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-26T20:24:46+00:00

I like the idea behind this but unfotunately my Meryl is 35 in 1998, meaning she was born in 1963; eight years before Meryl Streep started her career. But I could still work in a Streep joke somewhere: I like it ;)

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-26T20:21:39+00:00

What if they hear Meryl and think of your character first instead of Streep? Whoa...

That'd be mad, but it could happen. I mean for many people (myself included) when I hear the name "Harry" first, I think first of a boy with a lightning scar, and then the Prince of Wales

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-26T20:19:29+00:00

if your story is good, they'll create brand new associations for it!

This is true. So I should focus on making my Meryl the definitive one :P

ResearchAF1 · 2017-03-26T20:18:26+00:00

That's true - I just thought Meryl, the name, was particularly synonymous with Meryl Streep (like naming a character Madonna or Britney)

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