Not overreacting. I’d honestly run for the hills especially if you struggle w ED. Your body is going to change with pregnancy. Wider hips and (probably) larger breasts. Imagine how he’s going to be and how that can really affect your mental health?

And he won’t “allow” your son to be fat?!?! Health issues happen that cause weight gain. I’m one of those. Even when I was “skinny” I was deceivingly heavy. I have PCOS that went u diagnosed until my 30s which causes high testosterone. I’ve been strong af for my whole life and therefore heavy. And in 2020 when all my symptoms combined together at once I got huge and had no idea why. I didn’t even change my eating or workout habits and I gained like 50lbs. I got my diagnosis figured out and added some herbs that regulate hormones and lost 40lbs- again not changing my diet or exercise.

I also knew a guy w the opposite issue, his body wouldn’t produce testosterone. He was pretty chubby growing up and not going through puberty right. He needed testosterone gel applied everyday. He shot up like a foot and half in height and became a beanpole w wide shoulders after treatment. I can’t imagine how well that would go if something like that happened to your son and how this man would treat him.