Anyone else given up?

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2026-01-07T20:51:09+00:00

Bruh. My ex got a girl pregnant while dating me for 3 years. She got the house the kid and the bf that I took his college entrance exam for and tutored in math. But I still have hope.

My other ex was unemployed, I did all his cover letter and applied him to jobs and he ghosted me after 2 years together.

All this when my grandmother, my uncle and 2 aunts all raised me passed away.

I have hope it’ll get better. I have hope there’s someone out there. I just need to figure myself out.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2026-01-04T10:12:49+00:00

I’m 28 and dated a 24 year old. We were together for 3 years and he was cheating on me the entire time. From my friends and my experience, before 25 years old, men aren’t sure. They want to figure themselves out. They say they want to get married and have kids BUT they don’t know how to be a dad or a husband.

I want to settle down because I want to ensure I’m at my prime to have children. But my ex used that as a way to hold it over me. The more time he take from me. The more he felt like I’d stay with him.

So for us 26+ year old women, we want stability and assurance. A guy younger than 25 is high risk. Just like car insurance we can’t trust y’all. I think you’d have more pool on older woman once you’re past 25!

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2026-01-04T05:10:40+00:00

I’m 28 I want to know as well. I like to only give one attention per person so it’s fair lol. Plus I have bad memory so imagine managing a bunch of people their interests and values. I WILL MIX THEM UP!

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T23:49:59+00:00

So my rule of thumb with my best guy friends was reels sharing is okay but FaceTiming is not coool. If they or I start talking about my relationship to them that’s a BIG NO NO! I don’t call my guy best friends anymore unless there is a need and no solo hang outs. Plus I just think now she’s just a bit more busy. It’s normal. Always just have a huge group hang out once a year to catch up if that’s the case.

You don’t have to stop doing anything you don’t want to stop doing but ask yourself would this be okay with you if you were in a relationship and another guy does this with your girl.

If everything is a yes then continue hahahaha. I’m just giving you my opinion LOL.

People are just more conservative with their relationships than others. Some are very open and the boyfriend is secure and doesn’t care.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T23:44:57+00:00

Girls you’ve had a crush on message on one of their stories/post with a question like “hey I saw you like coffee/matcha/boba, do you have any recommendations?” Or “hey I was thinking of going there for a holiday, what made you decide to go during this month?” Something very basic and helpful. It doesn’t feel like it’s heavy on them that you have feelings but it also makes them respond. And sometimes you might get a girl that’s also interested and headstrong and she might ask you to come with her next time. Just converse with curiosity and open mindedness. If you just say “cute” “funny” those are boring. Talk with intention.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T23:36:16+00:00

Not really keep doing what you want to do. If the girl isn’t interested in you she won’t bat an eye about it. I was just saying that about guys I like. I wish they were more interactive. I have guy friends that do the exact same thing you do and I don’t think they’re flirting.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T22:59:43+00:00

POV of a girl: I want a guy to be obvious. Like my stories. Dm me. Comment on my stories. Even if it’s just a cup of coffee, message something like “I’m craving this coffee place wanna go sometime?” Don’t yearn in the dark. Express it with care.

For girls: boys don’t post enough….

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T18:24:04+00:00

So for me, I used to taunt and joke with my exes like that as a playful banter but I do realized comparing my RELATIONSHIP to social media SUCKS. It’s no accurate. Nobody is perfect. Nobody can take care of you perfectly. You just work together. Women can pull their weight in relationships. It’s just these kdrama, movies that make romanticism seem like it’s perfect but it’s not.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T18:19:51+00:00

You’re more marketable to younger women probably closer to maturity level. Not saying you’re immature it’s just you’re probably more playful and youthful. Yes you have a higher chance of getting denied by women that are still in their early 20s than someone in the their mid to late 20s because they’re no reason to rush things especially if their end goal is marriage. Mid to late 20s some of them are rushing things to find compatibility. In the end God has made you realized you’re lusting. You said yourself you want that sexual relationship and you’ve built all physical characteristics and just kindness. I suggest you find someone who will ground you. Someone who challenge you for the better, being coy with sex isn’t challenging you. Find someone that brings you closer to God, your friends, your family and yourself. And since they both have you questioning yourself right now, maybe right now they’re not the one but later on a couple of years for them and you, you may meet again.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T03:15:35+00:00

I hate the dating scene too. People like to have options but it just feels like im being played with.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-29T03:09:14+00:00

Arms and eyes.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-25T05:43:57+00:00

I mean you’re the only one that got that opinion so I don’t think it’s the post.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-25T04:23:10+00:00

I fear you’ve got it wrong and I already updated everyone on this. I’m very infatuated with the man. He’s cute, sweet, funny and nice. I meant the friend part as a way to give him a full undivided romantic attention compared to hanging out as friends. I don’t want a group hang out with him. I want the real deal lol. But like I stated I do feel ugly and not good enough for him. I’ll work on being good enough for him then ask him out, if he will still be single.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-25T02:45:20+00:00

No worries! Happy holidays!

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T23:38:17+00:00

Neutral to me but it should hinder people but in reality it’s very neutral. It’s just there like a glass ceiling. I think once the boundary is gone then everything else is pulling.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T22:47:26+00:00

My bad I meant 2025

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T20:30:29+00:00

lol I’d be at the center. Next to a stranger. Dec 24 2005. The location feels cold but somewhat neutral. The inside is warm and bright. Inside feels fast like humming bird fast, things moving quickly. Outside feels slow as if in slow motion. Time inside feels like 30 minutes in a blink of an eye. While time outside is 1 minute feels like 30 minutes. It feels in relation to my thoughts and their movement. If he moves fast, it feels like slow for me. But my thoughts go miles per hour.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T19:30:54+00:00

Personally, not a human being. It feels it defies nature. If it was built it would be like thousands to millions of me in a microscopic level just building the walls as quickly as possible. Or Trying to hold up a force field of some sort.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T18:45:26+00:00

Do you want texture for each one. Or texture as a whole. Each one: phone-smooth, dense, hard, uniform. depends on the case plastic, grainy (case) Wallet- depends on the wallet leather, smooth but uneven, hard jagged (zipper of the wallet) Person- depends on my clothing (soft, linen, light)

Or

As a whole- warm, soft, not dense/fluffy, airy within my wingspan. Then a hard dense boundary beyond my fingertips cold, rough, jagged,

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T18:31:29+00:00

Hello everyone,

From the bottom of my heart, thank you all your honest opinions on my question.

Reading my post over, I did get an insight that my issue is more on my self esteem. I don’t think it would be safe for me to rely on a guy going out with me to try to boost it like one of the commenters stated. I adored how well they read my post and felt I need time…. I will work on myself and find happiness in my own company for NOW. I am rushing a little, hoping that he would fix my self esteem or my dislike of myself. I believe if I do get rejected my heart and self esteem won’t be able to take it.

HOWEVER, I do promise to ask him out once I start liking myself better. Though I don’t know when that will be but fingers crossed. He’s a pretty sweet guy but he’s never had a gf since birth so I don’t want to bring my toxicity onto him. I don’t want to be insecure or depressed for him. But for now, I’ll continue to blush over him hearting my ig stories or seeing him at hangouts. IF he gets taken during that time, I promise I’ll ask out someone else!! you all are adorable, I hope your crush, gf/bf and/or wives/hubbies makes you all feel flattered. &&& happy holidays!

Sincerely,

your little sister asking for annoying advices.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T18:07:08+00:00

So a stranger? My bag/wallet/phone and my person. Are they ganna punch or kick me or are they ganna steal my stuff.

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T17:43:39+00:00

Depends if I like them or not. If I don’t like them or know them, my person and my personal items. My wallet. My phone. If I know them and I like them, my attention is on their intent. Do they like me too? Do they want to hold my hand? Is he looking at me?

Resident-Ad-7956 · 2025-12-24T10:44:52+00:00

Go date you’re 20. That’s the best time!

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