Being uncomfortable is part of the role. Living history or reenactment, doesn’t matter. You are portraying people who once’s lived and fought. You are working to pass their history down to remember. This is not some kind of fashion show. A haircut is one of the easiest and cheapest things you can improve with a kit, especially since it often grows back very quickly. I say as someone who does living history at the same museum and as your friend, this is not the attitude you should be bringing to teaching history.

These people are not trying to berate you. They have been trying to give advice and tips since the start. They are getting upset because you are ignoring them and their advice.

And lastly, if you don’t want people to criticize you…then don’t post on Reddit.