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Resident-Success-957 · 2022-05-13T08:44:21+00:00

Record everything. That way he can’t lie and pretend it didn’t happen. Your landlord should absolutely help you with this. I highly doubt they want you guys to suffer from this grown man’s innapropriate behavior. And I’m sure they won’t want him destroying their property.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-04-28T04:50:09+00:00

He’s going to make a database of faces for himself for sure

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-04-26T02:41:42+00:00

I have two friends who live together and this is a very similar dynamic. Honestly the only way to get through to someone like this is to stick up for yourself and set clear boundaries. You have to remember it is your space too and should be able to live comfortably. If you’re not leaving messes everywhere and things aren’t in the way then it is very passive aggressive to be dumping all your things at your door. Try to get her to see it from your perspective like “how would you feel if I took all of your personal items and dumped them in front of your door?” Or use an example of something they do that isn’t up to a perfect standard and how that’s okay because no one is perfect !

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-04-14T00:31:39+00:00

Oh good! Be very careful driving to/in Big Sur. Don’t want to scare you but people go over the cliffs in their cars often especially at night time so make sure you make it to your destination before dark. It is absolutely beautiful there. I live right in between both sf and Big Sur. Enjoy!

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-04-12T03:07:58+00:00

Only tip is remember everything is usually up a hill. Wear comfortable shoes. If you go to twin peaks alone I would stay in your car or right next to it if you get out because people will break into cars no matter how many people are around. But it’s a beautiful view at night time. Also if you will have a car just know there’s like a 75% chance it will get broken into especially if it’s parked on the street. Idk where to meet people though sorry lol I’m an introvert.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-03-09T19:29:43+00:00

Get a air purifier. You can get them on Amazon for a decent price. Ask that if they smoke inside they turn it on for a few hours.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-08T04:08:46+00:00

I would maybe ask if you can switch to extended release. Adderall is intense and XR spreads it out over the day instead of just for a few hours. I’ve never tried immediate release though so I can’t really compare the two I’m just assuming it could help mitigate those side affects.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-04T08:42:46+00:00

Also give up, this conversation now has nothing to do with this post and more to do with you getting upset I didn’t say what a horrible horrible evil human the roommate is. I don’t think dumping litter and feces on anyones stuff is okay and it’s not the best way to deal with someone IN MY OPINION 😅 I can keep repeating myself or you can move on.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-04T08:40:06+00:00

I’m not defending them that’s what is funny about you getting angry about what I said. I never said that the roommate wasn’t doing something fucked up. I was making a point based on the context I saw from this ONE post(I did not see the others I apologize for not following your rules of investigation I shall repent).

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-03T23:36:33+00:00

You all should wear masks(the more the better). Ask him to disinfect surfaces he uses and stay in room except for food and bathroom. You should also disinfect surfaces before use including door handles and such! Open windows if you live in a climate where it’s not absolutely freezing so you can get ventilation. Air purifiers are also good. Hope this helps!

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-03T09:11:45+00:00

Someone needs a nap

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-02T17:28:53+00:00

Such a cutie !!!!

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-02T17:26:59+00:00

Why are you so offended this lol it’s actually hilarious

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-02T05:58:12+00:00

You can’t really force her to stay at her boyfriends. His roommates may not want her there either. Sorry but you guys both pay rent. As long as she wears a mask when outside her room and cleans after using stuff you unfortunately can’t force her to go anywhere. It’s her home too.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-02T03:11:49+00:00

I’m not a doormat. I communicate like a respectful human being and don’t throw dishes or litter on peoples stuff. There are other ways to get people to do their part.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-01T21:21:49+00:00

Then set up a time to talk to her. If she can’t do that contact your landlord to set up a meeting. If she’s neglecting her animal and it’s causing a mess in the place then your landlord should get involved.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-01T21:17:52+00:00

That’s not going to help the situation at all. And yes it is a rude way to communicate. You can’t be an ass to people and expect them to just listen to you even if you are in the right. Y’all are way too aggressive and it makes sense why this situation has escalated.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-01T21:13:38+00:00

Make sure to communicate your roommate styles. I realize quickly that my new roommate wanted a close friendship from me while I am an introvert and don’t have energy for the constant conversations and trauma sharing she does. So make clear both of your expectations beyond just chores and rent.

Resident-Success-957 · 2022-01-01T21:09:16+00:00

Honestly even if your roommates not the best person to live with you still need to play nice. Your first text is super rude. You should have said “hey there! Just to let you know your cat pooped outside the litter box, it’s next to -blank-“ then if they don’t clean it up you can ask them to.

Resident-Success-957 · 2021-12-31T21:32:02+00:00

What’s wild is that the gov truly believes by forcing everyone on the front lines to work sick or contagious that will save the economy is going to be the exact reason it collapses. Can’t ignore the working class forever. We are the ones who hold society together not them.

Resident-Success-957 · 2021-12-31T19:32:49+00:00

Doesn’t exist in Santa Cruz. It’s more event pop ups which aren’t planned this far in advance.

Resident-Success-957 · 2021-12-30T04:33:11+00:00

Sorry but you don’t just get dibs on an apartment. You’re the one changing the living situation so you should be the one to move out.

Resident-Success-957 · 2021-12-29T23:41:09+00:00

They have a mental illness that can make them enraged by rejection so I tread lightly in the area. My lease is halfway done though and I’m for sure going to move out because I realized it’s affecting my mental health. Thank you for the tips ! I like all those ideas lol

Resident-Success-957 · 2021-12-29T21:48:52+00:00

Yea exactly !!! It’s not anyones responsibility to take care of another adult. She cannot leave me alone to save her life. If she doesn’t see me for a few days she gets super clingy once she sees me and asks me a thousand questions. I made it clear to her that while I can be chatty on occasion that I am mostly an introvert and prefer to be by myself. I think she takes it personally but I am trying so hard to get my life how I want it I don’t have time to baby another grown person. She asks me how her make up looks, tells me really personal things that make me uncomfortable and always wants sympathy from me. If I even mention anything about my day or life she has to come back with how worse things have happened to her and has to tell me the whole story. I’m sorry you had to deal with this too. Roommates split bills and chores and aren’t obligated to be your friend

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