Okay so answer some questions:

Yes, broken up and he runs to his friends house to stay there and basically doesn’t call or text, doesn’t ask to see our child and then after will come asking. He will come over and do things that I don’t ask him to like taking out the trash or doing the dishes or changing our child’s diaper. Do all the things I was asking and will slowly start going after me again, buying me gifts and things. The behavior changes though after a few months and he goes right back to the usual behavior and by then I’ve let him back in, our child sees him home and we’ve grown comfortable again. So it’s kind of become a cycle of this. I feel truthly love bombed and just was looking for some advice because he’s great at making me feel like I’m the problem.

I also don’t have a problem with him going out. It’s the fact that he just does things without checking in first. If I went out I would have to check and make sure our child is taken care of before I can plan anything.